1y ago  The Beer Hall

@MentORPHEUS trusting and letting go I mean tonight

1y ago  The Beer Hall

@MentORPHEUS thanks for your comment! I'm going to trust her and let her go. She accepted my boundary telling her that I want her to go in her car. Should I bring this topic up again tomorrow or just look at her and see if she changed her body language when she comes back?

I don't want to look needy because we all know how unattractive that is

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1y ago  The Beer Hall

@Eurm I'm gonna throw out that there exists a whole world of grownups who can mingle socially with people they may have once dated where it really has gotten like it never happened or mattered. Therefore, trust but verify. Some girls volunteer this information out of honesty and loyalty while Some are (rather crudely) probing for your interest level and others are maliciously testing your boundaries.

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1y ago  The Beer Hall

@Eurm This may or may not be the truth. sounds fishy to me.

1y ago  The Beer Hall

Btw she told me honestly she didn't know about her ex and it was last minute

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1y ago  The Beer Hall

I decided to stay at home tonight and let my GF meet her friends alone.

Now, last minute she tells me that her ex comes and even wants to drive in the same car. I told her that Its not cool driving in the same car and she can go by herself alone.

Although I still feel strange about this whole scenario. This is the first time she will see her ex after a long time and I'm not there.

What should I do?

Asking for advice

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1y ago  The Hub

@Eurm

Throughout the week I'm away a lot because I surf and work not from home.

But what I'm hearing from you is that it is needed to take more “me” time and let her miss me.

It's really difficult for me to go from being single having only “me” time to a relationship and finding that balance again of me & her.

I know that I am always the priority but I do like spending time with her.

I have been thinking of just talking openly about having 1 night with our friends only each month. Or do you think it's too lame and I let her be to free?

I love your recommendations!

You spent two weeks in Morocco with this gal and she didn't scramble back to the airport for tickets back early. This is excellent. I've no doubt whatsoever that you both enjoyed spending time with each other.

Thing is, two continuous weeks with a gal is the sort of intense time you spend with a woman you're considering to take as a wife. Unless you two have been together a year or longer, and she's asking questions regarding the future of the relationship, she may come out of this experience thinking awesome as it was to see a little bit of Morocco with you, the relationship maybe moving too fast. That last point is not a thought you want her considering and clearly has you concerned.

Now ask yourself, have you ever heard of a gal complaining a relationship is moving slowly? I don't mean too slow, but just slowly, because I haven't. I can't tell you how fast, or slow to take things. Different strokes for different folks and all. Don't stop observing your girl, but don't let it push you to make wild assumptions. Let her take a week or two to mull over her experiences from Morocco. While she's doing that, explore hobbies that appeal to you during your idle time and then when you're ready give her a ring and make plans for the next date.

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1y ago  The Hub

@carnold03 Throughout the week I'm away a lot because I surf and work not from home.

But what I'm hearing from you is that it is needed to take more “me” time and let her miss me.

It's really difficult for me to go from being single having only “me” time to a relationship and finding that balance again of me & her.

I know that I am always the priority but I do like spending time with her.

I have been thinking of just talking openly about having 1 night with our friends only each month. Or do you think it's too lame and I let her be to free?

I love your recommendations!

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1y ago  The Hub

@Eurm

Thank you, brother.

Do you think it's too late or is there any hope in giving her less attention?

Anything can happen, but I don't want to give you false hope. That RP-awareness has given you confidence in your instincts is a good sign in my mind. Those instincts are leading you right.

While you're giving the GF her space and time, consider occupying your idle time with some hobbies. Look for things that are challenging for you, that stimulate your mind and occupy your body. As you like to travel, you should get a motorcycle or private pilots license. If you don't have a standard drivers license, start there first. That should occupy a good portion of your idle time.

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1y ago  The Hub

@carnold03 Thank you, brother.

Do you think it's too late or is there any hope in giving her less attention?

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