"The Empress Is Naked"
Belonging and a mission.
You do need to shake yourself, obviously. To challenge him. Usually life does that, but if you come from a generally privileged social background, you might need to do it "technically". Volunteer to save the seals in the South Pole or something. Engage.in something that it will force you out of your comfort zone - since apparently you can't muster the motivation yourself.
@TiberiusBravo87 Class is the fundamental category that defines how the world moves. Class is the relation one has with the means of production (e.g. owning factories) or re-production (owning a vagina) - because re-production is, too, production (of workers).
So, a "white trash" is more similar to a Black guy from a ghetto than a white capitalist, in terms of their lives and interests.
Nationalism, racism etc are diversions, to devide and muddle the waters. Sure, they are based on inate human tendencies: tribalism is biological. That doesn't mean that man can't do better than his related ape species. (I very much doubt that woman can do better, though. She's too much based on simple biology.)