You are not your thoughts. You are your actions. - Caveman Circus

Self critical thoughts. Guilty thoughts. Thoughts about what I should have done. Fearful thoughts about what others think.

How dark are the thoughts that follow you around each day? Mine get pretty dark.

This is haunting if we let ourselves identify with them. We listen to the fears of inadequacy just because they won’t shut up. We believe we really are failures because it’s all we can think about – no matter how much self improvement we read. If it was possible for us to be fixed then why do we still feel so broken?

Stop. We are not our thoughts. I need you to see the bigger picture of who you are – not thoughts but actions. I bet you take great care of your pets even when you feel horrible. I bet you have tried self care like yoga and meditation and journaling so you can feel better. I bet you try to help out your friends and family in little ways. Your actions paint a different picture of you than your thoughts. I can’t stop you from judging yourself, but I can ask you to at least consider all the evidence.

I know you feel a lot of pain. I know the thoughts are dark and you wish they would stop. But don’t you dare believe that those thoughts define who you are. You never chose those thoughts. You didn’t ask to feel the pain and negativity. The real you is the one who decided what actions you wanted to take. Do not base your identity and self image on thoughts you don’t even want in your head. Look at the actions you take. Look at the work you put in, especially on the days when you don’t feel like it. That’s who you are.

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20 Excuses Stopping You From Ever Achieving Your Goals And Becoming Disciplined - Caveman Circus

Let’s be honest:

How many goals have you stopped yourself from achieving?

You know what you need to do.

But you have an excuse, or maybe a few, that hold you back.

Well, it’s time to destroy those excuses.

So find your excuse, and learn why it’s a bunch of crap so you can get on with being the awesome person you are meant to be:

1) You aren’t smart enough.

Richard Branson, John Rockefeller and Henry Ford were high school dropouts.

You don’t need smarts to succeed:

You need discipline.

The reason productive people succeed isn’t because they already know how it’s because they execute.

I performed badly at school, and I’m no Branson, but I still achieve my goals because I do the work (and don’t beat myself up for that C in Spanish.)

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Would you like YOU if you met YOU? - Caveman Circus

Ask yourself this every morning, every now and then. We know you love yourself and that is very healthy. We all know you believe in the “nobody’s perfect” speech so I cannot be it all. But the question to you today is, if you met someone exactly like you;

Someone who has no positive goals;

Someone who is only willing to do to their ‘limit’, but not push the bar to realize their true potential (which is only limited to their own desire BTW);

Someone who procrastinates all the time;

Someone who makes excuses only so they break their new habit streak/routine like working out, watching diet, rehabbing, meditating, applying new studying routines;

Someone who is ready to say ‘sorry’ instead of avoiding what would make them say ‘sorry’;

Someone who has no discipline and shout ‘NO’ to cravings, addictions, drawbacks, PMO, unnecessary spending, binge eating and drinking, stress eating, gaming forever, surfing the internet and YouTube-ing endlessly;

Someone who lacks respect for time;

If you met this YOU, would you like YOU, as your...

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6 Reasons Why Women Always See You As Just a Friend

Let’s set the record straight.

If women always tell you, “You’re a great guy but I don’t feel that spark…”

It’s because they don’t feel a sexual connection with you. And that’s most likely because you haven’t taken the right actions to facilitate that attraction.

You may be sweet and have engaging conversations. You make women laugh. You wait patiently until a girl’s comfortable with you.

That all builds rapport, trust, and comfort within a connection. But that’s rarely enough to have women desire intimacy with you.

I know this as true even without hearing your story. Easily 9 out of 10 times I’ll be right. People try to argue it’s not that cut and dry…but it is.

Some men stay in denial. They keep trying to “friend” their way into romance and never flirt, often due to the advice of their female friends.

Those guys struggle endlessly to build romantic connections.

Some women say I’m generalizing. They think that I’m ignoring individuality and preferences. They may even take it as a sexist remark.

I fully recognize and respect your uniqueness. I want other men to appreciate that, too.

But I also recognize patterns. So while maybe all you need is a kind guy who listens well for you to like him — you are in the minority.

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Powerlessness is not Helplessness | IntegrityRestored.com

John came into treatment for pornography addiction feeling very discouraged. He had struggled with it for years. Because of the deep shame he felt, John tried to kick the addiction on his own but with no luck. He was feeling completely helpless. In order for John to succeed in recovery, he needed to switch from feeling helpless to feeling powerless. While these words may seem synonymous, they are completely different.

When a person feels helpless, he has little hope for a better future. He feels as if he’s stuck in his current situation forever. There is no help out there for him. It’s not hard to see how someone in this mindset could easily give up. This is where John was. He didn’t believe he could overcome his addiction. He even began to believe he would never be able to live without porn.

A person who feels powerless can have great hope for the future. This is because, while he realizes he doesn’t have the tools to fight this battle on his own, there are others who can help him win the battle. He is aware that there are many valuable resources available to him, and he uses them. Addiction can be viewed as an army that the addict must defeat. However, as a lone soldier, he cannot defeat that army on his own. He is powerless. However, when he brings in his own army (therapist, support group, sponsor, etc.), he has the power to defeat that army. He is not helpless.

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Life Isn't Supposed To Be Easy - Caveman Circus

Understand that life isn’t supposed to be easy...and it would be boring if it were. There’s a quote painted on the wall of my gym “nothing worth achieving was ever achieved without effort.” I used to roll my eyes, but now I realize how incredibly accurate it is.

Imaging yourself having infinite wealth... once you’ve got the holidaying, partying, debauchery and materialistic spending sprees out of your system...unless you’ve cultivated some form of passion or cause you can devote yourself to, imagine how fucking unfulfilling and apathetic that lifestyle would be. Everything would lose its value, including relationships, and you’d struggle to find the motivation to do almost anything.

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Focus On Learning and Creating Rather Than Entertainment and Distraction | by Anthony Moore | Mission.org | Medium

Most people are distracted right now.

They’re distracted while they’re at work. They’re distracted when they’re with family and friends.

They’re distracted at the gym, on their commute, and even in the shower.

The mediocre majority will continue going through life this way, never experiencing the fullness of a life filled with deep focus and purpose.

Most people don’t prioritize learning and creating. They don’t care enough to invest in their personal development and growth.

Entertainment is more important. Most people have replaced achieving their life dreams and goals with TV, partying, and social media.

Their life is characterized by entertainment and distraction, not learning and creating.

As a result, they don’t have close relationships. They’re stuck in jobs they hate. Their life is on the fast-track to disappointment, and they don’t know what to do.

Entertainment and distraction is the enemy of creation and learning. They will keep you in mediocrity.

If you don’t want to end up living a life of mediocrity, focus on learning and education. It’s the fastest way to become extraordinary, wealthy, and successful.

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If You Want To Make Progress, You Need To Stop Avoiding The Unpleasant Moments - Caveman Circus

Somewhere along the line, we seem to have gained this idea that we need to enjoy every single second of our lives—that for some reason, we are no longer okay with putting in a few minutes of effort to get something great out of it. We’ve stopped putting work into anything that we don’t enjoy at that moment.

Get rid of that mindset. It’s holding you back more than pretty much anything else in your life. Getting things done is going to mean putting in effort. I know you don’t want to, and I do not care. The world does not care. The world isn’t going to coddle your ass because you just want to sit there on the internet.

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Iron And The Soul - Caveman Circus

I believe that the definition of definition is reinvention. To not be like your parents. To not be like your friends. To be yourself.

Completely.

When I was young I had no sense of myself. All I was, was a product of all the fear and humiliation I suffered. Fear of my parents. The humiliation of teachers calling me “garbage can” and telling me I’d be mowing lawns for a living. And the very real terror of my fellow students. I was threatened and beaten up for the color of my skin and my size. I was skinny and clumsy, and when others would tease me I didn’t run home crying, wondering why.

I knew all too well. I was there to be antagonized. In sports I was laughed at. A spaz. I was pretty good at boxing but only because the rage that filled my every waking moment made me wild and unpredictable. I fought with some strange fury. The other boys thought I was crazy.

I hated myself all the time.

As stupid at it seems now, I wanted to talk like them, dress like them, carry myself with the ease of knowing that I wasn’t going to get pounded in the hallway between classes. Years passed and I learned to keep it all inside. I only talked to a few boys in my grade. Other losers. Some of them are to this day the greatest people I have ever known. Hang out with a guy who has had his head flushed down a toilet a few times, treat him with respect, and you’ll find a faithful friend forever. But even with friends, school sucked. Teachers gave me hard time. I didn’t think much of them either.

Then came Mr. Pepperman, my advisor. He was a powerfully built Vietnam veteran, and he was scary. No one ever talked out of turn in his class. Once one kid did and Mr. P. lifted him off the ground and pinned him to the blackboard. Mr. P. could see that I was in bad shape, and one Friday in October he asked me if I had ever worked out with weights...

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