Black or White?
A True Story
We all know what the (or a) black pill is, and what a red pill is. There are purple pills and white pills, and who knows how many others are brewing in background these days.
I’ll leave you, good reader, to decide what sort of pill to apply to the following story.
This is a true story.
Imagine a man with the following “resume”
- Served in the US Marine Corps infantry. Promoted meritoriously (not in combat), Squad Leader, Scout/Sniper, Mountain warfare/cold weather survival instructor, hand-to-hand combat instructor, rear area security skills instructor.
- Business major in college- specifically Finance and Investments. Not just a degree, but a BS in Economics from the Wharton School at UPenn. Not just that but transferred in from a community college at a time when White males were openly discriminated against. Holds a Doctoral degree from another Ivy. Helped launch an internet startup and got wealthy from that two years out of college.
- Slightly above average height, but muscular fit build. Ran a marathon, three half-marathons, and countless 10k races, and about a dozen “mud runs” (Spartan, Warrior Dash, etc.) Owned a fitness business and served as the lead instructor roughly 8/10 looks. Bench press 225, fastest 3 mile run time 20:21.
- Makes well over $150k, stable career, walls full of awards, medals, and proclamations from local and county elected officials for achievements in business. Won the top award in the State for performance in the field. Among the highest ratings among his colleagues. Well over $1million net worth
- Can fix almost anything. Small engines, just about anything carpentry, plumbing and electricity, and about half of auto repairs. Welding and HVAC are also among his competencies.
- Owns two homes – one of which is a small farm as a vacation home in the mountains. ATV’s, firearms, hunting, and archery are all pastimes there. The property borders a river with a huge swimming hole, a barn, and a separate stream with unlimited fresh water. There is also a waterfall near the back of the property. No mortgage or debt.
- Very attuned to body language. Speaks a foreign language fluently and two others at a very basic level. Lived in a foreign country for a year, several states, and a few different towns and cities – easily adapts to new cultural situations. Very extroverted at times, but regular preference is 1-to-1 interactions. Empathetic, but not pathetically so. Driven, focused, and relaxed.
- Can maintain a household; helps with chores, pays all the bills, handles all the medical and other appointments. Very engaged as a father, loving and respectful towards in-laws. Friendly and easygoing, but violent when needed in the street.
- Loves music, outdoor activities, doesn’t even mind going to Ikea once a year. Great with friends, strong social skills, well-known by community leaders, served as a campaign manager for several local elections. Can drink large quantities of alcohol, but you will never ever see this man drunk. Chilled relaxed personality, but driven to achieve.
In short, a 6-6-6-6 man; by every measure he is in the top 10-15% of men on the planet depending on the metric.
> “Sure, okay, fine. But what about his personality? What if he is a jerk?”
Fair enough.
Every single one of his exes (as an adult) begged him to come back when he left. The relationships were all amazing, until they weren’t. He is the one who broke up with all of them. The only thing that seemed to keep those women around for was the sex, date nights, and travel.
> “AHA! He has commitment issues!”
Perhaps. But let’s talk about the reasons for the breakups. Every single one of those relationships ended because those women either killed the trust or showed disrespect. Not just once, but enough times to end it. There is no true intimacy without trust and respect.
> “Okay dude, there must be SOMETHING wrong with this guy”
This may or may not be true. But here is the key point to be had here. Each of the women who had this man wanted MORE from him.
In the end, these women never (or rarely) complained about things he DID, but rather the things he WAS NOT doing. Among the biggest complaints were (true story):
- Not doing dishes enough
- Playing with the children to distract them while wife was cooking (“why do YOU get to have all the fun”)
- Not texting with enough regularity or frequency
- Not committing
What he never heard was:
- You cheated
- You hit or abused me
- You embarrassed me in front of everybody
- You lied
- You did drugs, got drunk, disappeared
- You gambled away our money
- You are lazy
- The sex is bad/not enough
> “Well Mr. Manosphere, YOU keep picking these women. So YOU are the common denominator. Maybe just choose better next time”
Fair enough. This man has thought of that many times. Among his exes are:
- A British women (London)
- A Peruvian woman
- An Irish American woman
- A Columbian American woman
- A Black woman
They were a photographer, a former dancer and actress, a Professor, a teacher, an architect, a manager, and a secretary to name a few. Take from this what you will.
This is a tale, nothing more. But you may have noticed that each of these women had this man, and at some point felt aggrieved enough to complain. Not only that, but complain enough to make it an actual issue in the relationship. Not only that, but the grievance led those women to betray the trust and respect in the relationship.
I ask you to go back and look at the profile of this man. Is he perfect? Of course not. Far from it in fact. But on paper he matches who he is in real life.
And every single one of these women decided that he was not enough in some way.
If you’ve been here long enough, the next question should be “Yeah, but did he maintain frame”
And if there is a criticism to be levied it is this. It only takes one stomach virus, one tear at a funeral, one quiet afternoon when thoughts weigh heavy. If anything EVER shows outwardly, you have lost frame. There are degrees and levels of severity here for sure, but no matter how minute – losing frame is losing frame. Frame requires near 100% perfection all day, every day. This is not human in my experience.
So is this a red pill? Probably not. Nothing new really.
A black pill? Probably, at least in part. No matter how amazing a man can be, it only takes one quirk, one flu, one “off” day.
A white pill? Also, probably. Understanding the fleeting nature of women’s feelings, focus, and desire is the only way to be able to address it out in the world. Blue Pill = didn’t know or understand due to conditioning from childhood; Red Pill = knowing more and putting it into action. Simple as that.
No matter how much you improve, no matter how much money you make, no matter how many other women want you, six pack, friendly, dangerous, bad boy, nice guy, father, husband, lover – none of it matters in the long run.
YES you should improve, and YES you should level up continually throughout your life. But don’t be deluded; this only makes you more competitive as compared to other men. It does not mean women will respect, love, admire, or want you. These things just get you in the door.
And even jacked, popular, rich megastars like Brad Pitt have these issues.
So prepare yourself mentally.
Every male-female relationship is temporary. The woman you meet is different from the one you sleep with, and different from the woman you live with, who is different than the one you leave. Even within a relationship, things continually evolve.
Be the best version of yourself you can possibly be. But don’t think this earns you anything in the long run with any woman in any part of the world.
If you sign a marriage contract, knowing all this, then you are doomed and I wish you well.
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