@GeneralButtNaked On the topic of the reading, you may enjoy Rian Stone's sidebar playlist where he breaks down most of the required reading books (including most or all of the above) chapter by chapter in 10-20 minute bits.

@GeneralButtNaked

Have read Rational Male and NMMNG but I think I was too unwell to absorb it. I allowed super negative self talk so it fell on deaf ears. I will read them again.

Most people have to read the basics several times. It's nothing atypical.

Guessing I just need to get after it and start talking?

Yes.

Good luck.

@redpillschool Haha what the fuck.

@GeneralButtNaked Different people have different recommendations, but pretty much everyone can agree on the following:

1. Get on a lifting program if you're not on one already. Stronglifts 5x5 is fine for a while for people who have no clue what they're doing.
2. Get your body fat percentage under 15 percent if you're not already. The Navy Method of measuring this only requires a scale and a tape measure by using a calculator easily found online.
3. Do the basic reading: No More Mr Nice Guy; When I Say No, I Feel Guilty; Practical Female Psychology; The Rational Male (the first book).
4. Learn how to go up and talk to women. There are too many resources for this for me to recommend something specific.

There's your first year.

@Jigsaw137 Here's one of the sources of your problem:

usually I am bored and humour myself so I speak to her

When you talk to her about dumb shit regularly, you've taught her that she can talk to you about dumb shit. If you stop doing that, you'll teach her that you don't.