Slightly older than me, but very attractive co-worker did the basic instinct move on me today during lunch hour. I was the only one who could see, she looked at me, did it, then turned away and continued the conversation. Rather perplexing, but pleasant surprise. Had to hold my laugh in as it was so calculated.
@geismaikati This seems like a comfort test to me which means she thinks she’s no attractive enough for you. Tell her she shouldn’t worry, it’s no big deal. Or tell her, it has nothing to do with her, if you also think it’s a comfort test. If I’m correct and it’s a comfort test, not being dismissive and cold is the solution. You could tell her what @mentorpheus wrote, I like that one.
It really is not a big deal. A friend of mine who gets a lot of chicks can’t cum the first 2-3 times with a girl always. Has sex with them, no problem, but can’t cum. That’s just how it is sometimes.
@MentORPHEUS @DanielLarson exactly what I would have said. Just to emphasize mentorpheus’ point. I did what he said once, shrugged it off, didn’t explain myself. Said “happens to the best of us” and the girl told me weeks later (without me asking) that she couldn’t believe how calm I handled it and that she knew she found someone mentally strong.
Remember, women like to see you stay calm in the face of social pressure. It’s one of the ultimate DHVs. Don’t explain yourself. She’s testing you if she’s offended.
The best mindset for dates with women in my opinion is “nothing is ever a big deal”. I think I got it from RSD years ago. If you act like that, really, nothing is a big deal.
@Tennisball1- go to the forums, click on the sidebar and read it through. Even before that, go to the forums search for top posts and read the top 10-20 at least. If the videos are still on YouTube you could also check out some old RSD stuff, this will give you a very quick introduction to PUA.
@Tennisball1- did you ever even bother to read the side bar or the top posts on TRP?
You are creating a shit show of a relationship. You are what Rollo calls “children with dynamite”.
She thinks you have a hot date means she thinks you are that attractive. Simultaneously she probably worries about you leaving her as she wants you to commit. Then you are telling her she’s boring. It’s completely obvious that her ego is hurt and she has to say something to make you feel like she could leave.
Why do you tell her she’s boring? Is it so she can change? What do you do when she does? Is it to neg her? If yes, that’s a stupid one if it’s spoken seriously. Do you want to tell her it’s not gonna be serious? Yes? Why then use boring as a reason? Do you want her to be more fun or have you already decided that she’s not good enough for more than a short term plate? Is she absolutely boring or relative to some chick looking at you? Why do you attribute every move a woman makes as malicious? Think about these questions, I don’t want an answer.
The definition of woman’s feelz is that she acts UNCONCIOUSLY. You are interpreting her behavior like she’s a man. These sentences just come out of them, they don’t even know why. In this case, she tells you “look, I got other options, you can’t do what you want with me”. If that’s true or not is another thing entirely.
Do you even know what you want? Because that is what TRP can give you: what you want. But if you can’t figure it out what that is, then you’ll run in circles without enjoying anything about it.
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@Dad-issues69 I give you advice from experience. If you won’t do it soon, she’ll likely drop you. Try to fuck her next time. Even if she turns you down, it will make her attracted. Make your intentions clear. Get her thinking about it when you whisper in her ear and touch her over her panties. And when you finally bang her, do it carefully because it could hurt very much. If she can take it, sure, give it to her. Make sure that it’s a good experience for her. If you are experienced, lead her, let it show in your actions.
I’m sure she’s partly with you because she knows you’re experienced and she wants you to fuck her.