So ive been hanging out with my buddy his gf and one of her ridiculously good looking friends a few times.

Last weekend we went to a bar with some folk and ended up going to an afterparty afterwards. At this place everyone was pretty much sitting around the coffee table in the living room doing lines and getting fucked up. As the night progressed we were flirting and teasing and out of the blue she just blurts out "hey X do you want me to blow you?" (this was in front of everyone as we were all around the coffee table)

Not going to lie, it caught me offguard, and all i could muster to reply was "only if you make me finish".

We ended up going out on the balcony for a smoke and only ended up making out after which we went home (it was like 6 in the morning by now). I do feel i should've been able to get more out of this, but honestly not sure how I could have handled it differently.

My thought was I should have tried to pull her in the only washroom in the condo, but given that it seemed to always be 2 or 3 people in there at a time maybe it would've been bad manners to the other people. Should i have just been a dick to everyone else and done it anyways?

What to do now?

fucking NEXT.

3-4 dates to nowhere with you....... fucked someone else.

Dude, seriously...... No. Hell No. Hell no with prejudice.

She still chases me more than I chase her

What is she chasing you FOR? It's not sex. So what does it matter? She's chasing you for something that benefits her and does not benefit you.

She's putting in effort but she's still a timewaster.

, it's like some sort of limbo

Limbo is the worst because it soaks up all your time and energy.

Do I still go out with her and try to get a body?

So like...... 5 dates to nowhere instead of 4?

It's really tiresome tbh, she doesn't fit my schedule, isn't interesting and isn't easy to do something sexual other than making out, which is bad to do with her.

okay.

She does send me some freaky, sluttish things on tt,

Lies. She sends you LIES.

reels, even some half-naked pictures - honestly I know I'm not the only one seeing those pictures, but is hella shy in person.

She's shy WITH YOU.

She is farming men for attention.

This post is too long, I can clarify some things if you need for the context.

Please clarify how this girl is not a timewaster.

Remember not to moralize

Well no - you can't censor replies.

1: move in with her, find a way to not sign the lease. Or sign the lease and eat the cost of breaking it. Move into my new place when it’s ready, get my stuff out while she’s at work. Could potentially break the news a few days early, but this could be disastrous. She can afford the place by herself, no need for replacement roommate.

Well yeah. Get her to sign the lease, you keep your options open. Good plan with someone you can't trust, so long as she will agree to it.

Do NOT break the news early. Ask me how I know. Move your shit out, then meet for coffee to explain why.

OPTION 2: rent a storage unit, and stay with my other LTR. This one and I get along better, and shes higher quality. Also offered to loan me $1000 to help get me out of the situation, which I’m thinking of accepting. There could be an angle, but genuinely doesn’t seem like there’s strings attached.

There are always strings attached, but this sounds like an honest deal which is usually preferred.

Option 3: Bite the bullet, get the car, and my own place all at once. The place I rent will have to be far from ideal and it puts me in a dangerous situation financially. No safety net, but potential opportunity to better myself through the discipline and struggle. Leave the 1st LTR with no closure, an ambiguous “nothing has to change” and slowly detach from her. Maybe keep fucking her, maybe not.

How quickly after that can you get a bit of a safety net? "other LTR"..... future loan? offer of place to stay?

This might be the best option even though risky because there are zero strings attached.

Option 2 strikes me as the most rational with the highest Pro to Con ratio. Interested in hearing what you guys have to say, and any similar stories and lessons. Thanks a lot, TRP saved my life.

Only thing I'll say is: no advance notification of moving out.

If you absolutely have to move out and give her notice, don't stay there again. Stay in hotel, with friends, whatevs.

At the point where you are moving out, all trust is broken and she will go fucking mental. I speak from experience, obviously. Telling her in advance is all downsides and no upsides for you.