How do you guys do it with chores at home? We both work the equal amount of hours
Do you believe it should be 50/50? Or a man will lift and fix stuff while the woman is more into cleaning etc?
Curious to hear your toughts
50/50 and other modernist egalitarian concepts of equality are generally "nice" ideas in many instances, but like most of modernity, nicety tends to mask the dis-genuine interests and insincerity of other people. You're not going to find many married women willing to lug around several hundred pounds of groceries into the family home every month these days to restock the pantry, fridge, and freezer, if she has a man she can task with such errands. It won't matter if that woman has access to steel shopping carts and a payload capable motor-vehicle to do the bulk of the hauling. Even if that man is a soft-handed scrawny educated professional, females instinctively expect to be able to utilize the labor of men they have access to, to maintain or enhance their quality of life.
As a male you're going to find yourself doing the bulk of any chores and errands which require any lifting whether or not a female is an active beneficiary or participant to the task, whether in a relationship or not. As all relationships are a balance of give and take, if you've somehow failed to define the negligible amount of give you're willing to provide in response to her desire to take, then you two will eventually have problems. Hence why so many people refer to give and take as a game.
It's in relationship situations like these that you will primarily encounter the first signs of trouble in short falls in your woman's style of communication that you will need to invest the time to train her out of. If those communication failings persist once you believe you've effectively instructed her otherwise, you will need to eventually eject the female from the relationship, or pack up your things and leave, as you will find such actions moving forward in the relationship as nascent signs of contempt when they escalate.
A female that has contempt for male companionship and authority is a venomous viper. This is also why you'll never go a year without reading of stories of wives who left their husbands for a plumber, electrician, tradesman/contractor of some sort, and so on.
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@carnold03 I did it!
Thanks for your encouragement and it really helped me to just stay calm.
I want to come from a place of truth and clarity and I am done with “game”
This feels 100% right and after she cried she was super grateful and told me that this is the exact thing she needs to learn.
She felt it came from her perfectionism and she never had a relationship with somebody like this where this gets shared rather than “forgotten”
Thanks a lot man!
@Eurm I would bet money on it that it comes from insecurity. If she does not say a lot, she’s unsure around you, especially if you are dominant. The only way she dares to speak is to neg you. Making a joke about a guy she admires and apparently others in the group respect would not be detrimental to your status but could boost her status in the group if the jokes are truly funny. If you tell her harshly to stop, instead of losening up, she will become more insecure. You are not that long together right? It will eventually stop when she gets more comfortable around you. If it’s important to you, I’d include her in the conversation more. Do it like you would when you flirt with a group of girls. Evidently she’s interesting enough that you made her your LTR, so she should be able to say something interesting.
The good thing about TRP is that we keep girls on their toes and therefore they do what we want. The bad part is that the girls are often very insecure around us because we keep them on their toes, and acting stupid because of it. If she is your LTR, you must constantly keep her in the perfect middle of these two.Read More
Should I? Some. Say she’ll lose respect?
How would you approach this?
Next time you're with her just calmly ask her why she's doing what she's doing. Find out what goal she thinks you should be working toward. When she tells you what that goal is, calmly rephrase the question you previously asked her, and punctuate it by asking her if she's serious. If she confirms her first answer with her follow-up, ask her a few more questions that may come to mind and when you've had enough, tell her she's given you a lot to think about.
No woman's going to think you're weak for asking her a question about her actions, unless it pertains to her obvious infidelity. Chicks love to talk, it's one of the few things they do better than guys and it's oftentimes best to just let them do it as it does most of the work for you.
If you feel comfortable in doing so, by all means, come back and share with us what it is that she wants from you. There are many things a woman will want a man to do to "improve" themselves that the man will not want to do for various reasons. It's best to take the information to reference sources to find out what, if any benefits, or negatives, you'll have to deal with if you consider her request. If you need help on that end, one of us should be able to point you in the right direction.Read More
@TwoInchesOfShaft Thanks a lot for this.
Happy to hear that I’m not the only one. And yes I always try to make joke around it but I wonder where this is coming from?
If she doesn’t say to much but opens her mouth to talk it this way it bugs me.
Should I just tell her about it ?
@Eurm seems to me like a fitness test. My girl does it to me sometimes and I to her. She’s trying me and I hold frame and usually just topple her whole point with a witty joke or with just showing that I don’t even take her serious. Patting her on the head, saying “good little secretary” if she would correct my pronunciation like yours does. My girl loves it because she realizes in that moment that even with social pressure on her side, I still own her.
It could also be malicious and a lack of respect, but before you don’t have very clear signs that this is the case, you should NOT react like it is that way. You’d lose frame and essentially get her to lose respect.
You should be able to tell the difference through body language, facial expression and word choice. If not, you must talk to more people and get great social skills otherwise you’ll fuck it up eventually.Read More
What to do when your girl
consantly trysconstantly tries to improve you in front of your friends .?
I feel like when I make a little speaking mistake or say something where I can get dragged down she
’slikes to be a smart ass…
I wonder where this behavior is coming from
She almost doesn’t know any of my friends and it seems to me she likes to proof something…
It only happens in these situations.
Would love your insight.
Have you asked her about this behavior of hers? What did she tell you?