Been in an LTR for about 1 year now. She has some redflags such as hissy fits, extreme jealously, shoved me once cause I ignored her IRL for being jealous, cries if I distant myself, and demands keep her updated throughout the day of where I am because she thinks I'll cheat.
But when she comes over, she cooks, cleans, folds my clothes and wants to fuck me all the time. She meal preps me daily.
When we get into disagreements I tell her if she keeps up the hissy fit(crying screaming banging on things) then she's gotta go.
Then she purposely went to see a therapist and is on meds because she wants to fix herself for me. She told me she wants to get better mentally so that she could stay with me.
I'm lost and confused. What do you guys think?
I think you should enjoy the coming Thanksgiving. Get the GF a modestly priced Christmas gift and card. Get a St. Valentines day card while you're at it. After Christmas celebrate new years with your friends. Then give yourself until March to decide if you should continue the relationship or break up based on any sustained improvements in her behavior with you.
Until then, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.
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