Another short piece by me, do give it a thought. :

The only way a guy completely passes on from the anger phase is when one understands how to look at the world without ego investments.

Without wanting to force his previous mental models and framework into the world which have already failed him. Pick and choose what works for you. But to pick and choose, you have to let go first.

This can be achieved most easily if you really only care about results and having the mindset of "Just fucking give me what works I am sick and tired of being sick and tired."

But, In my opinion this also can be achieved, most efficiently and effectively by going through an existential crisis. Such as:

1. Questioning the purpose of life.

2. Coming to terms with temporal nature of all existence.

3. Understanding the mechanical clockwork nature of all human things, from personal interactions such as sexual dynamics, to politics and civilizations, and everything in between.

These questions lead to dispassion. Now instead of bringing yourself to suicide and being caught in a depressive meaninglessness, use that dispassion to mark the way forward for your passions so that you can understand the real mental models for success and don't get fooled by your own ego investments, again.

Being passionate in fulfillment of our Id is our nature, and denying ourselves of our nature only brings misery.

(How and why I went through an existential crisis, well that's just cause I am courageous and smart)

@AFTSOV nahhh that is another form of damage. Just like every other aspect of life, parenting also exists in a balance of chaos and order. Being boundary-less and abusive are the two extremes. However, just as too many people eat too much causing obesity, rarely anyone dies of starvation now. Similarly I see too much of one causes collapse. Which is weak beta men. What the " Impotent, Abusive, and Rage Filled men." cause are naïve girls who can be misled easily.

In both situations, girls end up in the same innocence lacking state. Therefore both the carrot and the stick must be used. Both fear and motivation.

Life always has and always will remain the game of delicate balance in dualities of chaos and order. Be it governments, families or quantum physics. Just enough balance to make it work. Only way to do so that I have found is to first become dispassionate by reminding/realizing the temporal nature of life, learn the rules and mechanics, and then start working passionately anyway on whatever you want to achieve. Because wanting to achieve and working for it is something we are programmed to do. It is in our nature being human. Here as well, being too passionate and you will be blind and will destroy yourself (such as addictions) and being too dispassionate drives one to meaninglessness and suicide. I have told you what I have observed to have worked. The mechanics. Be smart.