@Eurm seems to me like a fitness test. My girl does it to me sometimes and I to her. She’s trying me and I hold frame and usually just topple her whole point with a witty joke or with just showing that I don’t even take her serious. Patting her on the head, saying “good little secretary” if she would correct my pronunciation like yours does. My girl loves it because she realizes in that moment that even with social pressure on her side, I still own her.

It could also be malicious and a lack of respect, but before you don’t have very clear signs that this is the case, you should NOT react like it is that way. You’d lose frame and essentially get her to lose respect.

You should be able to tell the difference through body language, facial expression and word choice. If not, you must talk to more people and get great social skills otherwise you’ll fuck it up eventually.

@Eurm

The girl I’m dating is going meeting friends tonight that is 2 men.

1 of them is the best friend of her ex.

I always feel trapped in this scenario. On one hand, I know nothing will happen but it triggers me that she's with 2 male “friends”

My dad got cheated on by my mom who ran away with a good friend of his.

I know this is deep but right now I'm being cold and pretending that it doesn't do me much because I'm the price.

But It does me a lot.

I wonder how you guys would act in this scenario?

Thank you

If this is the same girl you mentioned last month, then continue to listen to what your gut tells you. Whether something may or may not have happened while she was with these guys shouldn't be what you focus on. She's not your wife, mother to any of your children, your fiancee, nor a likely prospect, so unless you're doing something ill-advised like living with her you're far from trapped with her. In the grand scheme of your life, she's just a girl you've been dating for a while, and not much else, but your gut is clearly telling you she's not going to be an ideal choice.

I can understand your feelings regarding your parents failed marriage influencing you, but it doesn't tend to end well for men who ignore their gut feelings. If you want to continue dating her, then do so. If you don't, then don't. My only suggestion is that until such a time as you find a woman you think has all the points you understand are necessary for a relationship to work and not provoke a bad gut feeling, you build up an inventory of plates and get to spinning and only keep the ones that do provoke good gut feelings.

@Eurm when I started dating my girl she said she was a feminist too, but she did not act like one at all. (Watch her actions) After being with me for a few months, chasing after me and learning her place in the hierarchy, she said she’s not a feminist and that’s her opinion since. Feminists are really believing their own BS and it’s not a real shit test, because it’s a conscious act. The solution is to let her be feminine with you, bring out the submissive nature in her and then very slowly make her realize that she’s submissive and likes it outside of the bedroom. She will see that now her subconscious and conscious mind line up perfectly. She feels good. She doesn’t have to fight her nature anymore.

The life’s good for her and for you. Ignore the feminist shit in the beginning and just AA, then proceed as laid out. Don’t agree but don’t discuss with her. Debate shows that you are on her level, but you want her to be one below. As aging chad said, it’s not her shit test, it’s a societal one. She’s just saying what a good little programmed girl is supposed to.