@mkeehl

Should I date my oncologist?

I'm a 31 yo male and she is 36. She's been treating me for over a year now and things have been strictly professional between us.

I had such bad diagnosis, I'd given up on dating altogether since chemo made me a walking zombie. Now that things are a little passive I've gotteb back into dating.

Anyway, this girl asked me out to take a walk and talk about immunotherapy one time. Then she bought us some food and drinks. I was so caught up in my shit I didn't even see that she was kinda flirting the whole time.

We've been casually exchanging texts over past few weeks. It was regular oncology stuff with a few not so appropriate jokes for an oncologist, but she took it well and responded in kind.

I saw her an hour ago and since we were alone she was very playful and teasy. I don't think I'm imagining stuff since a doc should not be complementing me on my beard and making sarcastic jokes about our "relationship".

Anyway, I've had my fair share of relashionships and I can tell when a woman is into me (at least a little).

The question is, should I take the initiative at trying to make this situation into something serious at least in a sexual way?

It's no big deal to me either way, I can say nothing and move on. She's a nice person and I'm thankful for her attentive treatment.

The big question is this - is it even worth dating your oncologist? I have a 25 fbw so it's not a necessity for me to do this rn.

Btw, my ex broke up with me a year ago shortly after my diagnosis. She said I'd been absent and cold and she couldn't take it anymore. Who tf u kidding bitch, it's my stage 4 cancer you can't take anymore lol.

Thanks in advance brothers

Study the book. You don't need our permission or approval to ask your oncologist out on a date. Best case, she says yes. Worst case, she says no, and passes you off to another oncologist.

While I honestly hope that she sees it as flattering, you should probably ask yourself what's changed in your life that you're now interested in asking her out after knowing her for a year. I don't imagine dealing with stage four cancer has been easy for you, especially as a psychotic ex broke up with you following the diagnosis. Consider taking sometime to assess how to get yourself out of the isolated mental state your cancer treatment has left you in. Regardless, good on you for keeping an eye out for the ladies.