@Vermillion-Rx (that posted prematurely.) ...Try, try again with other friends or altogether new people.

@Vermillion-Rx Sounds like you have a pretty healthy perspective on the whole thing, though maintaining it through certain social events that go off the rails can still be challenging.

I grew up somewhat socially inept/aspie, coming of age in the mid 80s. There were NO resources like you have available to you today On that basis, I can say you'll get this.

As for the turncoat friend, that kind of shit can happen when pussy is involved, but put it into the perspective of reflecting badly on him, not on you. Try

@Jocbro holy fuck that's much better

Delete photos two and three

I also think photo 7 is unecessary. Flexing but also you have another ripped guy in there. I just don't think you need side by sides with other ripped buddies.

I still think a photo holding the dog from 9 would be a lot better than just simply having the dog sitting by itself

I think if you took out 2, 3, and 7, you'd have a solid profile.

@diablo369 I'm pretty certain my profiles are all algorithmically fucked from being inactive for as long as they were but before that I got decent match rates with mediocre photos

I actually didn't have group photos at all, but if you have photos with others, it shouldn't be with one other guy.

Women look at it and if they like your guy friend more it fucks you

Imagine a woman liking your photos and she has her hypergamous senses being activated seeing you and your buddy side by side.

That shit won't help you if she thinks he could be better

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Whenever I see a girl in a photo side by side with another girl who's more my type I lose interest. Id rather be with her. That's why I don't side by side photos with other men

@Jocbro keep the one of you in the water with whoever that is

Delete the other two gym bro buddy pics

You don't need two other men in the shots with you

Invest in new social photos. Like look like a sociable guy having a good time in a regular social setting

@Jocbro for starters you could also have a pic of you holding the smaller dog (maybe even the bigger one but that might look awkward), have that as your leading photo

I have heard such photos are like cocaine to women.

Get a couple of social photos in there that aren't about advertising your ripped friends too. That can backfire.

Get a another hobby photo in there.

I think you might be going to hard on that look how good I look for fucking and not enough having qualities on display. That can sometimes fuck you

Also, you could be getting screwed by the algorithm if you've had your profile for a while

@Vermillion-Rx Life is long and varied, and the more adventurous and less formulaically you live it, the greater opportunities come but with the flip side of greater potential downswings. Three years ago I had a house and a thriving business. Long story short Covid lockdowns erased a lot of what I'd spent decades building up. Now I'm in my mid 50s "starting over" on an off grid ranch property in the Mojave desert. I own several vacant parcels of land that I'm finally getting around to improving to market and sell. I could get down on myself and my situation but what is the use? In many ways this is what I wanted as I struggled with work and city life. It's on myself to make this life a dream instead of a nightmare.

@Vermillion-Rx

I'm finally kind of able to start crying it out for the shit I've been going through the past couple months.

Lot of stuff to let go of. Ready to start fresh again out there. New friends, new prospects. Lost a lot of both out of my circle the last couple months

Just been a massive growing pain and lesson-learning experience. Could use any words of encouraging going into this week and onward almost entirely fresh

Bro.

Bro...

You can do it.