As the saga continues:

My LTR and I have been chatting with this hot southern girl. It's very obvious that sex is on the table. She was sending us porn of things she wants to try.

Later that night my girl was in her office Tutoring a highschool kid online.

Now, as an autopilot kicks in I realize that I need to give this new girl some solo time to chat with me.

I start off with a direct message.

"I just wanted to say that I haven't seen my girl this excited about someone in a very long time. That awesome and no small feat on your part! I'm impressed!"

I issued a compliment and approval.

She responded that she hasn't ever been this excited about a woman and I was pretty cool too.

And we're off! The interest is there because she lumped me in without prompting.

We talked about women and how two women struggle to who's going to pursue the other or escalate.

She stated that a couple was a completely different dynamic for her. This, gentlemen is an opening: when a woman doesn't have experience with something, you get an opportunity to mold that experience for her and take a leadership role.

So I planted a seed of thought in her head. "It sounds like this is a good time in your life to experience this sort of dynamic". This gives tingles and excitement. She's going to have a new adventure. Of course, she agreed.

I learned that she got ghosted by a guy she liked, so I took the chance to talk her up a bit. Women like to feel wanted. And having a couple both want her is good for her ego.

I warned her that I'm outgoing and go after what I want. I'm a bit handsy. This goes over well.

I created a bit of a bond by giving her a benign secret to keep.

"Between you and I, my girls exes weren't handsome or charming right to deserve such a gift".

This little exclusive and stupid tidbit creates a sense that I'm trusting her with something.

I ended off that I find her attractive from the pics I've seen and her personality so far.

I told her that I look forward to seeing those pretty blue eyes in person. And to be prepared to get a lot of attention from two sexy people. Once again planting a seed.

These are all small things that get a woman hooked and looking forward to spending time with you.

This was all autopilot for me but can be broken down into small steps that can be utilized for building a connection.

I'm going to chime in to my own post. My not count is ridiculously high and continues to grow. I think it started out of trauma from marrying a BPD woman.

I was free and looking for an escape so sex was a very nice way to spend my time. The notch count kept growing until I just stopped counting.

My only social life and friendships were with women I was fucking.

This didn't seem to chip away at my soul or break me. It just made me confident. Really really confident! I got to see all sorts of women. Rich, poor, young, older, married and single etc.

But the one thing it did steer me away from is normal relationships.

I'm in a 7 year LTR. We spend a lot of time together just as a couple and occasionally, we will invite another girl in or go to a party. The difference is that we are doing it together.

I think high notch count for me led me to know exactly the type of partner I want and how I want to live my life.