Why would it seem rational for a person to try to eliminate or hide certain things about himself and try to become something different unless there was a significant compelling reason for him to do so?

I don't like this question to begin with as it's loaded: Why does it seem rational to hide things and become different unless there was a rational reason to do so? Am I interpreting the question wrong because there's no reason to hide/change who you are unless there is a reason. Maybe a not so compelling reason would require the individual to be ill informed or feel guilty over something that isn't shameful. They just possess a misconception.

Why do people try to change who they really are?

People change who they are for a handful of reasons but before I dive into that, most people don't change who they are when they see something they don't like, they go on suffering through it. Typically people change who they are once they've had enough. It takes the breaking down internally to foster change. What they're changing has caused issues in life, they're attempting to mitigate further problems stemming from that issue.

You get sick and tired of living life this way; either that encourages more self destruction to cope with living life this way or you start living life differently.

Chapter one left me scratching my head; maybe I am a nice guy after all? While I hold my doubts, the start of the book had me nodding my head along to the traits of the nice guys partner: never saying sorry is a huge mantra in my life. It is what it is.

As the chapter unraveled Glover started digging into traits and behaviors of a nice guy. Alot of what was listed is reminiscent of my first and last real relationship as against better judgment, following her advice because she had more experience with failed relationships, it ended toxic.

Though I stand hard on the fact I'm not a nice guy there are a lot of situations in life I let things go the other way because it's easier than upsetting the wave, though I've got no issue standing firm on core beliefs.

Another issue I seemingly share with nice guys is dating down, looking at people for their potential. Not just lovers but comrades as well.

Always thinking you can just work harder or do it myself tonget shit done.

All and all it has me wondering.

@neo_

It's weird this conversation comes up a day I spent looking in to supplements.

I am no doctor but I do suffer from a genetic disorder that deteriorates connective tissues, fucking with my joints and nerves.

To put things into perspective there was a point in my early 20s where I remember petting the dog, crying out of sheer pain with the refusal to let this take him from me. He was just staring at me awkwardly wondering why I was being such a bitch. The pain was similar to that of a bone scope the first night after surgery when the narcotics stop working in the middle of sleep.

TurmericX or something like that was a blend of Turmeric with 25 other helpful herbs: garlic, ginger, cherry.....idrk them all but that seemed to help tho a partner ended up giving it away to their mom as it caused itching. My mother (gave me this genetic issue) also take turmeric as recommended by her specialist along with a shit ton of other things that have been mentioned.

Honestly cutting carbs completely felt great. Though realistically it could have been cutting all that garbage like pastries, custard, I'm a fat ass. Eating a high meat low carb diet feels good on my body too. Low carbs basically being vegetable to help the protein down. Cutting grains, fructose, added sugar. Intermediate fast might have helped with this or maybe it's just easier to diet in one meal.

Ohh yahh cutting alcohol out definitely helped with that and I've heard similar from other people who suffer from anti-inflammatory diseases.

But the number one thing that helps combat issues for me is regular stretching. I believe it was you that mentioned greasing the glove?

Thats how I've been stretching since before my hip surgery and it has done wonders on the way I feel. Whenever I've got a minute and always after a workout. Normally right after I get up and before I got to bed. Just a little 10 minutes here. 5 there. Quick touch your toes then back to life.