From this business trip.

I was working with a group of 3 women. All around 25-30 years old, I am 30. One was this annoying but good looking Indian girl who was frame testing from the beginning. I was super witty, so that clicked quickly. When we were in a larger group the Indian girl really outdid herself and called me a weirdo twice during a convo. It was somewhat in good fun but weirdo is never good. I did just continue the conversation without acknowledging her or trying to deny. Held frame, kept it moving. The new people in the group all appreciated me and we were on good terms the whole trip.

Now comes the fun part. A second girl, Irish, very funny, was also in my group from the beginning and each time I slapped down a comment from the Indian chick or her where indian went “oh we got a sassy one here!” or similar, Irish girl started giggling. At the end of the trip we had a final dinner. Indian chick didn’t come, felt under the weather. Irish girl texted me if we could go together. We also walked back to the hotel together. She insisted we don’t go to bed but stay awake and talk. I said where. She suggested the stairs (the stairs!). We sat on the stairs that are separated from the rest of the hotel by doors. I leaned over all the time, put her head on my shoulder, wouldn’t let me go. Teased me, tried to seduce me. I told her eventually that nothing good happens after midnight and I’ll go to sleep. She texted me that she wishes me the best for the future. That was that.

She was a really funny person. Wish she could have just been friendly instead of seductive. But it’s fine, same outcome.

Need to vent:

There’s downsides to TRP.

Started TRP journey in 2014. Was pretty successful with all of it and I’m still a way above average attractive guy as I also instinctively handle all this frame stuff (been that way for years now).

I am in a super happy marriage. I wouldn’t trade her for any woman. I am very content with the situation and how life is going.

The downside to TRP is that I get in these situations where sometimes attractive females are just throwing themselves at me. Happens like twice a year where we really vibe on like business trips or whatever. My issue is that I like the attention and more than that, it’s just fun flirting a bit and just not taking anything seriously. To me, it’s just natural. But for them it’s reason to pursue if I don’t break frame intentionally. I wear a ring and I mention that I am happily married. Doesn’t matter. They try to get me to secluded places and mention how they don’t like me but actually do like me, they get intentionally touchy even though I don’t touch at all. I even ask them if they have a boyfriend and they say yes, but they want to break up.

It’s cool to know that I still got it and that I could pull women if I needed to but I’d really appreciate if they’d kept it more chill. It’s fine being attracted to each other and enjoying company, but why always push to the point of the “I dare you to make the next move”-look in their eyes. Sure I am also to blame if I let it get that far but it’s not as if on a business trip you’ll find two people you actually like to hang out with. You are lucky to enjoy the company of one person in the small group.

Maybe it’s also that I don’t know how to not flirt since I’ve internalized all of this TRP stuff so much and there actually is a way to have an engaging and funny convo without wanting intercourse. I may just need to stay away from one on one convos with women entirely and just only talk to guys in the future.