@Desaint

Warning, it was while ago, mind might play tricks on my memory.

I was fairly young, lived in a country that didnt have 'call in the abuse, if he doesn't talk to you' ads on tv. By today's Anglo standards I'd be serving (disclaimer no injuries involved of any kind).

Often I gave warning about small discipline infringements and spanking was default punishment. I would require apologies for it and asked her to never say that again. Often she would call me on it, so emotionless spanking followed.

Sometimes she had anger attack. She would get 2x of what she did with a prior warning that physical abuse is not tolerable but if it'll happen, that's what happens. Followed up with quiet time till apologised, at times with apologising not allowed for few days, to enable what I called 'reflection time', today I understand that also tackled igniting 'rants' to get attention.

Last serious rant I remember today, was followed by ~1 week period of reflection time. She would bring me dinner & treats to the door of my small mancave and sleep there till I told her to go to bed.

One big difference to usual relationships of today was, we were living together, except periods I went for basic army training. One could say I was raising her like a child. With daily influence.

I was poor, lanky and flat was rented by her.

After 1-4 y physical violence ended 100%. Being less and less of an issue as time progressed. I give wide range as I didn't keep notes, but time range might as well be up to 1y and later, instead of physical acts, period of only crazy rants followed.

Anyways that was followed by years of normal life and rare minor disagreements and pretty good fun.

@Lionsmane8 yes, most likely, hence Im a.big proponent of BDSM as a form of institutionalized spanking.

Good old spanking could be too much of the risk. Once called bdsm sex bedroom slavery and spanking, seems like it is part of experience and intimacy. Line between is blurred, so I have separated this into punishment BDSM and pure BDSM experience where it is clear that this is not linked to punishment and can be stopped anytime and focus is on senses.

Punishment BDSM can also be stopped at any time and honest comfort will be given afterward, even if punishment wasnt taken in full. The difference is after comfort interaction ends, untill full punishment will be applied. To avoid manipulation, punishment can be restarted from 0.

I have once applied ole spanking and it fully worked on semi crazy bitch, which turned into great woman. Just laughing at memories of that crazy shit.

If I.remembered correctly author of Manipulated man, says something along the likes that woman is no more than a child, Clarey is leaning toward spanking children when warranted.