@Eurm

Hey tribe!

I'd love your opinion on something..

I went with my GF for 2 weeks to Morocco and After returning I got invited with my gf to a bbq. She told me I should go alone to spend time with my friends so she could spend time by her self...

That was my first trigger...

Although I communicated from the beginning the importance of “me” time.

I went by myself of course and had a great time! She responded pretty casual to it.

Today she meets her friend in town (girl) for dinner.

But somehow she got nicely dressed up and told me before she left 2 other friends (guys) are coming.

I met one of the guys before with his girlfriend and he's cool.

But somehow it triggers me because of yesterday and today...

Or is it just me who needs to chill out?

Because 2 weeks Is a lot of spending time with each other and I love having a relationship without jealousy or envy.

But maybe I'm facing this right now?

Not sure man... Just trying to get my head straight.

She does keep talking about the future with me and buying a farm etc etc etc.

Any advice is welcome. And I'm curious what you guys think

Thanks!

It might've been too soon a move on your part to take a girlfriend on a two week vacation to Morocco. It reads like those two weeks with you where all that was needed to kill her interest in her relationship with you. Now she's coasting because she envisions a payout at the end and you're conflicted because your RP-awareness has you in a panic because you know you've got one-itis.

Hey tribe!

I'd love your opinion on something..

I went with my GF for 2 weeks to Morocco and After returning I got invited with my gf to a bbq. She told me I should go alone to spend time with my friends so she could spend time by her self...

That was my first trigger...

Although I communicated from the beginning the importance of “me” time.

I went by myself of course and had a great time! She responded pretty casual to it.

Today she meets her friend in town (girl) for dinner.

But somehow she got nicely dressed up and told me before she left 2 other friends (guys) are coming.

I met one of the guys before with his girlfriend and he's cool.

But somehow it triggers me because of yesterday and today...

Or is it just me who needs to chill out?

Because 2 weeks Is a lot of spending time with each other and I love having a relationship without jealousy or envy.

But maybe I'm facing this right now?

Not sure man... Just trying to get my head straight.

She does keep talking about the future with me and buying a farm etc etc etc.

Any advice is welcome. And I'm curious what you guys think

Thanks!

@Eurm

How do you guys do it with chores at home? We both work the equal amount of hours

Do you believe it should be 50/50? Or a man will lift and fix stuff while the woman is more into cleaning etc?

Curious to hear your toughts

50/50 and other modernist egalitarian concepts of equality are generally "nice" ideas in many instances, but like most of modernity, nicety tends to mask the dis-genuine interests and insincerity of other people. You're not going to find many married women willing to lug around several hundred pounds of groceries into the family home every month these days to restock the pantry, fridge, and freezer, if she has a man she can task with such errands. It won't matter if that woman has access to steel shopping carts and a payload capable motor-vehicle to do the bulk of the hauling. Even if that man is a soft-handed scrawny educated professional, females instinctively expect to be able to utilize the labor of men they have access to, to maintain or enhance their quality of life.

As a male you're going to find yourself doing the bulk of any chores and errands which require any lifting whether or not a female is an active beneficiary or participant to the task, whether in a relationship or not. As all relationships are a balance of give and take, if you've somehow failed to define the negligible amount of give you're willing to provide in response to her desire to take, then you two will eventually have problems. Hence why so many people refer to give and take as a game.

It's in relationship situations like these that you will primarily encounter the first signs of trouble in short falls in your woman's style of communication that you will need to invest the time to train her out of. If those communication failings persist once you believe you've effectively instructed her otherwise, you will need to eventually eject the female from the relationship, or pack up your things and leave, as you will find such actions moving forward in the relationship as nascent signs of contempt when they escalate.

A female that has contempt for male companionship and authority is a venomous viper. This is also why you'll never go a year without reading of stories of wives who left their husbands for a plumber, electrician, tradesman/contractor of some sort, and so on.

cc: @Wokedown

@Eurm I would bet money on it that it comes from insecurity. If she does not say a lot, she’s unsure around you, especially if you are dominant. The only way she dares to speak is to neg you. Making a joke about a guy she admires and apparently others in the group respect would not be detrimental to your status but could boost her status in the group if the jokes are truly funny. If you tell her harshly to stop, instead of losening up, she will become more insecure. You are not that long together right? It will eventually stop when she gets more comfortable around you. If it’s important to you, I’d include her in the conversation more. Do it like you would when you flirt with a group of girls. Evidently she’s interesting enough that you made her your LTR, so she should be able to say something interesting.

The good thing about TRP is that we keep girls on their toes and therefore they do what we want. The bad part is that the girls are often very insecure around us because we keep them on their toes, and acting stupid because of it. If she is your LTR, you must constantly keep her in the perfect middle of these two.

@Eurm

Should I? Some. Say she’ll lose respect?

How would you approach this?

Next time you're with her just calmly ask her why she's doing what she's doing. Find out what goal she thinks you should be working toward. When she tells you what that goal is, calmly rephrase the question you previously asked her, and punctuate it by asking her if she's serious. If she confirms her first answer with her follow-up, ask her a few more questions that may come to mind and when you've had enough, tell her she's given you a lot to think about.

No woman's going to think you're weak for asking her a question about her actions, unless it pertains to her obvious infidelity. Chicks love to talk, it's one of the few things they do better than guys and it's oftentimes best to just let them do it as it does most of the work for you.

If you feel comfortable in doing so, by all means, come back and share with us what it is that she wants from you. There are many things a woman will want a man to do to "improve" themselves that the man will not want to do for various reasons. It's best to take the information to reference sources to find out what, if any benefits, or negatives, you'll have to deal with if you consider her request. If you need help on that end, one of us should be able to point you in the right direction.