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Gentlemen, how the fuck is life going for you?
Have you got your meal plans in order?
Do you actually have any meal plans? Why not? Put that greasy slice of pizza down and make something worth eating you fat fuck.
Hows your money? Spent it all on that pizza didn't you... Well, it's never too late to turn it around. Delete your Uber Eats or Deliveroo or whateverthefuck and start putting that money to the side.
Hows your hobby going? Aced that solo yet? Finished that chapter? Perfected that beat? Stop jerking it to that attention seeking whore and get back to your god damned mission.
Studies going well? Whens that essay due in? Tomorrow? You better get writing my dude. Take your studies seriously, it's going to be the only thing that saves you from a life of flipping burgers (Trust me.)
Seriously guys, take all of your shit seriously. Be productive. Hit us up with your ideas and progress.Read More
I cold approached 2 girls today. I tried to stop and chat with them but they both blew me off. They weren't very attractive. I saw some cute girls standing alone later in the day and didn't approach. I will try to start biting the bullet on more attractive women. I will do 2 more approaches tomorrow.
I bitched out on cold approaching in the grocery store today when I saw indicators of interest. Not gonna list reasons and excuses why, but I should come up with a way to approach in this situation, or get myself into a sitation where girls can talk to me and I can lead the conversation. All the clubs, bars and colleges are closed down where I am based. I talked to this European girl at the bank today, but didn't get her number when my name was called, but I could definitely sense the connection. Anyway, I'll live to pick up another day!
I am still active here and on Reddit. I use Twitter only for high value content. Same with Facebook Groups, where I read and interact with people in business groups, but I set myself time limits in order to do everything in moderation. I was off from Instagram for a 10 days completely, but than I got back to it to spy on competition, keep up with mentors, respond to DMs, and take part in again business DM groups. I've noticed that my self control this time us much better. I don't go to the explore page or endlessly scroll on my feed. It doesn't take much from my time which is good and I don't end up scrolling down the feed of Instagram models which I used to do. I noticed that I read a lot of informative content on forums, but I feel like I have to increase my book reading time more (from 30 minutes to maybe 60). In terms of education, semester is starting on Monday and I have to start on revising and going over the stuff learned last semester. Will see how grades will be this semester (I am in the 60s too which is not really good for a University student).
On the other hand, my sleep schedule has been fucked up lately, which had an impact on my productivity and energy levels. Checking and researching on different diets which will keep my body and mind sharp. If you have any recommendations please feel free to share. Sometimes I am so tired that I just want to take some magical pill or sniff cocaine to get instant energy (never done both and I am against drugs. I am just trying to illustrate a point here). There is some level of laziness too which I have to fight to meet my minimum daily goals which is totally related to sleep and diet.
Well done for spiking your grades from 60s to 80s! Hope I do the same. How long it took you and how many hours a day you dedicated on it? Do you prepare food in bulk for the week? Has that helped you with being organised, freeing more time during the week and not making you think what meal to cook or eat next? Do you learn Japanese as a hobby? Do you just walk to relax and move the body as an exercise or do you walk from point A to point B because you need to?
Can you tell me more about your Instagram account for for snap and social proof? Jocko WIllink does that with his wake up times and exercise routines. Are you planning something similar? Who is going to be your followers to keep you accountable?Read More
Okay, guys, I have an idea that I would like to share with you to establish a baseline and just to get the opinions of people that think more rationally because I feel the need to share what is on my mind with someone. I am open to criticism and harsh commenting because I am used to it and I know it is for my benefit.
A lot of people will start going gym after the new year for a better life and just the usual stuff that happens after every year. As this decade is almost over, I looked back and just thought about the internet and the way it evolved and caused us, humans, to evolve in a different way. For the average user, it is very hard to take control and master your own actions and emotions no matter how much a person reads or practices, in order to be the best and optimal version of itself.
On YouTube (while procrastinating and instead of doing the high-value activity) I came across a video about a man that did not have an internet connection in its house for two years, and the only time he had access to the internet was outside in a cafe shop or in the work office. The guy mentioned the benefits of having no internet at home. Some of the benefits that caught my attention were:
- being aware of what you consume, because you have to select what you want to download in order to watch at home; such as a simple youtube video (must be high value) or a Udemy video course that will help you develop yourself
- having a lot more time, because you don't waste time and go into this endless rabbit hole of scrolling and switching from page to page
- being aware of the webpages consumed because he has to make a conscious decision to download it for offline viewing at home
Additionally, I also came across alpha / red-pilled individuals on YouTube and Twitter that teach good content about being the best version of yourself without sweet-talking their audience. One of the common points I noticed was; no social media, no fap, daily exercise, journaling, and the list goes on. I would say its just those so simple things that most people fail to do because they are "so simple to do and so simple not do do" (The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson). I was downloading video courses on my local external hard drive and movies that I would like to keep locally in order to make my own cloud server, and I said to myself "what if I try to go 'without the internet' and just force myself do to the things (high-value activities) that I am supposed to do?".
I have a friend that basically does not exist on the internet. He doesn't have Facebook and didn't even know that Facebook had Groups, because the last time he used social media was in 2011. He told me that he only goes to forums that are useful to him under different usernames and is very self-conscious about online privacy. I think for his age he is stable, self-conscious and a very cool dude that is doing the things that many of us struggle to do like having online privacy, consuming high-value content, working on high-value content that is beneficial, balancing work and personal life, and having a self-time. I think he is a man that is so focused on his mission that he doesn't need to follow other people on social media, because he doesn't gain anything valuable. I was mindblown and really liked his mentality, because thinking about it, he consumes only the essential information he needs and if he talks about a topic, he has in-depth knowledge of it. This is because he has the time and the passion to dive deep in a topic instead of scrolling on social media or watching endless YouTube videos. I think just the fact that he doesn't use social media has made him more disciplined that even on YouTube he can control himself instead of jumping on social media, scroll while watching endless YouTube Videos without taking action.
I have noticed that when I work full time, I have no time for social media or even time for mindless browsing because I work 12-hour shifts and just go to sleep. I wake up early and do my productive morning routine and I was feeling really good while doing it. Now because of the holidays, I realized that I am not doing the things that I am supposed to do, and my mind has come up with the following:
cut off Instagram completely, because it provides no value and has negative effects. I don't find anything useful on Instagram and even if I try to just follow the right people, the explore page with model girls is there waiting for me, and therefore I am planning to eliminate completely Instagram for personal use. While writing this I checked on Instagram and again on explore page I saw a girl that is my age with a T-shirt like cloth, that outlines her nipples which I think is great but it fucks up with my brain. It fucks up with my brain because it is so easy to just fap on it and get an instant reward, it is so easy to see a picture of a jet or a yacht and just dream about it without doing any action. Instead, I could eliminate that and just focus!
download YouTube videos, 80% high value and 20% entertaining. This will make sure that I will be very conscious about the content I consume and will prevent me from going into this endless loop of watching new YouTube videos.
use Twitter only for business and self-help, because I am not exposed to triggering content (model girls and fake news).
- use Facebook only to interact in Facebook groups.
I am planning to have 24/7 access to this forum and other forums that I find useful. Also, I will have an internet connection on my phone so that I can interact with people on WhatsApp and Telegram mainly for business purposes. All notifications on my phone are disabled and it feels really great.
I know this will be hard, that's why I am not going too harsh on myself to not have an internet connection fully. I will have an internet connection, but it will be limited to high-value activities. I will be forced to consume high-value content. I am planning to do this by blocking low-value websites like Instagram from my desktop device completely with Cold Turkey, and limit YouTube for a week and have a timeframe where it will allow me to pick important vides for me to download with youtube-dl. I will also block Amazon Prime Video and other than that, I cannot imagine other websites that will influence me in a bad way (I have porn websites already blocked).
I think it will be hard but great if I can do it because I will be conscious about everything I consume and see (kind of like a monk mode). The reason I am writing this is just to organize my thoughts and just share it with the community for feedback or opinion. I want to know what you think about this mission of "gaining back control", and what things you are doing to stay on track and follow your purpose without getting distracted?! I know very few people do this, and before I used to be surprised and was kind of surprised a person to now have Facebook or Instagram, or if they had low amount of followers I used to think that they were users until I discovered that some of these dudes were really cool, social and purpose-driven people that were earning well and were basically just what I consider "normal" people.
Now that I have written this, it kind of makes my mind clearer because in a way I have organized my thoughts. Again, feel free to share your opinion and experience. Thanks!Read More
Alright then, so - first off let me apologise for not engaging with you all over the last week. That's my bad and something I'll try and do better at going forward.
Looking back on the last week, I spoke to two women outside of my usual social pool. One, a woman selling me my new smart watch. The other, a woman that works in the same building as me. Both had a context that allowed me to engage them in conversation, and in both cases opportunities arose for me to steer the conversation away from the expected (The sell, and the work.) In both instances the women were reciprocal to me guiding the conversation, which I did with confidence and intent. While the goal was 10 women, and I only spoke to two (and I even feel like the context of these 'approaches' made it easier for me) I managed to overcome the stress of my social anxiety. So, that at least is a step in the right direction. I also spoke to some guys that I work with and arranged to hang out outside of work, another middle finger to my social anxiety. So that's my progress for the week. I didn't get close to hitting the weeks goal - but for anyone else that didn't, I want to stress that this tribe is for the benefit of working on ourselves together. It means admitting that you didn't hit those goals, or even attempt them and then making better progress next week. It's that simple.
So, with that said - how did you all do? Give us a run down on any approaches you made, or any progress you made for yourself in general. Did you take part in the weekends preparation? If not, it's never too late to improve yourself in any minor or major way.
So, with our confidence reinforced and then checked we should have some idea of where we stand with ourselves. If you found that you approached women easily, keep on doing that. If not, keep on doing it anyway. Now, let's look towards next week!
A big thing I've been thinking about is money. Sure, last weekend we went out and splashed a bit of money on ourselves, but we can't do that every week. So for this week, I'm going to give us all something to chew on. What are we worth to ourselves? Think about your job. How much do they pay you? Are you happy with that? If not - I want you to look at job advertisements for jobs you do want, and that will pay you what you deserve.
WARNING: This is not an encouragement to quit your job then look for a new one.
If you find something that turns your head, apply for it. If you think you're due a pay rise or a promotion, ask to talk to your boss and find a way to table the demand.
If you don't have a job at the moment, I want you to try and find one, or another way to make income.
If you're self employed or otherwise content with your position, that's great - your challenge for the week is to take a critical look at your expenditures and consider whether you're saving enough for the future and any unforeseen circumstances. Have you got a savings account? Time to make one and start putting money across.
Thats it! This week is all about how we value ourselves and making the most of monetising our time. Don't sell your time to the lowest bidder, sell it to the highest.Read More