Do you remember your parents telling you, “treat others how you want to be treated”. This was supposed to be the Golden Rule. While it seems like a nice maxim, it’s generally not the case. This is something we were told by people who had no idea what the fuck they were talking about. Unfortunately, it carries over in even our most basic interactions. This is detrimental to beta husbands that treat their screaming wives “nicely” in hopes she’ll be nice and civil in return. They then tell their kids this is the path to be followed and the cycle repeats.

This is an aspect of the slave morality that Nietzsche discusses, given to us by our judo-christian background. They negated the values of their masters, and in turn, made being meek, humble, universally and unwaveringly kind, and able to endure suffering without protest all positive qualities. On the other hand, pride was a deadly sin, anger was nearly never justified, and those who used power were evil. The reward for your virtue would not come in this life, where things suck, but in the next life or the true world of eternal light and infinity, unlike our short finite existence.

Well, I don’t really know too much about the next world, but one can’t possibly be as sure about it as I am about this world. I am going to try to make things better here. I don’t want to follow rules they were created out of negation. I want to follow a moral code this is not imposed, but created. This is what the community is all about, rejecting the old values imposed on you and learning to discover something new and individual.

But I would be remiss to say the maxim holds no merit. Maybe the lesson here is to stop wanting to be treated so nicely. If you can free yourself from the need to always be treated nicely, you may not feel need to be overly nice to others. If you don’t need to be validated, you’ll no longer be giving validation to get validation.

You can free yourself to receive the things that will help you grow. If you want the harsh truth, you’ll give others the harsh truth. A system that may be unpleasant. If you want to be free, you won’t trap others. These are things that some men may just be unable to do.

And this goes into my latest feelings on manipulated men lately:

If you’re a doormat, you’re going to get stepped on.

I have sympathy for the state of masculinity as a whole, but for any particular man doesn’t need to be a genius to figure out that being a push over doesn't get you anywhere. Some men just do it because it is easier. Submitting to the yelling of your partner is easier than fighting. Fighting means the chance of going without companionship. This companionship is absolutely necessary because the woman is his captain and female-kind is his god. Standing up means the possibility of being alone, having to reconstruct yourself, going without sex, and not being able to rely on someone for emotional support.

The only cure for this is to stand up, grab your balls, and become tired of the abuse. In an era where men have limited resources to connect with their masculine strength, this may not be an easy task. At some point you will have to tell yourself, I am no longer going to placate to women, I am no longer going to be hung up on people's judgments, I am no longer going to fear people’s reactions of my actions, I am no longer going to be a doormat, and I am just going to live for me.

This means you can be free and independent. This gives you that genuine I don’t give a fuck attitude. It allows you to walk away from a date, not necessarily because you have other options but because you’re done being a placating doormat. You would rather be alone than with a girl who doesn't act right, and you would rather work for yourself (and maybe fail) than be under a boss that doesn't respect you. If a date is on a bad day for you, you say no. If your parents ask for an important favor that is inconvenient, you say no. If people and society try to impose their values on you, you say no.

Nietzsche, in Thus Spoke Zarathustra, says that we should undergo three metamorphoses. The spirit becomes a camel, then becomes a lion, then a child.

The camel is where all we do is carry loads, it is our job and our design. We carry the responsibility of one day providing for a wife and kids. We carry the burden of society’s expectations of us, go to school, go into debt, get a good job so you can start providing. Dress nice and say pleasant things to women so you’ll be a “good catch”. Make sure you’re dating and have a girlfriend. We carry, and enjoy, the morals and values imposed on us by others, whether it be religion, society, culture, parents, or friends.

We then turn into the lion. The lion is a nihilist. He says no to all the values that used to be imposed on him. He discovers the red pill and learns to reject the way society taught him women and relationships. He rejects the values of his religion and his schooling. He wants to be independent and free and say no to everything he once carried. The lion slays the dragon where every scale says “thou shalt” and listens a different expectation of him. Thou shalt get a wife. Thou shalt raise a family and work hard to provide. Thou shalt not get angry or be too prideful. The camel once loved the weight bared by these “thou shalt”s, but the lion is now independent and rejects these things..

Then the lion becomes a child. This is when we can finally say ‘yes’ again. We bring new values into creation. Ones made by us, for us, that allow us to be authentic. Then we are able to be open to the possibilities of the world and look at it with again with new ideas. It is again broad and magical because we have a new prospective that provides us with opportunities and meaning.

To become the child you must first become the lion. Reject the golden rule. Reject the values of others that you are expected to hold. Become strong and independent like the lion and then you will be able to find new meaning.

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