First of all, when you discover how to flirt with women, you realize that it's not about pickup lines or seduction techniques - or any of that. It's about something that guys give a lot of lip service to, but don't focus on nearly enough. Stay with me and I'll reveal what that something is.

In Flirting 101 I revealed these 3 flirting mistakes: Waiting too long to approach or start the conversation, flirting with your mouth instead of your whole body, and asking for a date instead of just a small "upsell." Here are 3 more!

Mistake 4: Complimenting a woman's looks.

The first thing I see a lot of plugged in guys go for is the flattery angle when they try to flirt with women. WRONG! The unfortunate part is that this tactic does work, but not when it's done carelessly.

The best thing to compliment a woman on is her appearance, but not on the parts that come naturally to her. The things she was given - her looks or genetic traits - don't feel earned. Better is to compliment her on her CHOICE in appearance. The easiest way to do this is to compliment her on her clothes or jewelry.

You see, her appearance is something that she had to consciously think about and choose, and compliments you make about this are felt far more deeply. Women are looking for validation - as everyone is. But when you're validated on something that you can't control such as her appearance and looks (except with make-up and hair products), it doesn't resonate.

Remember that when you want to know how to flirt with women, you have to target the areas that she is most likely to respond to.

Mistake 5: Relying on words alone.

This is quite similar to Mistake 2 in my Flirting 101 post, but I really want to drill this whole body language thing in.

Again, most guys think that a woman is only listening to what he's saying when he walks up, and that she will believe what he says. The guys who are the best at meeting women know that what you say is just about the least important thing when you discover how to flirt with women.

Women are actually keying in on a bunch of signals from you, including your body language, tonality, and eye contact. All of these things are much more important than the words you say. In fact, when men focus too much on words, they actually turn women off because they become ten times more obvious by saying it instead of hinting at it with their body language.

No matter what you say, women know immediately when you're hitting on them.

Being smooth is overrated.

Don't be smooth.

Mistake 6: Not being GENUINE.

If you haven't figured it out by now, the hidden ingredient for how to flirt with women is really simple: it's sincerity. It's your authenticity and willingness to just be yourself. It's because this is what she needs to know in order to trust you and feel safe around you.

The big mistake that most guys make is to try to hide their interest in a woman, and hide their sexuality in the process. This is what kills attraction for women because they sense a man who is not in harmony with himself. He will seem like he's trying to be deceptive, even when he's doing what he thinks the woman wants.

Or, if he's not honest about his interest, she will think he's "just friends" material, and that kills attraction right away. Not to mention that converting a woman from a friend into more is ten times harder than if you just did it right in the first place.

When you try to keep your sexual interest hidden, she will also sense that you've got a hidden agenda.

And that feels plain sneaky.

The real source of attraction is always in the power of uncertainty with a woman, while being true to yourself. When she feels your power as a man, and doesn't know where she stands with you, that leaves the door wide open for romance when you're learning how to flirt with women.

I hope you took something useful out of this.

The Lesson: More flirting in a nutshell.

Summary: Flirting with women is a concept that is lost on most guys. Let's face it - most men are clueless when it comes to HOW to flirt with women effectively.

So what we're going to discuss today are my three hottest bits of dating advice for men that will expose the mistakes men make when trying to flirt with women.

Flirt mistake 1: Waiting too long to approach or start the conversation.

If there's any dating advice for men that stands the test of time, it's this one. Women are estimating your confidence level based on how long you wait until you approach. The longer it takes, the more interest and attraction she loses for you.

The second she notices you, and knows that you have noticed her, a timer starts in her head. And if you hesitate, that tells her you're not as confident as she wants you to be. And if it takes TOO LONG, she's going to find it creepy that you're looking and not doing something.

So here's my advice for men who want to avoid this mistake:

The second you see an attractive woman, your mind is going to try to stop you from going over to meet her. And there is no logical reason why for this, other than you feel a natural hesitation.

Just get into the habit of walking over within 3 seconds of seeing a woman you want to meet. 1-2-3. Showtime.

You don't need a clever line to get her to talk to you. (In fact, using 'lines' on women often makes them more reluctant to talk.) Say hello and get right to it. Don't try to be smooth.

Flirt mistake 2: Flirting with your mouth instead of your whole body.

Guys often make the mistake of being a bit too direct when they talk with women. The most important thing to recognize about women is that they like "indirectly direct" communication. Meaning that you can flirt-talk with her, but you have to give her "plausible deniability" the whole time you're talking with her.

What is "Plausible deniability"? It's the ability for a woman to deny that she had taken the lead or initiative in flirting or leading you on. She wants to hint to you that she's interested, but she often can't because of the amount of social pressure put on women to not be the pursuer. She also wants to be chased herself, so you want to give her the ability to write her own story about how it all happened.

So here's my dating advice for men who want to avoid this mistake:

Instead of saying things like: "Wow, you sure are beautiful..." or "God must be missing an angel up in heaven...", find ways of communicating your appreciation with your body language.

One of the best ways you can make a woman feel cherished and appreciated is simply to use more eye contact. Just look from eye to eye, and occasionally let your eyes stray down to her lips - or to her hair. This shows that you're taking her in and find her attractive without sounding like a dork.

Just remember that appreciating does not mean "ogling." You can visually appreciate a woman without looking like you're imagining her naked. (Save that for later...)

Flirt mistake 3: Asking for a date instead of just a small "upsell."

This is a frequent mistake guys make. They will go talk to a woman, get things going, and then end it with: "Hey, you want to go out on a date sometime?"

You can see the complete change in her eyes and her expression when he does this.

Asking for the date is a big turn off when it's done too soon. It's like walking onto a used car lot, and after only 2 minutes of small talk, the salesman asks you to come in and fill out the paperwork. Whoah!

Even on the phone, you don't want to jump in too far, too fast. Remember that a man represents a whole bunch of "what ifs" to a woman, and your goal is to not start dancing in the minefield of her anxieties and blow things up.

Instead, the best dating advice for this situation is that you go for the easy "upsell." So here's my dating advice for men who want to avoid this mistake flirting with women:

If you've ever gone to McDonalds, you've been offered an "upsell" at one point or another. You probably heard it like this: "Would you like fries with that?"

It's a brilliant marketing strategy that has increased McDonald's revenues massively. Just by offering a small add-on, we're more likely to agree to it.

Don't ask for the date. Instead, just ask for a quick cup of coffee or tea. A small meeting like this is non-assuming, and will get a much higher acceptance rate from women. They won't see it as threatening, and they'll see it as a legit way to actually get to know you.

PLUS you'll radically reduce the amount of flakes you get. (Most women flake on dates because she just forgets if she was really into you in the first place. She cooled off.)

So there you go. Three of my hottest flirting tips for men that you can put to use RIGHT NOW.

The Lesson: Flirting in a nutshell.