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Do you think that younger girls (18-22) find cold approaches / day game creepy compared to older women? I wonder this because I am 20 and was finishing school as Instagram came about. Before reading TRP the thought of approaching a woman was unheard of unless in a bar/club/work. Almost everyone I know has met on tinder or through mutual friends at a party or whatever. I literally know nobody who met because the guy approached her in person.
I think it was on the new podcast that one of the guys said that women often say "no one has done this in forever" in reference to being approached. My guess is that now in the younger adult demographic, this almost never happens due to dating apps which would make it 'creepy' when a guy actually approaches. Thoughts?
How do become hard? Thicker skin, mentally tougher? I work in a high level construction job where it's common to get screamed at by dudes and honestly it scares me. I need to get hard to compete with them. I was thinking martial arts? I have a pretty bad back atm but it never seems to get any better so maybe it could help. I'm 20 btw
what are the betas called that are 100% stinking beta trash in everyday behavior, real embarrasing to be around, but have bigger dicks than men and/or lay down the pipe with some next level type skills. like, even the women they somehow get to smash don't like to be around them, but the ones that let them in end up cumming like crazy. then back to 'gtfo this douche retarded' during daytime, hanging out with normal people, but then 'brb need cock' time cones and she's calling him indtead of a man. I know the panties get wet from being around men, but in the end not every normal man is able to lay it down like that, there are limits. so are these beta dumbshits now alpha overall? do you look at it like they don't gotta act no specific way, can be goofy feminist clowns and still have a bitch clinging which is alpha? what do you think?Read More
Does anyone ever feel like they can't live up to the 'mystery' or image you represent to women? In my bio for tinder I say I am a business owner and I think I have some decent pictures, my friend is a photographer and managed to get some good shots. I've had a lot of attention after updating them, and longer conversations after consciously being vague and not giving information.
For example, my business is a yet to have a first client but all the groundwork is laid down. They don't know that, and if they ask specifics they'll see I'm no Bill Gates, and because my pictures are good I often think when they see me in real life they will be expecting more. I'm not taking the piss and catfishing but it feels like I painted the best picture of myself that now they'll be expecting exactly what they have been imaginingRead More
Hey guys long post but just asking for some advice. I've been on TRP since 2017 and in 2017 I had my first GF at 18. In school I just kept my head down and worked and I didn't really give a shit about girls or relationships as I thought they were petty at that age, and all the girls I wanted to get with were way out of my league. In my final year of school (age 15 perhaps, I cringe even today about this) I got into an LDR with some Russian chick. I won't get into the hows but anyway it went on for like 8 months and it is what actually led to me to TRP.
Around that time I joined a new school and I witnessed the concepts in real life as I read about them. Anyway, made out with some girls, got a GF, got laid, got rid of her after a few months after too many red flags and because she was a drain and then I started uni. Uni comes, didn't get any 'action' during freshers in any clubs until later into the year from a friend of a friend but she never let me go to her place (and I live far from uni where trains stop at midnight and reopen at 6, so I don't go out much and I can't bring a chick back on an hour's train journey to my parents house). Plus I had stopped reading TRP, made loads of blue pill mistakes with this girl, stopped the gym and got complacent. Since, I have had nothing.
My friends take the piss out of me for being single by saying things like "if I was single in uni, I wonder how many of these girls I'd be fucking", "she wants to fuck me so bad, if I didn't have a GF I would, why don't you get on her?" or "you need to get back in the game" and I just think shit I am fucking trying lol. I'm halfway through second year and haven't had sex in 18 months. So, instead of chasing tail and failing, I've just changed my goal to sorting my life out - I've opened a business with two others and have been laying foundations since - we are launching in January. I started BJJ and have been training a year soon, am learning different languages and I am studying loads as I sucked last year with my exams. I have been training in the gym again for the last six months, mainly power lifting for bjj so I haven't really put on much size but I am bigger than where I used to be.
I wouldn't say I'm awful looking, I'm 5'8, 140 lbs at maybe 12% bodyfat so I am kinda small but I do have some muscle however I don't have much mass. I have tried talking to girls on my course but I don't want to shit where I eat by cold approaching every nice looking girl I see at uni. I am using the New Year to completely quit porn as I believe that has been detrimental for me in regards to talking to girls as it stops the IDGAF approach mentality. I do have a social life but I don't go out lots as I don't like to fuck with my training (I train bjj around 3/5x a week and the gym 3/4x). I also don't believe the age group of girls which I aim to speak to (18-20, I am 20 and look young for my age) have any desire to actually meet guys in clubs or nights out but rather they go for validation. I've tried dating apps like tinder, bumble and okcupid to find non-party girls but I lose the motivation for talking to them as so many they seem like they have 0 mission in life and just suck from society. Don't get me wrong, there are many decent girls I've matched with and spoken to, but I lose interest in some of them as they are boring or not as attractive as previously thought, and those I scheduled dates with, flaked. I end up just using them to improve my openers and game but not any physical skills like escalation or verbal game.
Anyway, the point of this post, is that I am completely through with my bullshit where I don't try. I will be improving every facet of my life but I don't know how. I am restructuring my gym program for size and strength and eating more, I am creating a source of income. I am learning new languages, read books about stocks, training judo, bjj, muay thai, but I don't know what else there is to do for me to improve, as to both my own value and my SMV. I don't want to miss out on the abundance of girls in college. I do have some good verbal cocky/funny game but for me it works best in house parties with less competition and it allows you to slowly graft as the night progresses, however there are no house parties at uni, and the social circles I have which do host parties, all the girls are girlfriends of my mates or are not great looking.
I get I sound a bit whingey but I legit have no idea what else to do. I feel as though I have tried everything. I'm re reading the Rational Male too to get my head in the game. Any help or advice would be sincerely appreciated. Do I quite being a bitch? Was anyone else like this?Read More
Hi Guys, Need some help regarding frame and escalation. So I met this girl at work and we chatted for 2-3 times. I was planning for a vacation so we decided to meet/hangout after my break. After 2 weeks we met again and I asked her number. Instead she asked mine saying her phone is new (which i think is an excuse for something). I feel in her frame at that moment and gave mine. Not texted me since 2 weeks but she still initiates conversation whenever she sees me but I don't know where to proceed from here. How can I turn this around?
Hi guys can anyone give me dime tips on how to pass a Flaky Shit test from a Girl. After passing the typical "Buy me a drink" shit test. I told her to join me on weekend for drinks. She agreeded to go, but told me we needed yo reschedule for next weekend. How would you guys answer?
I will jump straight to the point without telling a whole lot of backstory to it. How do you make a person feel a certain way with they are with you? While in a social setting, I have started to observe a lot of social dynamics, which made me a little more quiet than I used to be. Is it possible, that you observe other people and find their fantasies and make them talk more about themselves, revealing themselves without making it obvious? How can one hide his intentions?
I have a problem I'm not sure how to solve... I don't know how to improve my talking skills, when I talk to girls either alone or in a group, in person or in text, I just have nothing to say, which means mostly that the conversation will freeze... I have no idea how to improve those skills, as I try to talk (mostly on text) but nothing comes out, when I try to talk to set a date or something or to advance to some next level somehow I always get ghosted and I don't understand what am I doing wrong
I don't know how to explain it better, I just don't know what to talk about, simply nothing comes to mind, and it's not that I don't want to, I do I just don't have anything to talk about I heard some say that "there's is nothing wrong to stay silent, let her do some work" but hell, they don't do any work, not with me anyway (I have friends that they do initiate conversation and much more) and I don't know how to improve it, it's not like I have feedback from them, like...I have...dead silence. so...yeah...I don't know how can I solve it, the best way I can think of is to look at other people conversations and learn things from them, but for that I need to find people's normal conversations but which I can't seem to find...
also I read about some flirting tips, here, on other websites but as they are very abstract as to 'you need to feel the conversation' and such it's not very helpful, probably something with my choice of words is not good
any ideas on how can I improve this? any tips? books?Read More