@goodmansaysfuckyou Absolutely. It's more concerning when understood from a psychodynamic perspective.
One of the worse things people can do is try to conform to the value judgments of others. Many people end up striving to display some 'ideal self' which social media suggests them to be like. It's an 'external' point of judgement.
This can fuck people up, as they attempt to exaggerate and display only the qualities that will get them 'on-line' approval, whilst losing touch with the reality of their essence and true self.
All masks, personas, ideal self, external approval.
It's why I laugh at the guys on Red Pill who are into 'on-line' game, and 'Insta Game' and other horseshit.
It's like 'ok, so you're on Red Pill wanting to 'perfect' something which is actually fucking you up'.
Any guy who is heavy in social media presence, I am weary of. Take your Tinder/Insta/Facefuck/Twitter and all the other ways to instill in your psyche that you need an image, and go fuck yourself.Read More
@redpillschool hahaha...yeah, I get it. Totally. In essence, I think huge amounts of the advice has been very helpful. It sort of sits in the background when I'm with girls.
But you're right, it's not so much the advice but how guys read it, apply it and generally their whole perspective on it.
They also don't understand some of the essence of 'non-invested', 'outcome independent', 'no pedestal' etc
I see a lot of guys stuck in thinking these are things you 'do'. Like, 'how do I do x, y, b'?
In reality they are a way of being. An attitude and general feeling.
Then of course all the guys who think a 'red pill' guy is a toxic, abusive, cold, hard dude.
Everything got much easier for me when I 'let go'. When I allowed myself to be normal, cool, calm, fun. And when I turned my attention to other important things in my life, so the non-investment and outcome independence came naturally. Still, they aren't things I think about that consciously.
Ultimately, it's all lead me sort of 'full circle'. Most of the stuff women are attracted to is essentially just a self-assured, healthy, independent guy with his shit together.
The other big thing has been seeing men and women differently. My entire attitude shifts when I am with females as to males. That is a really good, healthy thing because we're different genders.
In many ways society, and lots of guys on Red Pill complicate a shit sandwich.Read More
@INNASKILLZ2K20 I spend some time in chat during the week and I find that a lot of people supposedly following the advice are terribly off-course with a very skewed idea of what the sidebar is saying. I might host an AMA for myself to help course correct on some of these things.
When I hear complaints about TRP and they're like "I tried supplicating bro but it didn't work" I can't help but wonder what the fuck they've been reading.
I feel the need to say, then, if some guys end up leaving...@Osiris....you've been awesome to watch. Like a rebel with a cause going toe to toe with GLO Gang, and a strong inclination to follow your own path. You'll do well. Headstrong.
@Elvis...you kept me here many a time. The humour was gold, and you introduced me to a lot of good clips. Actually some of the ideas you brushed on have actually become part of my approach to things. The 'Wisdom of Insecurity' is an invaluable thing to embrace. That has been huge. The bald dude who did that YouTube thing on survival. The Natural Lifestyles. If you want, my email is Innaskillz2k18@protonmail.com. If you come across interesting clips or anything, throw them my way.
Those are the two I get a sense may disappear. The rest of you cats I assume will still be here.Read More
@Osiris It's the law of diminishing returns and the 80/20 rule.
20% of exposure to Red Pill will get you 80% of your results.
The other 80% can turn you into an autistic creep who thinks about smp's and smv's, and hypeerrrrgamy, and writes posts detailing simple interactions, and plays out unconscious oedipal complexes (look how I satisfy all da womanz conditions), and praises a grandpa aged dude who never EVER put any of his own advice into action.
The 20% is awesome.
The other 80% is worth running from.
@Elvis He does 3/2/1 in the gym. What fag does 3/2/1 after a long time of lifting? Then asks other dudes 'what are YOU doing to improve your life'.
A lot more than 3/2/1, asshole.
Plus, there is the whole talking to himself on threads.
Yeah, that's a bucket of mess I do NOT want to be like.
@AFTSOV Yeah, I am totally open to that. Maybe it's all legit. I just know from my experience once you get busy and have priorities, writing on reddit really doesn't have space to be a focus.
Also, there is no real way to give someone else their answers. But I do think a lot of them are just fags. RealJoDee just comes off as creepy, and his buddy Mike on YouTube just takes everything far too seriously. Like dude, relax.
But there has been bits of gold here and there.
I much prefer this forum, because we can just shoot the shit. Guys seem a lot more relatable and normal here.