How do you guys create emotional imprints through conversation?

On some level, I’ve always been aware that conversation exists to make her feel things for me, not just talk boring shit.

I’m trying to do this by getting girls to talk more about themselves since they all usually like to do that.

However, I’m struggling with how to do this without sounding like a therapist/interviewer.

Does anyone have any pointers or resources I can turn to?

@Desaint I like this in a club/bar/party context but I’ll need some semblance of real content in a quieter setting. Even with good body language and tonality.

@RedPirate751 I’ve read about this in models, I’ll reread that. Thanks

Unable to shake oneitis.

My ex who went cold on me and pushed me to leave her previously (twice) reached out to me by re-adding me on snap and asking how I have been.

I don’t want to think about her.

However, I keep thinking this is the hottest girl whose affections I have enjoyed for a sustained period of time. I haven’t been able to really retain the other hot girls in my sphere for a longer period and that’s fucking up my beliefs concerning her.

@TwoInchesOfShaft @Redpillray

It’s not about how hot she is or what she meant to you once in your life, it’s about your self respect and your own perceived worth.

See also: The sunk cost fallacy. These mistakes tripped me up a lot when I was young and naive.

@TwoInchesOfShaft This is correct. I have stopped responding to her and I can already see her trying to get my attention. Thank you, wise one.

@MentORPHEUS I am familiar with this through rollo’s books but you gave me a great reminder at the right time. Thank you.

Book recommendations on self confidence?

Let me preface this by saying, I apply myself everyday through action and feel my self-confidence rising as a result.

However, to streamline the improvement and actively engage better self confidence, the addition of a book might be helpful.

I read six principles of self esteem by Nathaniel branden and that was a game changer.

Now I’m looking for something to help me remove my self doubt to let my confidence shine through.

Any recommendations?

@Typo-MAGAshiv understood, thank you.

@Redpillray Woujo's book is superb.

www.amazon.com/transcending-tribe-conformity-insecurity-reliance/dp/173624860x