@MentORPHEUS thank you, it definitely wasn’t a NSA thing because she was practically begging for commitment and asked me to stop ghosting her. She got a hotel room in my small town (no tourist or business attractions) for 4 nights, Guess that doesn’t change the risk dynamics too much though.
@DanielLarson Meh, no sense worrying yourself and pumping your system full of stress horomones after the act and before anything bad ACTUALLY happens.
She might have had other business not far from your area and wanted a NSA sexcapade before going back to whatever life and obligations she has to pretend to be upholding back in her own city.
Need a risk assessment: HB6 I knew online who lives 6 hours away I got annoyed with so I ghosted 4 months ago and yesterday she showed up at my house unannounced (got my address on Google), wanted to hangout and honestly didn’t feel like it but did it anyway. She gave me a BJ and swallowed then a while later I banged her (with a condom) and then sent her on her way back to wherever she lives.
I realize this is crazy bitch behavior so I took the precautions of secretely audio recording her saying she liked banging and wanted to do it again and asked if she could blow me again rn before she left and I said I didn’t feel like it. Ended the audio recording with me leaving her presence and immediately went to a food place and used my debit card. Also saved texts of her afterwards being flirty and wanting to do it again.
Any other precautions I should take? Also what’s the worst STD I could get from this? Honestly wish I shut the door in her face now that I’m so paranoid trying to cover my tracks of a rape allegation or chance of getting an STD
Read MoreSOS: I made a huge mess. I tried breaking up with cohabitating LTR by being direct but she kept saying “we can work on this” and refused to leave so I lied and said I was extremely suicidal and needed to go to the psych ward so she should pack up and go to her families so she wouldn’t be alone. It got her out of the house but now she’s blowing up my phone wanting to come back, should I text dump her? Some of her stuffs still here. My main concern is hurting her the least possible because she’s not a bad girl just crazy
What's done is done, text her that you're ok, not to worry, and that you've made an appointment with a doctor, thank you for messaging me. That should keep her from calling the police and asking for them to make a wellness check. In the meantime, head over to the supermarket or grocers and ask the manager if you can have their empty cardboard boxes before they put them out with the trash. If they ask why you need boxes, tell them that you're moving some stuff and could really use some empty boxes. Then have the boxes with her stuff delivered to her.
Read More@Typo-MAGAshiv honestly no, It took a long time to even get the courage to say I wanted to break up. After she kept saying we could just work it out I was so desperate to get her to leave my house and that was the only thing that came to my head at the time.
@Typo-MAGAshiv yeah she’s bringing my quality of life down. I’ve never been the one dishing out the heartbreak in a LTR but have been heartbroken before so maybe I’m just too concerned about things I can’t control
@MentORPHEUS yeah i fucked up baddd, the three day psych hold is fortunately out of the question hopefully because nothing was in writing and I’m close with a psychiatrist and I’ve already got him to vouch against that. I told any friends we have in common and they thought it was hilarious because they know she’s a manipulative bitch. But Looking back I should’ve just stayed straight forward like y’all said earlier and maybe even called the cops when she refused to leave. Only thing left to do now is end it with her in 100% clarity which is creating so much dread in me
@Desaint yeah but she’s retarded and just starts the same behavior as soon as she senses some security of me not leaving, I’m 100% committed to breaking up, just wish I could do it without leaving her heartbroken because I’ve been heartbroken and don’t wanna give anyone that pain even though I know I’d be in a world of pain if it was up to her and I was submissive to her demands. Just trying to think of the least painful way to do this given the extreme circumstances I’ve created to get her out of my house now
refused to leave so I lied and said I was extremely suicidal and needed to go to the psych ward so she should pack up and go to her families
Come ON, you ridiculous dude! What did people already tell you about the wider social network consequences of making up an elaborate dramatic bullshit excuse?!?
Do you realize you've now given her and her family the option of contacting the police and getting you locked up for an involuntary three day psych evaluation? And this entirely out of genuine compassion and concern, without necessarily even a tiny component of malice?
If you HAD to pussy out and go the dramatic bullshit story route, should have stuck to the "Got another girl pregnant" one.
Breaking up decisively and in a straightforward manner is part of the dating game. It's not easy, and at least one party always ends up hurt, but remember: they'll get over it!
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