The other day I dropped some knowledge over at the Project Playboy Forum about setting up multiple relationships for success:

You can set up relationships so that your girl is fine with you having more than one chick, knows about it, is cool with it, and let's you do what you do.

You can also let your side girls in on the game and make it clear to them the situation.

You have to own the whole thing though and also be ready to drop chicks that aren't down or say they are but show they aren't.

Of course, there were some more questions off of that about how to set up this whole thing.

What do you do to lock down a girl in a long term relationship, while having girls on the side? Can you tell them all what's good? How do you keep them from causing drama?

Main girl:

If they start causing drama and not meshing with the situation that you laid out for them in the begining (I will mess with other girls but you're the only one I actually care about and take on dates or whatever the frame is) then you soft fade on them. Don't hit them up as often and they might get the idea and stop with the drama. Or they don't and your thing ends and you find another girl that is willing to work with how you do things.


Side girl:

If they start with drama and want to get upgraded, you see them out with your main chick and they cause issues, or they start getting mad about the situation you run the same soft fade play as above. Or sometimes you can just blow them up ("I thought you were cool, but I guess not and we will never work so we should just stop now have a good life") and move on. They may come back and get in line or may not.


If every thing is going well and girls aren't causing drama then you reward them with slow upgrades of time or investment on your part.

So if your side girl is treating you well and not causing drama and not worrying about your main or even activley helping you out with restaurant recommendations or whatever, then you maybe take her on a date or bring some wine when you come chill.

Reward good behavior and soft next bad behavior. They will get the idea. "Oh when I did that I didn't see him for a week, maybe I should not do that again". Girls are smart about these things.

Also don't make it clear that you are doing this reward/punish stuff, just be like "I'm super busy this week lets kick it next week or when I get some free time" cause otherwise you come off like you're in your feelings. They will put two and two together.

The key is really to lay out how you are up front, not in like a logical discussion with them but just like "this is how I am and I'm not about to change and I like you but if you're not down it's cool we don't have to hang" then do the reward or punish in the background based on whether she follows the rules you lay down in your head for how she should act. Trying to sit down with her and explain the rules is a loosing game, which I think is part of the problem you are having.

Logical debates with girls don't usually go anywhere productive. She will just keep arguing with you and trying to change your mind and wear you down over time.

Compare that to just letting her know the deal up front and then she can figure out where your boundaries are cause when she starts to cause drama she doesn't see you as often as before.

Of course you have to be willing to walk away cause if you're like "I don't like drama" and then stick around and still kick it with her when she causes drama she will realize that and cause more drama cause it gets you where she wants hanging out.

The hardest part is setting things up in the begining with the "humans should be free and I don't do relationships like that so feel free to go out and bang other guys it's cool I will be bagging other chicks". A lot of the time they will test you and actually go mess around with a dude and you just have to shrug and be like "cool that's awesome" and then be busy the next week and act like there is no issue. Then in her head she goes "hmm that didn't work I thought maybe he would blow up and get mad cause that's usually what would happen". Then she doubles down on a different tactic.

One of the most important points is that you have to own your situation and set boundaries. You would be surprised what girls will take to if you set things up and don't budge on how you do things. What you don't want to do is get in to explaining yourself and trying to make the logical case. Otherwise you get more drama:

Of course she keeps bringing it up cause every time she does y'all have this in depth conversation about it so in her head it's like "I'm convincing him slowly, look here we go again and we are talking about it, the next time maybe he will come around"

I mean when telemarketers call you and try to sell you shit are you all "well I didn't call them so clearly I'm not interested"? If you keep answering their calls and listening to their sales speech and even answering a few questions about yourself then of course you end up in their call back list. Compare to just hanging up or being like "don't call back".

Since you all have a convo about it every time she brings it up, she'll just keep doing it and working you down her sales funnel until you cave. Plus every time she is rewarded with emotions and discussion and more hanging out, so the drama she is causing is actually getting her exactly what she wants so she will likely keep going and even turn up the dial towards more drama.

Combine that with the fact that you're not activley trying to get more chicks cause you're actually hung up on this main one.

Other side girls don't need to be hotter than your main, you keep them around for other reasons like they give bomb head or they really play in to your specific fetish or they are just cool and you like smashing.

Your main is for pair bonding the most, other girls are to fill in the gaps and have other things that you like about them that are different than your main and to keep you from having all your eggs in one basket.

Tip BlackCaesar for their post.