3mo ago The Hub

@Vermillion-Rx If a man or a woman is family oriented, they shouldn't wait 34yo to find someone to build a family with. Vetting take time and I don't understand how someone can have children without knowing their partners for at least more than 5 years (and living with). So anyone wanting to have children should start looking for a serious partner when they are young. I'm not defending older women that are waiting too late to find someone to make a family with, I'm defending the idea that you can find someone to make your life with when you're both still young (in your twenties) and there being the same age isn't an issue.

I think Trump is using himself the term trophy wife to decribe Melania. I don't think it is feminist langage, just a word associated with younger and prettier women compared to their husbands, mostly stay at home or earning way less.

3mo ago The Hub

@Lionsmane8 It's not the most common situation in my circle. My older brother, male cousin and 2 other male friends are in a relationship since some years with women their age (or 3 years younger for one), and they are either religious traditionnal or just family oriented traditionnal.

Actually among my friends that are in a relationships, only one has a boyfriend that is 4 or 5 years older and she is the one that is monkey branching everytime (one new bf every year basically, she is the one saying that she doesn't stand loneliness).

I'm from West Europe, maybe the situation here is different from the US I don't know. But I would blindly bet on some of my friend's relationships to last for the next 20 years easily because their values are just so similar I don't see how it could not work out.

3mo ago The Hub

@Vermillion-Rx At max, man in his late twenties is still in approximately the same situation and/or mental place than me, but over that I find it hard to believe he could relate to someone my age.

I'm sure there is young women that would gladly take the younger trophy wife role those guys can offer and I wish for them to match, but I'm not looking for someone that exhibit the trait of valuing looks over everything else or worse see me as a perishable object, because then the risk of him just leaving in 10 years for someone younger is increased compared to someone my age that just want to find a compatible partner early (mid twenties nowadays) to build something long term and meaningful.

I put in that case the traditionnal men who are family oriented.

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MentORPHEUS

3mo ago The Hub

@Lone_Ranger Oops... tag @Green_Echoe

carnold03

3mo ago The Hub

@Green_Echoe

Hello again,

What would you think of a woman you're dating inviting you to the restaurant (implying she pays) ?

I'm considering doing that but I'm a bit concerned it could be seen as emasculating ? For context it seems fair since he is the one spending money to come and see me (prob more than a hundred in total but I'm the one taking care of groceries when he is there), we always shared bills (snack places/activities) otherwise but haven't been to a proper restaurant for now, he suggested it last time but I declined since I had other plans for both of us in the evening.

Do it for his birthday.

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Green_Echoe

3mo ago The Hub

@Lionsmane8 No ? I'm less than 25yo and it's a personnal feeling when a >30yo man hit on me.

My parents have an important age gap (10 years) and my mother was still a teenager when they met. It always made me uncomfortable, and I noticed an imbalance in their relationship growing up. Even if I admit they are still together, they are not a good example of relationship I want to follow. (Functionning yes, happy eeeh)

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Green_Echoe

3mo ago The Hub

@coolsocks00 I know it's not serious but dating an older man that is with you for your youth is the same as dating a cheater that left their past relationship for you, you just have to expect them to ditch you for a younger one Di Caprio style later on/for another girl they cheated on you with.

Also it's just creepy imo

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Green_Echoe

3mo ago The Hub

@Kloi Maybe it's different in my langage, but there is a difference for me between asking if you're down for a restaurant/if you would like to eat out AND saying "I'm inviting you to the restaurant tonight". The latter implied you're paying, it's not the same as asking "would you like to go to xxx ?".

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Green_Echoe

3mo ago The Hub

@Lone_Ranger I just want to make sure it's not weird and it won't be perceived as he is owing me something after that, nor that I'm flexing anything since I'm in a better financial place for now ?

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Green_Echoe

3mo ago The Hub

@coolsocks00 Yeah that's more what I meant, poor choice of word my bad.