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Reflections on a lifetime of spinning plates: Does it inevitably lead to unhappiness and crisis as with Roosh V? In my case, a resounding NO!
Published 06/11/19 by MentORPHEUS [0 Comments]

This is a question that comes up frequently on TRP, with a huge surge in the wake of Roosh V's radical change of course:

Does a lifetime of plate spinning inevitably lead to mid-life existential crisis and dissatisfaction?

Important caveats: This essay isn't intended to diagnose or explain Roosh V specifically, nor does it take a position on whether marriage/monogamy/family or single/polygyny/childfree will bring higher life satisfaction for you. I'm mainly going to share my own life experience, about which at >10 years farther along than Roosh I can say with confidence:

No! I could not be happier with my single independent life.

Of all the mid-life crises I have witnessed, Roosh is walking his chosen walk with integrity. While I technically understand his situation, path, and motivations in great detail, I find it unrelatable and cannot empathize with it whatsoever. Here are some of the reasons I believe my outcome unfolded so much differently than those who reach a crisis point.

I've never been religious. I'm not here to crap on people of sincere faith, however the institution of religion is one of the most strong and pervasive blue pills in existence today. The feminine imperative has nothing on religion for giving men reasons to defer their self-interests to nonreciprocal other parties. "Live to our standards or burn in hell for eternity" is one of the most dangerous covert contracts a man could enter. The good news is, Red Pill awareness can help one navigate humans willing to manipulate and exploit people's faith to fulfill other people's needs, and prevent the buildup of a house of deferred rewards cards that will never be dealt to favor you.

I've always been a skeptic seeking underlying causes, rather than stopping at pleasant BP fables. Why "should" I "want" to do things according to common patterns and narratives? Why do most people follow the herd and avoid standing out at any cost? An early example, when I was a kid the family went to a stage production of Peter Pan. When Tinkerbell drank the poison and they called upon the audience to cheer to give her strengh, my Mom tapped me and asked why I wasn't cheering. "Because I want to see if Tinkerbell ACTUALLY DIES if I don't clap." People apply surprising amounts of social pressure to help maintain group illusions; the first thing you need to deflect this is really thick skin.

I've never been tied down by marriage or children, and thus have never been beholden to a personal dream killer. Starting a business with nothing, spending time and money on fast cars, dirt bikes, adventures to remote places, all decided 100% on my terms. My Mom and Grandma thought I was the unhappy black sheep of the family by not getting married and having kids. My Sister's oldest kids were fuckups one of whom prompted them to cut contact with the rest of the family; my Brother just this month said his "perfect" wife of 20+ years has been wanting out for months and literally the DAY their oldest passed his high school finals, HE was "forced" to move to a hotel to keep peace. I've seen dead-eyed parents saddled with an unhealthy, retarded, or antisocial addict child, there's no guarantee of children bringing life fulfillment.

** I've engaged and influenced the greater world in grand ways.** I've successfully fought city hall, changed laws, founded companies, led movements, and left durable improvements on people I've known and places I've been.

I've experienced both short term physical and long term intimate relationships, stuck it in crazy, dated much older and younger, shared passionate and companionate love, even have people in their late 20s who look up to me as a stepfather figure 15+ years after breaking up with their Mom.

  • I confronted my mortality at a young age; while I don't recommend everybody go through a phase of experimenting with psychedelics in their early 20s, actually feeling like you experience dying, death, and some kind of afterlife several times puts this common human fear to rest nicely. This is a big human question; choose approaches that work for you but neglect it at your own peril.

What I'm getting at in all of this detail is, whereas I've lived "the same" single life of plate spinning that Roosh has, that's not all I've done all of these years, therefore I am NOT coming up hollow and empty the same as he more than 10 years on. If I had to boil it down to one common denominator, it is this: I've largely done things that I want when I want so there's no pool of accumulated unfulfilled desires or resentment of overproviding for others lurking under high pressure within.

So, how can a young man starting out avoid hitting a midlife crisis in an uncertain world?

Although mankind has spent untold amounts of precious time searching for meaning and purpose, and built up huge bodies of ideas and belief systems around these efforts, I've come to believe that they are mostly futile and frequently part of the problem. The TRP toolbox of ideas has much of what a man needs to forge a satisfying life for himself in the modern world. * Don't live your life according to others' needs, standards, and wishes * Improve your mind and body continuously * Look through the comfortable illusions that so many humans settle for; do the hard work and see the world for what it is * Covert contracts come in many guises; recognize and reject them * Actively reject sources found to be feeding you even partial BS. Every falsehood you fail to reject is a rotten beam you're willfully building into your mental infrastructure. A worldview that is fractally wrong will eventually become unsustainable and break its holder, at a point in life when it has become too late to recover and correct. TRP does not emphasize this last point enough.

So many people reach points of uncertainty or crisis in their lives, and their go-to move is to take a big step backwards, to follow past solutions like religion, or Marx, or Freud. Worse yet are the ones who take up these expired banners and use them to lead OTHERS backwards, mainly for their own personal gain, not that of those led. The utility and greatness of these people and institutions was situational, taking humanity from where it was BEFORE to as far as they could. So few who ever take their conflicts and turn them toward becoming the new human unifying and fulfilling institution, or the new Marx or Freud to take us from where we are now to ahead.

The world we live in is changing more rapidly than ever in human history. How can a young person know what to do and which direction to go when the pace of change is so fast that the traditional way of passing knowledge from generation to generation has become simply too slow? To successfully navigate the road ahead, you'll need to know how to learn and how to reject falsehoods.

A satisfying life is one you forge for yourself, not a failed effort at living the life others expected you to.

Fuckonomics lesson: Applying the concept of price in the Sexual Marketplace
Published 03/03/19 by MentORPHEUS [0 Comments]

The Fuckonomics series: Discussion of dating and sexual marketplace theory and practice using business and economic models with a goal of increasing proficiency in both dating and business.

Issues I see come up frequently in AskTrp and our comments include "I'm getting too many matches to keep up" and "I'm getting a lot of first dates but no seconds."

It's a problem that newly successful daters and growing entrepreneurs have in common, going from scarcity to substantial volume then becoming buried in a holding pattern of overwork and feeling behind without reward. The solution can be as hard to accept for newly unplugging men as it can be for businessmen tempered by a lean startup period:

If you find yourself buried in work, raise your prices immediately!

With love and money, the market finds its own equilibrium in response to conditions. This gives you a single control point- price- that spares you the effort of sizing up and persuading each and every prospect. In business, more volume than you can handle is the market telling you, you can charge more! Don't be a fool, ramp up your prices until you notice market pushback, then dial down a notch. In your dating funnel and love life, areas you find a logjam of overabundance indicate areas you can ramp up your demands or "price" in the SMP. However, this brings us to another relevant business axiom:

When things are going well, don't make large or radical changes. In business, this means take caution before making large changes to personnel, organization, process, advertising, pricing etc. Smaller steps make it easier to monitor effects and find the perfect equilibrium in metrics like price/volume point, and overshooting becomes hard to walk back as market conditions shift over time. This also applies when making changes in response to dating market pressures; take care that you don't overapply demands or restrictions or do it with conspicuous ruthlessness during times of personal abundance as it can affect your long term reputation and successes in the dating marketplace.

Five applications of the concept of price in the sexual marketplace

When you're getting too many online matches to keep up Once you've gotten your pictures and prose dialed in, you'll start getting a big uptick in initial responses instead of radio silence from the women you contact. If many of these result in good banter that doesn't pan out to meetups, this suggests you're connecting with a large volume of low-matched prospects. "Increase your price" by going bolder toward expressing your expectations and preferences. I strongly recommend sticking to positive qualifiers in dating profiles; I.E.: "I like fit women" as opposed to "I won't date fat women" because the former won't work against you. Increase your word count and clarify your USP to prequalify your prospect stream better. Dial up your specificity until you find yourself working with a small volume of very highly matched prospects. When I first started online dating I'd converse with 20-50 women for every meetup; ultimately I market calibrated this down to 3-5.

When you're getting a lot of number closes in person that don't pan out later The market is suggesting you're attractive and valuable enough, but youre underselling and haven't made an emotional connection in your pitch. "Raise your price" by ramping up your efforts toward making an emotional connection, whether through more kino or bolder suggestions and moves in your escalation. Try putting more zing or emotional English in your first impression, till you see more follow through, but without dramatically decreasing numbers offered.

When you're getting an abundance of first dates and meetups that don't pan out If these end early or abruptly you're blatantly overselling online; but if they seem to go along fine enough as dates/meetups go but end ambivalently without followup, you either need to prequalify better earlier in the dating funnel as above, or the market is indicating headroom to dial up your push-pull and escalation, enough to see better connections and follow through afterward but not so much that you reach noticible pushback and sour-note endings with prospects. I started at about 25% first meet from online going further; now my upstream dating funnel and dialed-in touch and escalation results in 80% of women I meet in person going on to sleep with me.

Relevance to Dread Game "Raise your price in the face of market demand" is also the basis for successfully applied Dread Game. The higher a man's value, the more likely other women will make conspicupus IOIs and flirting moves. Calibrating the correct level of Dread is like The Price Is Right: the goal is to apply up to the correct amount without going over. Ideally this occurs organically without conspicuous or consious effort on the man's part, and the increased perceived value inspires her to "offer a higher price" by increasing mate retention behavior.

Leveraging lower SMV I laugh to see AskTRP posts like "I slept with a low SMV woman how do I salvage my reputation" or "Girl really into me that I'm not that attracted to" For a crowd so intrigrued by Machiavelli and Dark Triad traits (not my personal interests BTW), they're missing the most obvious name-your-price opportunities in the whole damn sexual marketplace while recoiling like kids afraid that touching a nasty girl will give them cooties. Leverage the natural advantage of SMV-differential arbitrage and use these opportunities to flex your growing power and develop the habits and frame that will give you the experience to act as a natural as you hit your stride and find successes with ever higher-SMV prospects. Make female orbiters of women you don't want to sleep with; use these situations to experiment and leverage phenomena like the intermittent reinforcement schedule while collecting benefits like favors, rides, home cooked meals. Push and see just how far this "price" thing can go! Eventually, you'll find their upper limit of demands, or better prospects will price them out of your personal market.

In the sexual marketplace, Approach and Escalation are the man's prerogative. As you build value in yourself as a man, abundance will follow in your personal marketplace. When you find an area of abundance or surplus in your love life, it's a market indication that you can "raise your price" or command more than you currently are in this area. Blue Pill conditioning and our natural protective instinct make men more timid and cautious than necessary in the sexual marketplace. Watch market feedback carefully, adjust upward with control and don't overshoot, but fulfill your prerogative and raise your prices in life's transactions as high as the market will bear.

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