I have a habit of an Over-involvement with hobbies, a sexual addiction to PMO and, the sexual dysfunction of the inability to get or maintain an erection.

The 1st step of this path to freedom is to admit what is wrong and to be public about it. I trust the red pill the most so I will put it here.

I have great shame and fear because: I have not been getting my needs met in a timely, healthy manner. The shame of hidden, compulsive behaviors(PMO). I try to hard to be a good lover and been avoiding sexual situations and sexual opportunities(until recently). The Red Pill is the safest place for me.

My greatest fear is that I need to fuck a girl well so she won't leave me. I need to understand that I hold the keys to my own sexuality and that sexual energy should not be forced into a objective rather expressed on how it is. I always feel the need to distract my self and not live in the moment.

I need your support. I can no longer do this alone. I no longer wish to live in shame and fear. I haven't had sex in 6 months and only recently started again. Had a girl over today and couldn't get an erection. Its a wake up call that I need.

I will practice Healthy masturbation according to No More Mr Nice Guy. No porn trance where I can hid from being sexual.

I will update my status if I break, but I won't. I promise.

Having a great first date is removing as many obstacles as possible.

Step 1 Setting Up the date

• Plan for early evening an hour before sunset. When day turns into night, it helps set a romantic mood and make time pass faster than normal. Helps create comfort fast.
• Eat lightly before and if you do get food eat lightly. You are on a date, your goal is to get to know this girl and to see if you have chemistry with her. The last thing you want is to have your date not talking because of the food in her mouth or her being lethargic from over eating.
• Pick a familiar location and a location close to home. The more familiar you are with the place the more things you can talk about if conversation goes stale. Plus the closer you are to home to more likely you can convince her to come home with you.
• Pick a place with mood lighting and a decent size of people and walking places. Clubs are too loud too many people and sometimes too packed. A cocktail bar, open air park/mall, or a trendy desert places are some places where you can take your date.
• Be sure to clearly set up the place and time by text with your date. The clearer the better, that way there is no guessing and you can be ready for the date as well as her.
• Remember keep communication low until date. Set up the date and leave all question and conversation for in person.

• Clean up. Shower, wear clean clothes, and organize room/car. This will set you up for success.

• Pro-tip: Clip your nails, you might be fingering this girl by the end of the night.

• Go to location 15 mins before the date. Scope out the area and make sure everything is normal. You never know what might change day of.
• Wait for 15 mins after allotted time. If you date does not show up on time and doesn’t text in 15 mins. Don’t take it personally and prepare to end the date.
• Get condoms and set them around likely locations for sex.

• Pro-tip: Have lube.

• When sitting sit next to your date. Do not sit across, even when you are seated across make your way to sit next. This allows a more natural physical interaction which is part of dating.
• When you want to hold hands, hold hands. When you want to kiss, kiss. There is no perfect moment to do either. This one you will have to build by experience and sensitivity of the mood. Remember it is better to strike early, even if you fail you can try again. If you leave it to the end then your date has already left and the mood you have built will be lost.
• Enjoy the date don’t rush. Rushing is the #1 mistake for newbies. Take the time to seduce and build the tension.

• So you held hands and even kissed. Now you want her sexually. Good I will help you with that.
• Don’t waste all your time making out with her. You could lose all sexual tension here. Maybe make out once or twice. Keep the last makeout to lead yourself to sex in the sex location.
• Keep conversation off sex. This will help comfort her and make her feel like you're not just a pervert. If you're having a great date continue that mood on the way to your sex location.
• Your sex location should be private and controlled by you. Own room/house should be the best here. Cars and other exotic locations require a lot more barriers to break.
• Bed or couch. These should be the #1 places to have sex for the 1st time with your date.
• Keep positions limited to 4. This is not the time to break out the Kamasutra. Missionary, doggy, cowgirl and reverse cow girl should and will keep the experience simple and enjoyable.
• While making out, lead her hand to your dick. If she plays around with it you know it's on.
• Give head and get head. Quid pro quo. Help relax her and get her wet and helps to get you hard and dick wet as well.
• Put on the condom and go to town.

• Yes sex is not the end of the date.
• Cuddle if you like.
• Set up the next date if you are so compelled.
• Fuck some more, yes you can.
• Eat some food.
• Possibilities are endless, but what you do here will paint your relationship with her.

tl,dr: Preparation, Logistics, Seduction, Comfort, Sex, and After Sex.