How do I get over a break-up quickly? I know everyone says "Let yourself feel", "It will hurt for some time", and crap like that. But I'm fed up, this is not the first time it happened, but I'm still hurt. I'm fed up being a crybaby. How the hell do I get over stuff like this without wallowing in sadness?
I realize I'm being a crybaby right now too, but I'd like some help brothers. Screw women, I don't want to regret or worry another second about creatures who know nothing of loyalty. This is not a good thing to do to myself.
Any advice for me?
+ Another thing that makes me furious is that I know she doesn't give a shit about me the moment she decides to leave me. I mean, why the fuck should I not be able to do the same? I realize men are wired differently, but this anger still fucks me up greatly.
Accept that you both had your chance and that for whatever reasons you both blew it. We all get over break-ups in our own way and at our own pace. Some guys distract themselves with work, study, exercise, and other things, but as long as you're not doing anything self destructive, it generally doesn't matter what you do to get over that break-up. If there's anything in your home that reminds you of your ex, put it all in a box, and drop it off at some charity so someone else can get some use out of it without the burden of your memories. If it's on your computer, block it. There's no point in being reminded of a past relationship once its over. Learn from past relationships without allowing yourself to be burdened by them.
Beyond that, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
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