2y ago TheRedPill
Thanks a lot for your in-depth reply.
I do not think that I don't understand female nature and I'm willing to accept this. I'm more interested in learning and healing myself of this inner trauma I'm carrying with me.
I'm getting too quickly triggered and assume that other dudes want to hit on her too fast.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Curious to hear your insight about this mindset work.
Thanks in advance and you're giving some valuable tips!
As I said previously, "only time and experience can help you overcome" the feelings of pain, loss, and general disappointment you'll experience in life. Between those passing experiences the bulk of your time will be occupied with doing the more mundane things in life, such as praying, working, cleaning your home, commuting, and so on. Pursue hobbies that challenge and stimulate your mind. Learn to draw, paint, or sculpt. Learn to play a musical instrument. Learn a martial art. Learn the history of your civilization. Learn to cook. Learn to repair machines. Get in good shape and stay there. And above all, never fear asking questions in pursuit of the truth.
We live on a world populated by nearly eight billion human beings. It's understandable you should be disappointed that a woman you're dating isn't as interested in you as you would like her to be, but that's how some people are. You can't change them, only yourself, and if you should change yourself at all, it should be for the better. I imagine what I've written might seem glib on specifics, but that's because from what you've written, you strike me as being aware of your gut instincts on things. They seem to be doing you well, so don't second guess them. I've never known that to end well for most guys. If anything, you should train and refine them.
To that end, I once again recommend you consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, but find money is an issue for you, you should be able to find copies through free torrent and ebook sites, but I won't say where you should start on that endeavor.
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Read More2y ago TheRedPill
@carnold03 Thanks a lot for your in-depth reply.
I do not think that I don't understand female nature and I'm willing to accept this. I'm more interested in learning and healing myself of this inner trauma I'm carrying with me.
I'm getting too quickly triggered and assume that other dudes want to hit on her too fast.
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
Curious to hear your insight about this mindset work.
Thanks in advance and you're giving some valuable tips!
2y ago TheRedPill
I was kinda shocked yesterday.
A girl I'm dating saw a ‘guy friend’ the dude walked up and hugged her intensely and lifted her up. I know him too but I felt he ignored me a little. ( they are Portuguese im Dutch )
I felt awkward and didn't know what to do.
I've told her a couple of weeks ago how it's impossible for guys to have friends who are girls and not wanting to f$k.
Now there is one other thing...
I feel every time that this happens it triggers me a lot because of a underlying trauma, that I still need to solve..
The best friend of my dad left with my mom and my dad became lonely, depressed and eventually passed..
I'm not sure what to do or how to solve this.
I would love your advice guys
Because I don't want to get triggered this much and feel off for a couple of days
Thank you
It reads like given how your mother monkey branched to one of your fathers friends, you know how disposable a man can be to a woman firsthand. Whatever feelings you have over that I couldn't help you with. Pray for your late fathers soul and that you have a better outcome in your own life than him. Beyond that, only time and experience can help you overcome the loss of your late father and how he dealt with the failure of his marriage.
In future, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, but find money is an issue for you, you should be able to find copies through free torrent and ebook sites, but I won't say where you should start on that endeavor.
You've got good gut instincts. You've discovered that your "girlfriend", despite likely being average looking, has male orbiters and you're uncomfortable with that. @-Zavss_ offers simple sound advice, in that you shouldn't take your relationship with her seriously. For a mercenary female, a friend today can be a lover tomorrow, and that signs of potential disloyalty from a female hints at the lack of importance the relationship has to her. Better to find things like this out when you're only dating than after several years of marriage with children.
Read More2y ago TheRedPill
I was kinda shocked yesterday.
A girl I'm dating saw a ‘guy friend’ the dude walked up and hugged her intensely and lifted her up. I know him too but I felt he ignored me a little. ( they are Portuguese im Dutch )
I felt awkward and didn't know what to do.
I've told her a couple of weeks ago how it's impossible for guys to have friends who are girls and not wanting to f$k.
Now there is one other thing...
I feel every time that this happens it triggers me a lot because of a underlying trauma, that I still need to solve..
The best friend of my dad left with my mom and my dad became lonely, depressed and eventually passed..
I'm not sure what to do or how to solve this.
I would love your advice guys
Because I don't want to get triggered this much and feel off for a couple of days
Thank you
Read More2y ago TheRedPill
Good friend try’s to down play me with sarcastic jokes and going against my opinion. It becomes more and more...
In particular when we are surrounded by others.
I know I’m more alpha by staying in my frame and not showing any attention or agreeing and amplifying. But what if he keeps doing this? It starts to annoy me and I feel that soon I’ll have to tell him that I don’t need that BS.
Do you guys feel that’s the right approach? I know it’s beta from me that it bothers me that much but I like to tackle this in a smooth way.
Any advice is more than welcome!
Thanks in advance
There's over 7.8+ billion people on Earth. If you don't believe your "good friend" is as good as you thought they were, maybe you should just go out and make new friends.
2y ago TheRedPill
Good friend try’s to down play me with sarcastic jokes and going against my opinion. It becomes more and more...
In particular when we are surrounded by others.
I know I’m more alpha by staying in my frame and not showing any attention or agreeing and amplifying. But what if he keeps doing this? It starts to annoy me and I feel that soon I’ll have to tell him that I don’t need that BS.
Do you guys feel that’s the right approach? I know it’s beta from me that it bothers me that much but I like to tackle this in a smooth way.
Any advice is more than welcome!
Thanks in advance
Good friend try’s to down play me with sarcastic jokes and going against my opinion.
In particular when we are surrounded by others.
I know I’m more alpha by staying in my frame and not showing any attention or agreeing and amplifying. But what if he keeps doing this? It starts to annoy me and I feel that soon I’ll have to tell him that I don’t need that BS.
Do you guys feel that’s the right approach? I know it’s beta from me that it bothers me that much but I like to tackle this in a smooth way.
Any advice is more than welcome!
Thanks in advance