The year 2017 was my prime. It reached the point where I was making as heavy as $800 per day.

The reason for this was because in that year, I was so dead set on self improvement and “fixing” myself that I worked my ass off from night and day trying to figure out ways to make more money.

I started new projects, started eBay dropshipping, started an eCommerce store and ran all of them smoothly by myself whilst juggling university. I was eighteen then.

At around January/February 2017 I had the idea to create a new project.

That is a screencap from the Paypal account I dedicated to that project.

You can watch the steady rise and decline of it’s income starting from January to December.

Now look at the paypal in 2018:

You can see that there has been a dramatic fall in income.

The cause of this is that during December 2017, I became too comfortable and decided to step out of the business world to focus on partying and spending time with girls.

I slept with a number of girls, travelled, partied, partied some more and became overly lazy. I was making so much money from my projects that I lost patience for other side activities. I dropped the Ebay dropshipping simply because I couldn’t be “bothered” continuing it. My online stores had a halt in sales, rather than spending time to sort it out I closed the store thinking it was useless. At that time my mind was simply focused on smashing women and enjoying the party life.

It was only when my income started to decrease permanently that I realised what was actually happening.

What is interesting is that at that point, I had access to more ways to make money than I did when I was at my prime. This is a concept that is explored in the book “The 5th Law”, when people get comfortable, that is when trouble tends to strike. I became so comfortable with what I already had that I felt no need to extend it any further.

The lesson that I have learned from this is that you should never sabotage the grind for what others are doing. I heard a statement which is said to be from Dr Dre which summarises this perfectly.

“While you’re all partying in the club, I’m making the music you dance to.” – Paraphrased.

We need to sometimes make sacrifices. I’ve gotten back into my habit again though it will take a gradual build up. Women, parties, and nonsense can wait.

Lifting weights: The key to everything in the world is being dedicated to your craft. People seem to have this idea that being built guarantees or gives you confidence. I used to think that way too until I realised that it was actually the opposite. Strength in character is all you need. Guys go to the gym to build muscle so that they can look better and ultimately attract more girls. In turn, girls know this. The amount of low confidence built men out there is ridiculous. Enhance your confidence then focus on gaining muscle and you’ll be fine.

I’m currently writing a book for myself. I’ve taken the Marcus Aurelius route and decided to write a book solely for myself. Nobody else will see this but me. It is essentially filled with vital information and studies that I have picked up over the years.

I’ll share two points from the book that I think may be of interest.

“Never let a person who is more successful than you work harder than you.”

This is one of my favourite thoughts.

Picture this, Person A is a big fan of Person B.

Person B makes $10,000 a month.

Person A only makes $1000 per month.

Person A wishes he could be like person B and studies his lifestyle but takes things slowly.

Person B however, even though he makes $10,000 a month, still runs his multiple sources of income, grinds his ass off. Works stupidly hard to make sure his money keeps growing.

You should never let a person who is more successful than you work harder than you. That just doesn’t make any sense to me. If you ever want your position to change, you need to work harder than the person who you admire.

You can even use me as an example. There is no way you can make more money than me without putting in more effort. I stopped putting in effort and my income went down. It’s just that simple. When I started, I would work from 11am to 4/5am at night. I wouldn’t leave the house, only took breaks to eat and piss. I remember working so hard that my eyes strained to see the computer screen. I then have friends who work as security guards sleeping half of the time on the job complain that they don’t seem to make a lot of money.

“Friendliness disarms people. When meeting people in a limited social situation, be friendly.”

Never let person who is more successful than you work harder than you.

Focus on improving yourself. Women don’t matter that much.

Stop wasting time.

There are things right now you could be doing to set you apart from the rest. Focus on that and not whether or not some girl replied to your text.

Remember, every human has 24 hours in a day. The only difference between you and that self made millionare is how you spend your 24 hours.

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