@mkeehl

Help me understand this shit with my ex...

So, about a month ago my ex wanted to break up because I did not care enough which is total bullshit. I said ok, have it your way, you were not a loyal person to begin with.

After that, she texted me a couple of times saying do you really think so little of me and crap like that. I have short, IDGAF answers and that was it.

Today, she calls me crying, telling me she has some urgent shit to discuss (work-related). We work at the same company and sometimes see each other.

Granted, it was not work-related. She said she could not move on, process that I didnt give a fuck, that it was so easy for me to forget her and so forth.

Then she hugged and kissed me. I just said "take care of yourself". She started crying, went for another kiss which I rejected. Then she pulled a drawing of me (LOL) and said "please dont throw it out" and left crying.

I know she was no longer interested in me and seems like the only thing that keeps her coming back is that I have zero shits and moved on, but still, if she was the one that ended our relationship, why pull this crap?

She acted and did stuff that tells me she wanted me to say "lets get back together", but I know even if I was dumb enough to say that it would have gone back to a shitty relationship.

Anyway. She ended it, OK by my, but why pull this shit?

Help me understand this shit with my ex...

So, about a month ago my ex wanted to break up because I did not care enough which is total bullshit. I said ok, have it your way, you were not a loyal person to begin with.

After that, she texted me a couple of times saying do you really think so little of me and crap like that. I have short, IDGAF answers and that was it.

Today, she calls me crying, telling me she has some urgent shit to discuss (work-related). We work at the same company and sometimes see each other.

Granted, it was not work-related. She said she could not move on, process that I didnt give a fuck, that it was so easy for me to forget her and so forth.

Then she hugged and kissed me. I just said "take care of yourself". She started crying, went for another kiss which I rejected. Then she pulled a drawing of me (LOL) and said "please dont throw it out" and left crying.

I know she was no longer interested in me and seems like the only thing that keeps her coming back is that I have zero shits and moved on, but still, if she was the one that ended our relationship, why pull this crap?

She acted and did stuff that tells me she wanted me to say "lets get back together", but I know even if I was dumb enough to say that it would have gone back to a shitty relationship.

Anyway. She ended it, OK by my, but why pull this shit?

@mkeehl

How do I get over a break-up quickly? I know everyone says "Let yourself feel", "It will hurt for some time", and crap like that. But I'm fed up, this is not the first time it happened, but I'm still hurt. I'm fed up being a crybaby. How the hell do I get over stuff like this without wallowing in sadness?

I realize I'm being a crybaby right now too, but I'd like some help brothers. Screw women, I don't want to regret or worry another second about creatures who know nothing of loyalty. This is not a good thing to do to myself.

Any advice for me?

+ Another thing that makes me furious is that I know she doesn't give a shit about me the moment she decides to leave me. I mean, why the fuck should I not be able to do the same? I realize men are wired differently, but this anger still fucks me up greatly.

Accept that you both had your chance and that for whatever reasons you both blew it. We all get over break-ups in our own way and at our own pace. Some guys distract themselves with work, study, exercise, and other things, but as long as you're not doing anything self destructive, it generally doesn't matter what you do to get over that break-up. If there's anything in your home that reminds you of your ex, put it all in a box, and drop it off at some charity so someone else can get some use out of it without the burden of your memories. If it's on your computer, block it. There's no point in being reminded of a past relationship once its over. Learn from past relationships without allowing yourself to be burdened by them.

Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.