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What is Lost and Gained with Mistakes
Published 05/16/19 by yamseveryday [0 Comments]

Every once in a while a girl might hop on your biscuit that seems particularly hot and not like a hoe (or only a hoe for you). Maybe you think she’s better than other girls because things go so well initially. She’s sweet and submissive and crazy about you. Low N-count and all of the other things you can later use to put her on a pedestal. You slack off on reading red pill, maybe let your blog fall apart a little. It seems like the normal flow of events, your interests going from one thing to another. When that relationship is in crisis because you haven’t maintained yourself, you have the emotionally variability of a teenager, and you are desperately trying to use red pill knowledge to accomplish the blue pill dream of holding onto one girl.

Here’s the reality: Girls would rather the guy that says horrendous things to them about how they’re only a step above a sausage packaging plant than a guy who runs over to cheer up their bad mood. Girls like asshole guys. If not actually assholes, guys with that asshole confidence. If not that, strong masculine frame and direction. They don’t want to be needed. They’ll initially love when you’re unexpectedly nice to them, because they had you pegged as an ‘alpha’, but this will quickly fade as they feel like they recognize your true colors. What’s unattractive to them is when a guy needs them. When they get a hint of this they’re as good as done with that genuine attraction. As Pook says girls want a good catch. If you’re a good catch, they’ll be afraid to lose you. And being a good catch means that they feel lucky they’re actually the girl that gets your time and attention. What does it say when you don’t value your own time and attention? They need to put in the effort and they can’t act up or they’ll be replaced.

This energy is crucial, no matter how a girl looks or acts, you will smoother the fire of the relationship with fear of losing her. Attachment will make you fail more shit tests than your most beta day. You'll let her run wild.

You always need to believe and act like you are the prize, no matter what. The prize doesn’t go running around to talk to her or text her. He doesn’t change his schedule to make plans or deal with her when she’s being moody. He isn’t afraid she’ll cheat on him or one day pack up and decide she’d had enough. But telling yourself you are the prize is not enough. I’ll repeat it 100 times in my head and then act like a complete beta. You have to mentally remind and ingrain in yourself you’re the prize. Remember when she wanting to fuck your brains out on the first date? That’s because she thought you were higher value than her. Remember when all those other girls were into you? That’s because you have options, she won’t be the last girl that felt that way.

Relearning these things is huge for me. Every time I slip or back step, I remind myself of what is lost and what is gained. What is lost is my initial frame and progress, I go from acting like the fucking man to a complete beta dependent on what she thinks. I lose a little bit of that mindset and confidence in myself. What is gained is that every time you are forced to relearn this knowledge you come back stronger and more aware, where this knowledge and information becomes so deeply ingrained it runs through you effortlessly.

Just like some things that were shaky or an act in the beginning (for me it was teasing and being disagreeable) are now ingrained in your being, the same way these things will become too just part of your knowledge and personality.

Women live in the moment, and you should too.

Every emotion a woman experiences is ‘right now’, they don’t care about your great date Sunday or your beta tantrum on Wednesday. They’ll rationalize all of this into an easy to digest paradigm that fits with how they feel right now.

In the same way, everyday is a new day to be different, accept the things you’ve done before, not hold onto the past and go back to realizing you’re the fucking man and it’s not even in the realm of possibilities that some chick is higher value than you are (how could they be? What do they know about striving, accomplishment, self discipline, and all the work we put into ourselves?).

Everyday you can wake up and forget all the shit you’ve done before and decide how you want to act today. You decide what your mindset is going to be right now. There’s nothing to prove, there’s no pride to hold onto, there’s no use in getting upset with yourself, and there's no reason to hold onto your past mistakes. You messed up, so what? They’re girls and they’re replaceable. Things will only start to flow when you’ve let go of all of this baggage: the attachment, the neediness, the needing to do or say the perfect thing, and the idea that if you mess up you aren’t a real ‘alpha male’.

The past is dead and gone. It's time to stop apologizing for how you acted and move on to the present where life is happening.

Things are always a work in progress and rarely come to completion. Every time you encounter circumstances your situation is different. If you learn a bunch of stuff on how to handle girls but don’t have a single girl in your rotation, you may have to relearn it. And that’s understandable. Just by being a member of this community you have set yourself so far ahead of 99% of the male population. They don’t know what they don’t know and don’t have the resources to get themselves out of oneitis holes and traps.

We have the tools, but nothing happens overnight. How many years did you have a beta mindset? It will take time, effort, and experience to change these things. So be in the moment, enjoy putting in the work, and let go out of the outcome.

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In Opposition to the Golden Rule/ Standing up
Published 01/07/19 by yamseveryday [1 Comments]

Do you remember your parents telling you, “treat others how you want to be treated”. This was supposed to be the Golden Rule. While it seems like a nice maxim, it’s generally not the case. This is something we were told by people who had no idea what the fuck they were talking about. Unfortunately, it carries over in even our most basic interactions. This is detrimental to beta husbands that treat their screaming wives “nicely” in hopes she’ll be nice and civil in return. They then tell their kids this is the path to be followed and the cycle repeats.

This is an aspect of the slave morality that Nietzsche discusses, given to us by our judo-christian background. They negated the values of their masters, and in turn, made being meek, humble, universally and unwaveringly kind, and able to endure suffering without protest all positive qualities. On the other hand, pride was a deadly sin, anger was nearly never justified, and those who used power were evil. The reward for your virtue would not come in this life, where things suck, but in the next life or the true world of eternal light and infinity, unlike our short finite existence.

Well, I don’t really know too much about the next world, but one can’t possibly be as sure about it as I am about this world. I am going to try to make things better here. I don’t want to follow rules they were created out of negation. I want to follow a moral code this is not imposed, but created. This is what the community is all about, rejecting the old values imposed on you and learning to discover something new and individual.

But I would be remiss to say the maxim holds no merit. Maybe the lesson here is to stop wanting to be treated so nicely. If you can free yourself from the need to always be treated nicely, you may not feel need to be overly nice to others. If you don’t need to be validated, you’ll no longer be giving validation to get validation.

You can free yourself to receive the things that will help you grow. If you want the harsh truth, you’ll give others the harsh truth. A system that may be unpleasant. If you want to be free, you won’t trap others. These are things that some men may just be unable to do.

And this goes into my latest feelings on manipulated men lately:

If you’re a doormat, you’re going to get stepped on.

I have sympathy for the state of masculinity as a whole, but for any particular man doesn’t need to be a genius to figure out that being a push over doesn't get you anywhere. Some men just do it because it is easier. Submitting to the yelling of your partner is easier than fighting. Fighting means the chance of going without companionship. This companionship is absolutely necessary because the woman is his captain and female-kind is his god. Standing up means the possibility of being alone, having to reconstruct yourself, going without sex, and not being able to rely on someone for emotional support.

The only cure for this is to stand up, grab your balls, and become tired of the abuse. In an era where men have limited resources to connect with their masculine strength, this may not be an easy task. At some point you will have to tell yourself, I am no longer going to placate to women, I am no longer going to be hung up on people's judgments, I am no longer going to fear people’s reactions of my actions, I am no longer going to be a doormat, and I am just going to live for me.

This means you can be free and independent. This gives you that genuine I don’t give a fuck attitude. It allows you to walk away from a date, not necessarily because you have other options but because you’re done being a placating doormat. You would rather be alone than with a girl who doesn't act right, and you would rather work for yourself (and maybe fail) than be under a boss that doesn't respect you. If a date is on a bad day for you, you say no. If your parents ask for an important favor that is inconvenient, you say no. If people and society try to impose their values on you, you say no.

Nietzsche, in Thus Spoke Zarathustra, says that we should undergo three metamorphoses. The spirit becomes a camel, then becomes a lion, then a child.

The camel is where all we do is carry loads, it is our job and our design. We carry the responsibility of one day providing for a wife and kids. We carry the burden of society’s expectations of us, go to school, go into debt, get a good job so you can start providing. Dress nice and say pleasant things to women so you’ll be a “good catch”. Make sure you’re dating and have a girlfriend. We carry, and enjoy, the morals and values imposed on us by others, whether it be religion, society, culture, parents, or friends.

We then turn into the lion. The lion is a nihilist. He says no to all the values that used to be imposed on him. He discovers the red pill and learns to reject the way society taught him women and relationships. He rejects the values of his religion and his schooling. He wants to be independent and free and say no to everything he once carried. The lion slays the dragon where every scale says “thou shalt” and listens a different expectation of him. Thou shalt get a wife. Thou shalt raise a family and work hard to provide. Thou shalt not get angry or be too prideful. The camel once loved the weight bared by these “thou shalt”s, but the lion is now independent and rejects these things..

Then the lion becomes a child. This is when we can finally say ‘yes’ again. We bring new values into creation. Ones made by us, for us, that allow us to be authentic. Then we are able to be open to the possibilities of the world and look at it with again with new ideas. It is again broad and magical because we have a new prospective that provides us with opportunities and meaning.

To become the child you must first become the lion. Reject the golden rule. Reject the values of others that you are expected to hold. Become strong and independent like the lion and then you will be able to find new meaning.

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