@phm First off if you're on a "date" she's already interested. She doesn't get drinks with orbiters unless they're paying for her. If you find yourself on a lot of dates and it ends up know-where ya blew it.

On average it begins at a bar "for food" because I like to eat. It's a good excuse not to look like you're trying to drown her in drinks to take her home right after. Most the time I'm not hungry so I end up just getting myself a drink. First I sit right across from her like an interview and I'm trying to find out if I want her on my roster. I use the first 30min to an hour getting to know her so I can make jokes at her expense. I'm not nice and I am always criticizing her but I'm funny about it. You need to learn when to let up and let her recover mentally from your jabs otherwise you'll ruin the mood.

After I get enough info and have made the mood fun I excuse to the bathroom not because I'm faking it but because I chug at least 1 gallon of water a day.When I return I sit next to her in her booth and put my hand immediately on her leg and lightly grip right behind her knee. This is where I get physical fast.

Earlier on she might be mad at me for a joke I made about her so I'll quickly grab her hand and lean into her pretending she's been my girlfriend for a long time and say something along the lines of we're having fake relationship issues. e.g. ", ! I really just think our passions got the best of us" and play up that insincere "Ryan Reynolds" character for a few seconds before continuing the conversation. This keeps up until I've been physical with her enough to know if she's comfortable with me and then I say we should get out of here.

If she's submissive she might not be feisty so she doesn't need that much physical back-and-forth. Simply stroking her leg (super slow) while we continue to talk is enough and I'll offer to show her some music back at my place.