2y ago  NoFap

Start Small - Caveman Circus

I’ve noticed on the internet that people literally want to change their lives overnight. That’s not the way things work.

It’s like being able to bench 100lbs and expecting to bench 1000lbs the next day. It takes time.

Don’t have an all or nothing mentality.

A few years ago I started meditating. I told myself, “I’m going to meditate 30 minutes a day!”

For the next six months I’d only hit my goal maybe 5 times a month, and I’d keep beating myself up.

And then I decided to start small.

Article continues here: cavemancircus.com/2021/07/29/start-small/

#2021 #CavemanCircus #WriterUnknown #Improvement #Challenge #Strength #Fear #Cowardice #Courage #Discomfort #Ease

2y ago  NoFap

Make It Stupid Easy, But Do It Every Day - Caveman Circus

After a decade of setting goals every year and never achieving them, here’s what finally clicked:

High performers are successful as a result of consistent action, not intense effort.

This single realization led me to a framework for building habits that has changed my life.

Working from home last year made me realize that at 27, I had no good habits and zero self-discipline.

I was going to bed after 3am and sleeping past noon.

I wasn’t working out consistently.

I was browsing Reddit and watching Netflix for up to 10 hours a day.

I wasn’t doing any of the work needed to build my business…

I hated myself. The more promises I broke, the more worthless I felt, and the louder the voice in my head became:

Why can’t I fix this?

Why am I so weak?

This is how my dreams die.

My life was a train wreck in slow motion. I even contemplated suicide.

Back in November, disgusted with myself, scared, and desperate, I remembered something I’d seen on Reddit. Someone asked Terry Crews how to start going to the gym when you hate it.

At the time, his answer didn’t make any sense to me.

“Treat it like a spa. Go there but don’t make yourself work out unless you feel like it. If you don’t want to work out, just sit there for 30 minutes. But go every day.”

For some reason, on a dark day for me a few months ago, it finally clicked.

High performers are successful as a result of consistent action, not intense effort.

Article continues here: cavemancircus.com/2022/01/17/discipline/

#2022 #CavemanCircus #AndrewRanzinger #Article #Improvement #Challenge #Fear #Failure #Strength #Discomfort #Ease #Discipline #Consistency

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2y ago  NoFap

Powerlessness is not Helplessness | IntegrityRestored.com

John came into treatment for pornography addiction feeling very discouraged. He had struggled with it for years. Because of the deep shame he felt, John tried to kick the addiction on his own but with no luck. He was feeling completely helpless. In order for John to succeed in recovery, he needed to switch from feeling helpless to feeling powerless. While these words may seem synonymous, they are completely different.

When a person feels helpless, he has little hope for a better future. He feels as if he’s stuck in his current situation forever. There is no help out there for him. It’s not hard to see how someone in this mindset could easily give up. This is where John was. He didn’t believe he could overcome his addiction. He even began to believe he would never be able to live without porn.

A person who feels powerless can have great hope for the future. This is because, while he realizes he doesn’t have the tools to fight this battle on his own, there are others who can help him win the battle. He is aware that there are many valuable resources available to him, and he uses them. Addiction can be viewed as an army that the addict must defeat. However, as a lone soldier, he cannot defeat that army on his own. He is powerless. However, when he brings in his own army (therapist, support group, sponsor, etc.), he has the power to defeat that army. He is not helpless.

Article continues here: integrityrestored.com/powerlessness-is-not-helplessness/

#2022 #IntegrityRestored #PeterKleponis #PornFree #NoFap #Addiction #Counseling

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2y ago  NoFap

50 Good Reasons to Stop Watching Porn Forever

Many people don’t realize how much porn is affecting them until they quit watching it. Here are 50 good reasons to ditch it today.

With the easy access to an unlimited, ever-increasing supply of porn these days, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that porn is having an effect on peoples’ lives.

In fact, there is an ever-growing body of research showing that porn can have profoundly negative, long-term effects on people’s lives, relationships, and our society as a whole.

Many people don’t even realize that porn is having an effect on them until they quit. So if you’re curious about how porn might be affecting your life, or if you’re looking for the motivation you need to kick the habit, here are 50 good reasons to quit porn for good starting today.

What do you have to lose?

Article continues here: fightthenewdrug.org/40-reasons-you-should-quit-watching-porn-today/

#2022 #FighttheNewDrug #UnknownWriter #PornFree #NoFap #Addiction #List

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2y ago  NoFap

#NoNutNovember is done. Whether you were successful in achieving your goal last month or not, you gained experience and learned things about yourself during that you might not have otherwise. Hopefully you wrote it down for later reflection so you can build on that knowledge. It would suck if you let yourself forget.

By the way, No Fap February is a few weeks out. Who's interested?

2y ago  NoFap

Another #NoNutNovember is over and done. Congratulations to everyone who participated. Check out my comment here to know how I did.

2y ago  NoFap

Fourth week. No porn or masturbation. I've used the time to learn more about "Learnuary". It seems goofy, but I've got the time to give it a dabble. How are you guys doing?

2y ago  NoFap

Another week down, no porn, and no masturbation. Keep it up guys.

2y ago  NoFap

Triple-exthnics: Nathan Abrams on Jews in the American porn industry - Jewish Quarterly

A story little told is that of Jews in Hollywood’s seedier cousin, the adult film industry. Perhaps we’d prefer to pretend that the ‘triple-exthnics’ didn’t exist, but there’s no getting away from the fact that secular Jews have played (and still continue to play) a disproportionate role throughout the adult film industry in America. Jewish involvement in pornography has a long history in the United States, as Jews have helped to transform a fringe subculture into what has become a primary constituent of Americana. These are the ‘true blue Jews’.

Smut peddlers

Jewish activity in the porn industry divides into two (sometimes overlapping) groups: pornographers and performers. Though Jews make up only two per cent of the American population, they have been prominent in pornography. Many erotica dealers in the book trade between 1890 and 1940 were immigrant Jews of German origin. According to Jay A. Gertzman, author of Bookleggers and Smuthounds:The Trade in Erotica, 1920-1940 (Philadelphia: University of Pennsylvania Press, 1999), ‘Jews were prominent in the distribution of gallantiana [fiction on erotic themes and books of dirty jokes and ballads], avant-garde sexually explicit novels, sex pulps, sexology, and flagitious materials’.

In the postwar era, America’s most notorious pornographer was Reuben Sturman, the ‘Walt Disney of Porn’. According to the US Department of Justice, throughout the 1970s Sturman controlled most of the pornography circulating in the country. Born in 1924, Sturman grew up in Cleveland’s East Side. Initially, he sold comics and magazines, but when he realized sex magazines produced twenty times the revenue of comic books, he moved exclusively into porn, eventually producing his own titles and setting up retail stores. By the end of the 1960s, Sturman ranked at the top of adult magazine distributors and by the mid-70s he owned over 200 adult bookstores. Sturman also introduced updated versions of the traditional peepshow booth (typically a dark room with a small colour TV on which the viewer can view X-rated videos). It was said that Sturman did not simply control the adult-entertainment industry; he was the industry. Eventually he was convicted of tax evasion and other crimes and died, disgraced, in prison in 1997. His son, David, continued running the family business.

The contemporary incarnation of Sturman is 43-year-old Jewish Clevelander Steven Hirsch, who has been described as ‘the Donald Trump of porno’. The link between the two is Steve’s father, Fred, who was a stockbroker-cum-lieutenant to Sturman. Today Hirsch runs the Vivid Entertainment Group, which has been called the Microsoft of the porn world, the top producer of ‘adult’ films in the US. His specialty was to import mainstream marketing techniques into the porn business. Indeed, Vivid parallels the Hollywood studio system of the 1930s and 1940s, particularly in its exclusive contracts to porn stars who are hired and moulded by Hirsch. Vivid was the subject of a behind-the-scenes reality TV show recently broadcast on Channel 4.

Nice Jewish girls and boys

Jews accounted for most of the leading male performers as well as a sizeable number of female stars in porn movies of the 1970s and ‘80s. The doyen of the Hebrew studs is Ron Jeremy. Known in the trade as ‘the Hedgehog’, Jeremy is one of America’s biggest porn stars. The 51-year-old Jeremy was raised in an upper-middle-class Jewish family in Flushing, Queens, and has since appeared in more than 1,600 adult movies, as well as directing over 100. Jeremy has achieved iconic status in America, a hero to males of all ages, Jewish and gentile alike - he’s the nebbischy, fat, hairy, ugly guy who gets to bed dozens of beautiful women. He presents an image of a modern-day King David, a Jewish superstud who supersedes the traditional heroes of Jewish lore. No sallow Talmud scholar he. His stature was recently cemented with the release of a pornomentary about his life, Porn Star: The Legend of Ron Jeremy. As probably the most famous Jewish male porn star, Jeremy has done wonders for the psyche of Jewish men in America. Jeremy has also just released a compilation CD, Bang-A-Long-With Ron Jeremy. For £7.99 (including delivery), the lucky listener gets to enjoy Jeremy’s hand-picked favourite porno grooves along with narration by ‘the legend’ himself. As the publicity blurb gushes, ‘Out of the brown paper wrappings and into the mainstream’.

Seymore Butts, aka Adam Glasser, is everything that Jeremy is not: young, handsome and toned. Glasser, a 39-year-old New York Jew, opened a gym in 1991 in Los Angeles. When no one joined, he borrowed a video camera for 24 hours, went to a nearby strip club, recruited a woman, then headed back to his gym and started shooting. Although the movie stank, with a bit of chutzpah and a few business cards he wangled a deal with a manufacturer and started cranking out films. Within a few years, ‘Seymore Butts’ – his nom de porn which is simultaneously his sales pitch – became one of the largest franchises in the adult-film business. As the king of the gonzo genre (marked by handheld cameras, the illusion of spontaneity and a low-tech aesthetic meant to suggest reality), he is today probably the most famous Jewish porn mogul. Seymore Inc., his production company, releases about 36 films annually, most of them shot for less than $15,000, each of them grossing more than 10 times that sum. Glasser employs 12 people, including his mother and cousin Stevie as respectively genial company accountant (and matchmaker for her single son) and lovable but roguish general gopher. Glasser currently even has his own reality TV show (also broadcast on Channel 4), a ten-episode docu-soap called Family Business, whose opening credits show Glasser’s barmitzvah photo.

Article continues here: jewishquarterly.org/issuearchive/articled325.html?articleid=38

Archive link here: archive.ph/lzpc5

Secondary archive link here: www.scribd.com/document/111175827/triple-exthnics-nathan-abrams-on-jews-in-the-american-porn-industry

#2004 #NathanAbrams #JewishQuarterly #RabbinicalJudaism #World #US #America #CultureWar #EconomicWar #PsychologicalWarfare #SpiritualWarfare #Demoralization #IdeologicalSubversion #Pornography #EMichaelJones

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2y ago  NoFap

One week down, another begins. "No Nut November" continues. Hopefully some of the suggestions I made you guys found to be helpful. Don't hesitate to check out the new "No Nothing November" tribe to find others looking to use the month of November to shed old habits and form new ones. Document your progress day by day. If you lapsed note it down. Best of luck to all of you who participate.

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