Agree and amplify isn't just for shit test. I've had great success using it for comfort test too.
My girl has a tendency to over react when things aren't quit going her way. I don't mean if I tell her no, I mean if she doesn't hit one note in her performance, forgets something for a trip or especially the meals she preps. Last nights she's "flipping out" over dinner before it's even finished.
The potatoes are trash they keep stick to the pan. Fuck. And the steak looks over cooked. Damnit Whittney. I know and the brocoli looks goofy. She continues on her rant while plating everything and as she hands it to me, I look at the plate, then in her eyes;
You're fucking right. This looks awful, should we just throw it out and order pizza?
My delivery is 100% serious but she knows I'm being sarcastic because she's lactose intolerant.
Almost instantly she goes on the defensive, Rude! You haven't even tried it. I told her neither have you. I didn't have to say the rest, she new i was referring to the rant I just listened to for the past ten minutes about how awful everything turned out, before she could even attempt to try the meal.
Dinner was fine. She even admitted besides the 10% of potatoes we lost to the pan, they turned out well. Steaks wasn't even close to over cooked. She ended up apologizing for being dramatic after the meal was concluded.
I just get so upset because I know I can do better.
I've found throughout the years, when your girl is being ridiculous, pretending to be absurdly ridiculous about the same issue, tends to put things into perspective pretty quick for them.
It can also put them on the defensive because, Hey, only I can critique the fuck out of myself. Either way the over abundance of my faux despair tends to cause enough of a jarring effect to break them out of their unnecessary tatrum.
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