3y ago TheRedPill
My take on TRP as a woman; an essay.
-Although I disagree with certain aspects of the Red Pill for reasons I'll get into, I think there's merit to it. Women have been good at setting up communities for ourselves (we're pretty good at it!) so it's good that men also have communities for themselves too.
-There really is a difference in the sexes or we wouldn't be different in the first place, and equality isn't making everyone the same but recognising one person's difference doesn't make them more or less than another. Where feminine-leaning politics has led more in the way of bulldozing of all things inherent, natural, and "true," the masculine response is MGTOW and Red Pill, which is the antithesis to that, recognising the inherent basis to things to a fault, where things are black and white and there is no nuance.
-However the Red Pill at least seeks to keep men recognising their empowerment and self-esteem, which maybe besides the army and sports, which although are big, we haven't seen any infrastructures that help in men becoming men, in their lives, and communities. We have shamed men for their masculinity and brow-beaten so that instead of feeling merit for the power they bring to the table, in this post-feminism world, they have merit instead for how much they can ingratiate themselves for each female whim. But here's the catch- we don't find it sexy either.
-In my view, the modern woman is an independent-to-a-fault cat, that yearns for affection and attention but will hiss at you and scratch you for trying to pet it. This culture that we're seeing in the media, that tries to pander to all the hysteric, hissing, wounded women who scream the loudest doesn't represent the deepest wants and needs of most women. Women, really REALLY want to love a man, and be loved by a man, but we suffer from this masculinity-is-bad western world too, because we don't know HOW to let a man show us his love! And men don't know how to show it either, because we shun them for their maleness!
-We want men. We need men. There is a whole generation of women who hurt from not having that manness we need in our lives and communities. I grew up with a brow-beaten dad, who didn't have a male figure himself, who showed him that men deserve love and affection too. My dad always tried his best but didn't know how to interact with his children, because his dad didn't teach him how he's a strong man in his own right. He felt alone and was deeply hurt emotionally, and would try to reach out to me in desperate ways, but I was afraid of him and didn't trust him, so I wouldn't trust him to help me or be there for me and I did everything for myself, all my life. This made him feel more alone, because I could not accept his love, and made him feel more low in self-esteem.
-This new culture is making babies out of men, and overbearing mothers out of women. This is horrible! Men WANT to help and we tell them not to! Nothing feels worse to a man than to feel soft, mushy, and without drive. And nothing feels more exhausting and anxiety-inducing, than for a woman to have to not only deal with the layered reality of her life, but have to do ALL the work by herself too. This is why mental illness rates are so high in women across the Western board.
-The RedPill, to a woman, is very scary. Because if men are the driving forces and sturdy infrastructures of the world we live in, and they see us as disposable, having no inherent value as people, and unable to see the beauty that femininity has to offer to them, their hearts, and their families, it is a train fast-tracked for destruction of womankind. A train where men are overarching, cold, emotionless freight trains while women are blades of grass that grow through the tracks. A world where men have closed off their hearts to what women have to offer is a tyrannical world where women will cease to exist. And so will men.
-The reverse has already been set in motion to men. Where women have closed off their hearts to men, and the value men have to offer. And where men have nothing to offer to a women, it hurts them gravely and deeply. However, because the effects of this are on an emotional basis, we don't see its immediate effects as much. But if it's in the REVERSE, where the one stomping on the other has physical POWER on their side, that's really terrifying!
-Men, I know you need women too. We can bring the softness and kindness into your lives that you deserve. We'll be the warmth, love, and community behind your leadership and drive. We want to believe and trust in your direction, and when we do, and see you have only the truest most well-meaning intentions behind your actions, we'll be with you every step of the way, forever.
-Women need men! night cannot exist without day, death is not without life, and man is not man without women. One is not less than the other; each exist by the suggestion of the other. I know it may seem like we're always saying men are the ones in the wrong; You seem to get the brunt of all our criticisms, but it's because you are the true leaders of our communities. You're the wheels and direction of our car, without you we are stagnant and becoming fat with boredom and directionlesness. You set the rules, the walls and rooves of our houses, and women will decorate and warm the insides for us all to live in. (you've all seen what a single man's house looks like, a single blow-up mattress on the floor, a chair in front of a computer, a 3-in-one body wash and hot dogs with ketchup for dinner.)
-Please consider the real feelings of a woman. A woman may tell you what she thinks, but those aren't her feelings. Don't let plainly what a woman decides to be a reflection of you and your masculinity. We need you, men, to stay strong in your power and serve the truest desires and intentions for all of us, with our well-beings in mind.
-Men who use women, treat them as hamsters, as plates, and without dignity, is not who you really are. Women who hiss at men, talk dirty like they are disposable and act indignant like we don't need men, is not who we really are either. We need strong, noble men who mean for the higher good for our societies, to raise the leaders of tomorrow, build the plains for the world we live in, and bring the safety to our lives.
-A man true in his frame, with good intention, can never do wrong. We love you deeply for it. Without it, we're lost and we're hurting.
Thank you for reading, tell me what you think! I enjoyed writing this, I felt like it just flowed out of me, and it felt really true to who I am. while I was writing it it made me realise what I really want from a partner.
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