@Vermillion-Rx I might lean towards it being schemata that they have hard wired in of how conflict goes, how "men" act and react. This is how it goes in conflict for them.

Men too need to guard against this. The AWALT of blind adherence to MGTOW is sometimes an easy shield to hide behind. As is the "I push the female buttons and standard female behaviour comes out" that is more of a blind error in Red Pill men.

However, past baggage more a female thing. The landscape of women's minds is made of softer stuff. The floods of storms scour grooves in their minds easily. Its one reason the cock carousel is so damaging to them. They can become like a damaged record where the needle jumps round the same groove, running from novel intensity to boredom to frustration and back. It is also a risk when it comes to arguing hard with a LTR. She takes that conflict inside. Long after you have moved on the hamster is still running the same wrong loop.