One of my last woman, who was into adrenaline, indirectly mentioned to me that my life was rather boring.

And no, I don't see her as a yardstick for evaluating my life, but it made me think.

I'm 30, I've spent a lot of time working over the last few years. I've built up my own business, with my own employees. But a lot has fallen by the wayside. I've neglected to build up a circle of friends and don't do much in my free time, as I've built a very practical life around my work.

I go to the gym, but it's an old one that is always empty because I don't want to wait for equipment. In general, I have become very introverted.

It bothers me myself. Just to be clear: I have no problem dating / getting women. That's not my objective.

I want to build a good and exciting life, apart from women.

But to be honest: How do I start? I'm relatively insecure when it comes to meeting new people. How would you start from scratch, building your life outside of work, building your tribe?

At least now I'm trying to find new hobbies. I'm preparing for a marathon, riding my road bike and want to join groups about it. Maybe you have some more tips.

So in summary: How do I build an exciting life and an A-Team Tribe around me?

well you should have thought about that in your 20s

This is absolutely correct, as there is only so many years for a woman to optimally have children. Women who want children need to do a lot of groundwork to do it right, including finding a husband early on so that pregnancy can be achieved much more easily.

society expects the right career, guy, side hustle, and kids on top of that

I don't know which parts of "society" she is listening to, but anyone in their right mind should understand that you do not need all of these things as a woman if you want to be a wife and mother. You just need the right guy and kids. The "career" is not something you should do because of "society" telling you to do it. Especially if those people are other bitter career women who are burnt out by trying to "have it all."

I've heard of women in their 50s having children.

Oh this again? Did you hear how those same women who got pregnant in their 50s also had a bunch of children before their pregnancy at 50? Because that is almost always how that happens. You being a woman in her 40s would have less of a chance replicating that outcome because your fertility window is closing/closed while the women who had previous children had their window pushed back. So anytime a woman repeats this line, always ask how many children these women had before.

This woman seems to have accepted that having children is not in her future. And that would be best, since thinking otherwise is delusional. And given how men get less out of relationships with women these days, the one thing that might help her entice a man to enter a relationship with her (bearing his children) is no longer a realistic option. So she is very likely to also need to come to terms with her becoming a spinster as well as childless.