Alright gentleman I have a burning question to ask.
I'm pretty new to the red pill but I don't have anything to complain regarding attraction and female attention. I do would love your insight about how to treat your 'friends' / 'brothers' in certain situations.
Since I'm dating this new girl and she comes over he always seems to make fun of me or play me down. He's a housemate. I know this is an easy way to have a sense of being an alpha male. I'm trying to stay grounded in these situations...
For example; I wanted to cook something and the cutting board disappeared. He says out loud: It always happens to him. He clears up but then forgets's where the stuff is.
The last time when he did this in front of me and the girl, I kinda used the method of over-exaggerating (About how unbelievably awesome he is) and it seemed to work. If he will do it again I chat with him in person next time and tell him straight up. But I'm wondering what to do in a situation when the girl you're dating is there?
I like him as a person but something seems off.. I also know that we as a man have this tendency to downplay man (in a fun kind of way), even if it's your friend.
Now, this doesn't seem to painfully but the intention behind this makes me wonder.. It seems to happen more and more where he wants to bring me off guard. I sense it quickly but can't seem to respond fast enough.
I do have a fear of somebody running off with my girl because this happened to my dad. I'm working on this core belief through inner child work!
I'm wondering: How would you react? What would you do in these kinds of situations? Or should I just calm the f*k down?
Thanks in advance!
Read More3y ago TheRedPill
Alright gentleman I have a burning question to ask.
I'm pretty new to the red pill but I don't have anything to complain regarding attraction and female attention. I do would love your insight about how to treat your 'friends' / 'brothers' in certain situations.
Since I'm dating this new girl and she comes over he always seems to make fun of me or play me down. He's a housemate. I know this is an easy way to have a sense of being an alpha male. I'm trying to stay grounded in these situations...
For example; I wanted to cook something and the cutting board disappeared. He says out loud: It always happens to him. He clears up but then forgets's where the stuff is.
The last time when he did this in front of me and the girl, I kinda used the method of over-exaggerating (About how unbelievably awesome he is) and it seemed to work. If he will do it again I chat with him in person next time and tell him straight up. But I'm wondering what to do in a situation when the girl you're dating is there?
I like him as a person but something seems off.. I also know that we as a man have this tendency to downplay man (in a fun kind of way), even if it's your friend.
Now, this doesn't seem to painfully but the intention behind this makes me wonder.. It seems to happen more and more where he wants to bring me off guard. I sense it quickly but can't seem to respond fast enough.
I do have a fear of somebody running off with my girl because this happened to my dad. I'm working on this core belief through inner child work!
I'm wondering: How would you react? What would you do in these kinds of situations? Or should I just calm the f*k down?
Thanks in advance!
Read More@Eurm I don’t know him so I’m making a flash judgement, but I would guess he’s insecure/jealous about you bringing chicks over . It also depends on the context of your relationship- is he a close friend? A drinking buddy? Roommate/ acquaintance? This should change your response.
Two strategies to try:
Agree to what he says & amplify it to ridiculous proportion. Ex “Dude Eurm, you have such a tiny cock” “Yeah man I’m actually a tranny, I chopped off my dick when I was 15”
Or just completely ignore what he says and don’t respond. Make it seem like he’s dissing a brick wall, he’ll just look stupid. And if he says more shit and you keep ignoring it, he looks stupider - why would this guy keep obsessing over saying something to you?
Whatever you do don’t go on the defensive and start disagreeing. This makes you look like you actually care about + value his opinion.
Try those tactics out. They should help. These tactics also work well with women.
Read More3y ago The Hub
@Eurm If it's a situation where you know dead to rights he hid the cutting board to fuck with that specific meal prep, and he knows that you know, an amused mastery approach would be to call him out on it, saying in the presence of all 3 of you, "If you hope to win the girls you can't act like one by playing petty games. Girls want men, not petty little boys who hide the cutting board."
@neo_ Thanks a lot! The amplify seems always to work well. Although, he is a kind of a friend and without even thinking about the girl I want to put certain boundaries down from man to man I feel like. He seems to take the piss more and more and I feel that I have to do something about it. or should I just let this slip?
Thanks for the response guys! I do understand that he isn't even a 'threat' and he might be a little bitch. But what do you guys think of putting boundaries down from man to man? I've been doing this in the past to let them stop. He does trigger something in me..
It just seems like he is changing into a wannabe 'alpha' when she's around.
I dont like to have friends who dont respect me. Although I know it's something that we man tend to do out of jealousy/envy.
3y ago TheRedPill
@BigBoiBahmani That's clear! Thanks for the response. Would you say to take him aside and tell him that he should stop being a 'wannabe - alpha'? Or what would you do in this situation? Because I do mind about my own internal state and he seems to trigger me!
Hey Guys,
The girl I'm dating is awesome and she ticks of all the boxes I like to see in a woman.
The only
1 that's missing and that's that she keeps saying is that:
Women are not paid equally, still are not present in equal numbers in business or politics, and globally women's education, health and the violence against them is worse than that of men...
What do you guys think about this?
I know Rollo talked about this but can anybody give me a clear answer on if this is actually true or not? And what to say to these feminist movements?
I would love to hear your insight and if I should tell her about this
@Aging-Chad Thanks a lot dude! It's so hard to ignore this though while we all get bombarded with this on 'woman's day' why isn't there a men's day?
What is btw AA?
Hey Guys,
The girl I'm dating is awesome and she ticks of all the boxes I like to see in a woman.
The only
1 that's missing and that's that she keeps saying is that:
Women are not paid equally, still are not present in equal numbers in business or politics, and globally women's education, health and the violence against them is worse than that of men...
What do you guys think about this?
I know Rollo talked about this but can anybody give me a clear answer on if this is actually true or not? And what to say to these feminist movements?
I would love to hear your insight and if I should tell her about this
cc: @Aging-Chad