@carnold03 That’s also true , i’ll download the book and read it as soon as possible. Thank you a lot
Hello everyone, I hope you’re all doing great. I have a question: did I mess things up with this plate, or should I just consider it broken?
I’ve been seeing this girl, 23 years old, for about five months. She’s a real virgin, shy, feminine, and assertive. For those five months, I basically put her on a pedestal. My morality kept telling me not to escalate, thinking that since she’s a virgin, it wouldn’t lead anywhere and would be a waste of time, even though I know that AWALT.
Despite the clear high interest she was showing me, I kept it cool and made no move. Recently, I finally decided to escalate with kino and kisses, and she was receptive. But after the second time, she said she wanted to talk.
She told me she wasn’t expecting things to go that far, especially since we had known each other for five months and I hadn’t made a move until now. She also mentioned that I come off as a bit arrogant and hard to deal with, probably because I’ve been maintaining my frame and giving her only occasional validation. She added that she just wants to enjoy her time, because i mentionned in the past that I wasn’t looking for anything serious at the moment, which in hindsight I probably shouldn’t have said.
Honestly, she’s right. Waiting that long to escalate was a weak move on my part. I tried to cover it by saying “good things take time,” and she just laughed and accepted it . But deep down, I feel like I triggered her anti-slut defense, and now I’m wondering if it’s best to walk away from this and accept that the plate is broken.
Morality wasn't the problem. You simply lacked the confidence needed to escalate. That you lacked this confidence for five months is a bit alarming.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library. It should also be available on libgen.
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Hello everyone, I hope you’re all doing great. I have a question: did I mess things up with this plate, or should I just consider it broken?
I’ve been seeing this girl, 23 years old, for about five months. She’s a real virgin, shy, feminine, and assertive. For those five months, I basically put her on a pedestal. My morality kept telling me not to escalate, thinking that since she’s a virgin, it wouldn’t lead anywhere and would be a waste of time, even though I know that AWALT.
Despite the clear high interest she was showing me, I kept it cool and made no move. Recently, I finally decided to escalate with kino and kisses, and she was receptive. But after the second time, she said she wanted to talk.
She told me she wasn’t expecting things to go that far, especially since we had known each other for five months and I hadn’t made a move until now. She also mentioned that I come off as a bit arrogant and hard to deal with, probably because I’ve been maintaining my frame and giving her only occasional validation. She added that she just wants to enjoy her time, because i mentionned in the past that I wasn’t looking for anything serious at the moment, which in hindsight I probably shouldn’t have said.
Honestly, she’s right. Waiting that long to escalate was a weak move on my part. I tried to cover it by saying “good things take time,” and she just laughed and accepted it . But deep down, I feel like I triggered her anti-slut defense, and now I’m wondering if it’s best to walk away from this and accept that the plate is broken.
Read More@carnold03 Thanks for the advice . She was surely a narcissist, but now i deleted her from all the social medias . We are done.
Hey guys , I won't say i have a great experience in dating but i am trying to improve my game. The solely problem i had recently is with a girl with daddy issues and much trauma , she is an attention seeker by degrading herself. I know her from middle school , and from nowher she reappeared and she showed a great interest in me i could feel it , attached from the go . She was trying to manipulate me with all the techniques, love bombing , mirroring effect . She didn't know with who she was dealing , i let her do her game . When i tryed to escalate the game , she seemed shocked ( Bizzare). Then i thinked morally of her as she was really dealing with family and financial problems, i could easily manipulate her . But i chose to tell her that we should finish the relationship, seems like she wanted a LTR , with the fear of abondonement she had , she couldn't accept that untill i told her i know all the manipulative techniue she was using ( dumb me ) and i could manipulated her if i wanted to . I feel like i have done the right thing just to not hurt her , in the other side i feel like i could do better and have sex ( she had a geniune desire ). What do you think guys , did i did the right choice or i fucked my cards and i should get over it.
Never tell a narcissist that you know they're a narcissist. Once they know you know, they'll do everything in their power to destroy you. They'll turn friends, family, relatives, employers, and anyone in your community who knows that you exist against you. Just ghost them and let them suffer.
Read MoreHey guys , I won't say i have a great experience in dating but i am trying to improve my game. The solely problem i had recently is with a girl with daddy issues and much trauma , she is an attention seeker by degrading herself. I know her from middle school , and from nowher she reappeared and she showed a great interest in me i could feel it , attached from the go . She was trying to manipulate me with all the techniques, love bombing , mirroring effect . She didn't know with who she was dealing , i let her do her game . When i tryed to escalate the game , she seemed shocked ( Bizzare). Then i thinked morally of her as she was really dealing with family and financial problems, i could easily manipulate her . But i chose to tell her that we should finish the relationship, seems like she wanted a LTR , with the fear of abondonement she had , she couldn't accept that untill i told her i know all the manipulative techniue she was using ( dumb me ) and i could manipulated her if i wanted to . I feel like i have done the right thing just to not hurt her , in the other side i feel like i could do better and have sex ( she had a geniune desire ). What do you think guys , did i did the right choice or i fucked my cards and i should get over it.
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