4y ago  Accountability

Alright then, so - first off let me apologise for not engaging with you all over the last week. That's my bad and something I'll try and do better at going forward.

Looking back on the last week, I spoke to two women outside of my usual social pool. One, a woman selling me my new smart watch. The other, a woman that works in the same building as me. Both had a context that allowed me to engage them in conversation, and in both cases opportunities arose for me to steer the conversation away from the expected (The sell, and the work.) In both instances the women were reciprocal to me guiding the conversation, which I did with confidence and intent. While the goal was 10 women, and I only spoke to two (and I even feel like the context of these 'approaches' made it easier for me) I managed to overcome the stress of my social anxiety. So, that at least is a step in the right direction. I also spoke to some guys that I work with and arranged to hang out outside of work, another middle finger to my social anxiety. So that's my progress for the week. I didn't get close to hitting the weeks goal - but for anyone else that didn't, I want to stress that this tribe is for the benefit of working on ourselves together. It means admitting that you didn't hit those goals, or even attempt them and then making better progress next week. It's that simple.

So, with that said - how did you all do? Give us a run down on any approaches you made, or any progress you made for yourself in general. Did you take part in the weekends preparation? If not, it's never too late to improve yourself in any minor or major way.

So, with our confidence reinforced and then checked we should have some idea of where we stand with ourselves. If you found that you approached women easily, keep on doing that. If not, keep on doing it anyway. Now, let's look towards next week!

A big thing I've been thinking about is money. Sure, last weekend we went out and splashed a bit of money on ourselves, but we can't do that every week. So for this week, I'm going to give us all something to chew on. What are we worth to ourselves? Think about your job. How much do they pay you? Are you happy with that? If not - I want you to look at job advertisements for jobs you do want, and that will pay you what you deserve.

WARNING: This is not an encouragement to quit your job then look for a new one.

If you find something that turns your head, apply for it. If you think you're due a pay rise or a promotion, ask to talk to your boss and find a way to table the demand.

If you don't have a job at the moment, I want you to try and find one, or another way to make income.

If you're self employed or otherwise content with your position, that's great - your challenge for the week is to take a critical look at your expenditures and consider whether you're saving enough for the future and any unforeseen circumstances. Have you got a savings account? Time to make one and start putting money across.

Thats it! This week is all about how we value ourselves and making the most of monetising our time. Don't sell your time to the lowest bidder, sell it to the highest.

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4y ago  Accountability

@GaiusTiberius My advice - ignore the fact that they are an attractive women, forget about getting laid. Just go talk to her as if she were a guy friend/acquaintance and do your best to just have a conversation. If you get shut down, handle it with grace. Don't stress about getting "friend-zoned" or worry about leading it anywhere sexual. You've got to get comfortable just talking with women you don't know before you can be relaxed and aware enough to pick up on signs or lead the conversation anywhere. Even if you have zero ability to move things along and you end up with 5 genuine friends that are girls in 3 months, I guarantee you that a bit of perceived competition ends up with you getting romantic attention.

4y ago  Accountability
4y ago  Accountability

Alright, my dudes. I committed yesterday to get out and work out. Went to the park with my daughter, ran, long boarded, did a zip line, jumped on a trampoline... wasn

4y ago  Accountability

@Laxman14 yeah for sure, the OYS thing is pretty much what I would like people to be doing straight away.

By setting goals that look attainable to people and opening a discussion on what is/isn

4y ago  Accountability

@LovecraftsNightmare Are you eventually going to structure this like the OYS thread on MRP? I think there

4y ago  Accountability

@GaiusTiberius Try not to overthink the situation (easier said than done) but be on the lookout for a situation to open a conversation (weather, time, accessory) and then let the conversation flow naturally. If you don

4y ago  Accountability
4y ago  Accountability

@LovecraftsNightmare Fuck it, I'm in. Will be in town for saturday only but I'm sure I can knock this one outta the park no sweat.

4y ago  Accountability

Okay folks, weekends almost done! How are we doing on preparation? I

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