@brazilianxof

35 and thinking i can't make up for the lost time

Profile: 35 my, 1.86m. I make now and finally 10k a month steadly, after making no shit from 0 to 30 and some shit from 30 to 35.

I have my own middle class car and apartment.

For the past year i had a thing with a girl, that i thought was more than a "joke". Yet, she started coming up with rules, after telling stories that why she made those (ex: i dont do this because once i did and didnt go well - translation i did with other guy but you go wait over there).

The last drop was she going dinner with a dude who told her, me, and all the world he wants to date her. Although is a fat old (like 65) dude who is a work colleague, i had already expressed my opposition to this friendship, because of his overtly said intentions. After that and i saying i'm "done", she sent something basically as i'm just being annoyingly pushy and stupid and tried do make me feel bad for the guy. Well, i said basically the "stay well" and "be gone", with no more than 5 words or so.

Now i'm here at 35 rusty and i don't even know how to go flirt anymore. To be honest i feel old and ridiculous at doing so.

TLDR i feel old ugly and rusty. Im 35 and no hair. Yes i'm in shape but woman at 35-40 gap are married or traumatized and with the 25ish i feel weird

On average most relationships will end in break-ups. Some of it is due to what we've done, but much of it will also be due to what the other party did as well. Better to find out that you and her weren't compatible now, rather than after several bitter years of marriage with children, like so many other guys do.

It reads like you've got a good idea where things went wrong, both in your mate selection, and how you handled the challenge of your relationship while working to earn 10k R$ a month. I'm confident that you'll take the steps to not repeat the bad things and build on the good things you learned during that relationship. If you haven't done so, consider adding her contact info to your tech/telephone block list, packing up anything that reminds you of the ex to give to charity, and take the time you need to process this change in your life.

When you've finished mulling over things, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his #book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.

Maneuver Warfare Handbook (Westview Special Studies in Military Affairs)

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4th Generation Warfare Handbook

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@Machiaspinner

Situation handled well or not?

Hello guys, I need some outside perspective on a situation.

I’ve been in an FWB situation with this girl (22 yo student , low income family , 7,5/10) for about 4 months. I was vetting her for a possible LDR (even though I know LDRs rarely work). She travels to see me often (1 hour distance).

She’s feminine, in my frame , cooks, sex is good and available on demand.

I still live with my family due to their health situation. Because of that, I’ve been paying for all dates and also covering logistics, which adds extra cost.

For 4 months, the dynamic was smooth and low drama. No demands, no pressure.

Things shifted when Valentine’s Day and her birthday (same week) came up. I voluntarily suggested a plan: a nice restaurant and stay together for the week-end (because I wanted to, not because she asked) , i also had the idea to give her something cheap as a gift. During the discussion, she said: “You still have time to think about the gift.”

That line immediately hit me ( give an inch, she wants a mile) . I told her , then paying for a diner doesn’t count as a gift and it’s nothing so i need to bring a gift in addition, that’s it? She said she wanted a gift to keep and remember me. I told her it’s strange that she needs a physical object to remember me, and that if the dinner isn’t seen as a gift, I’d rather cancel it altogether. She backtracked—“No, the plan was perfect”.

I ended the conversation and shut the topic down. This situation really made me angry althought i stayed stoic on the outside.No woman has ever told me to bring a gift.

Did I handle this situatiln correctly ? Should I demote her to a plate (even though she’s currently my only one , scarcity ..)? Or is the correct move to walk away completely.

Thank you a lot folks.

She tried to manipulate you into getting gifts in addition to a costly meal out. You squashed that effort. Only time will tell whether the situation was handled well or not, but situations like that are an unavoidable part of relationships. Sadly, all females do this and you'll have to be prepared.

It reads like what you need to do is conclusively sort out what kind of relationship you've presently got with her and what sort you want to actually have. Whether it's friend with benefits, long distance relationship, plate, or something else, I leave for you both to figure out. You don't need our permission or approval whatever you decide. However, if she's not someone you've any interest in being exclusive with you shouldn't celebrate birthdays, Saint Valentine's day, or other holidays with more than a card until they're constantly introducing you to everyone they know as 'my boyfriend' on their own initiative.

Study the book. If you're planning to relocate elsewhere, it's probably for the best you cut her loose though. It frees you both to pursue the locals wherever you plan to be without concerning yourself with someone you can't physically be there for.