Although I wanted to continue with a post on approach anxiety in solo daygame, there's a lot of internal resistance on releasing stuff on something, which I still feel I haven't fully mastered. So instead, I’m going to continue with something else, which is equally important for masculine enlightenment; Maybe I’ll pick up approach anxiety series later when I feel like it.

Men have been emasculated to the point that we've forgotten the rules of the game, so I thought I should just list some of them here to remind me, when I forget stuff in my softer moments of ignorance.

They know

They know that you're trying to fuck them – that's what men do. You'll encounter three different types of reactions if you convey this to them. First is compliance, which is what you want anyway and there's no problem here.

Second is shaming. When a woman shames you by calling you a pervert, understand that she anyway considers all men as perverts in the literal sense of the word – someone who's sexuality deviates from the social norm. Since social norm is anti-male by design, all masculine men are perverts by default. Saying this is just a verbal tact she's using so that you back off. Now, it can be token resistance or a real one, but you'll have to take that call in the moment yourself.

Third is ignorance. Don't be fooled – she's lying. All women know that all men are trying to bang them, but she doesn't wants to cut social contact with you. Either she's using you for attention, provision or your connections, but she's not attracted to you more than her other plates. I recommend that you polarize the conversation and drop if necessary.

You don't need to spend much time

Want a number? 5 minutes. Want a kiss? A date. Want a lay? 3 dates. That makes it not more than 6 hours per lay. That's all you should invest in my opinion. Anything more and you're conned.

Their words are hollow

Literally. A lot of men try to reframe this by saying that they're true in the moment, but it's better to accept that a woman's words mean nothing. Most of them are totally out of touch with their own femininity and are conditioned to lie to themselves and to others. “I'm a strong independent woman, but I like to be submissive” - they can't see a contradiction in these words. So ignore what they say.

Instead, look at the context and behavior. She's not that type of girl, but has a back tattoo, wears high heels and tight clothes at work, has facebook picks with other guys hanging on her shoulders and instagram shots with a cat by her cleavage – She IS that type of a girl. So how do you separate genuine resistance from a token one? Light escalate, kiss her and give her a slight push. See how she reacts and back off. Did she kiss back? Did her eyes turn watery? Does she allow you to do it again with a bit more intensity? This in the girl world is called a “Yes” and the opposite of this is called “No”.

Your attention is your energy

You can buy sex either with money or attention - either way you operate within hypergamic paramters. But you can't buy intimacy with money, so better teach yourself the economics of attention. Take a look at daygame itself – the open is a dump of attention for buying her time. Vibing is paying a bit more attention to check how normal she is. Investment is lessening attention to discount her frame and negotiate her value, so that you don't overpay.

Attention takes mental energy. To test this, I recently went out to a nightclub and didn't approach or scan for IOIs; Instead I just danced (which I really enjoy) and shoved off women who tried to escalate on me. Interestingly, I came back fully recharged mentally after four hours of non-stop dancing! Even though, physically it was an intense session of cardio, mentally it was like waking up from sleep.

So every time you notice a woman and deliberate if you should approach, you're using a bit of your mental energy. It's like doing a bicep curl every time you check out a woman – ten opens and your biceps will fail. Your attention span is valuable, finite and the fuel to your game, so ensure that you don't run out of gas on the wrong girl.

Love is a higher order emotion for men

Men don't love by default, because love is the end of their freedom. If you're falling in love with a woman you didn't ravage with your shit tests over prolonged periods of time, you're deluded. By capitulating to the draw of a single woman, you're giving her too much power. It's like tearing out your heart and putting it in her hands, even though you know that she can squash it any moment. Women say that such vulnerability is what's magical about love, but what they don't mention is that it's only magical for them, because they like to submit.

Love is a drug. A snort will give you a warm fuzzy feel of finally arriving somewhere. Your search is over.

This is the myth of the one conditioned into your brain and you need to fight it tooth and nail. If you're an average man, you'll have dry spells and feel the need for having someone close by more keenly. Fight it for it's not real. Just like a drug, it becomes less potent with time till you're hooked and paralyzed by addiction. And addiction to a person is the worst kind of addiction.

Love is the last battle you'll fight freely, so I suggest that men don't look for it before forty. It will be your death, so choose wisely, exit the game as a player and spectate.

Even if the world looks like a disneyland (especially if you're living in a western nation), it's really a darwinian sandbox. The market of human experience is rich and varied, but it's gates open in the sexual market place - You have to pass it before you can get to that ceramic vase of nirvana.

[This is reproduced from my blogspot blog post. The Full post is right here, and the link is just for completeness; You needn't navigate away to that.]

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