2 years total, those 2 years was also my major self-improvement. No children, but I told her I need children in the future and she's compliant to having as many as I want.
The changes you say that she's made over the last two years. Was she already in the process of making them when your relationship formed, is she doing them because she believes they will make her a more appealing marriage prospect for you specifically, or has she voiced some other reasons for these changes?
@Durek_The_Bald I'm thankful for the indepth overview of human psychology. Now knowing that it's just part of their nature is going to help me rationalize it as a normal occurrence a lot easier.
@Durek_The_Bald She spun plates with several dudes before me. I am still currently spinning plates but Ik how to separate sex and feelings. I have a very wide range of sexual experiences so I understand basics of plates very well.
@carnold03 2 years total, those 2 years was also my major self-improvement. No children, but I told her I need children in the future and she's compliant to having as many as I want.
Ltr for 2 years, had I known what I do now I would've left. In the beginning she was a full modern feminist. But I was naive, scrawny and broke. I always had plates but it was very difficult.
Fast forward 2 years, I'm making 6 figures, molded my body into a Greek god, and have a strong network. Something else changed too, I transitioned her into a traditional house wife. My LTR now rejects all the notions of a modern feminist and regrets being one. I opened her eyes to realize how negative the modern feminist are. Fed her the truth of what it is to be a happy fulfilling women. It's not going around cc 50 guys and "finding yourself". It's valuing tradition and family.
Shes put in serious effort in becoming a traditional women for me. She reads books, goes to therapy, and devotes herself to YouTubers like JustPearlyThings. She has made a 180 in her life but I feel that it's not enough. I'd occasionally see her checking out guys when we're out. She complains sometimes as well. But she also cooks all my meals, cleans my house weekly, and does everything a house wife does. She craves sex and attention from me. She doesn't have girls night out or dresses like a 304. But she does have a past and I'm not sure if that affects her pair bonding. Conclusion. She's seriously devoted on changing herself for me. I can see the change. But I feel that it's too slow because she still checks out other men and has a past.
I'm curious of the red pill communities take on this.
I've two questions before I say anything. Have you been together for a total of 2 years, or 4 years? Do you currently have, or are expecting to have children together?
Read More@Newbie-Casanova Sounds like she's conducting herself pretty well especially with a past. Does not sound like red or even necessarily yellow flags based on what you presented.
There is specific brain hardware for detecting the direction nearby people are looking that works well out towards the periphery. Work on your awareness of her gaze when you appear to be looking most of the way away from her, this is info for reassurance orconcern as a minor side channel. Ultimately you want to be confident and comfortable in your own skin and not concerned with her minute by minute. This is a component of FRAME and a strong unreactive frame will dynamically affect a woman positively, where internal doubt and concern will come across VERY unattractive to her Lizard brain.
@MentORPHEUS when other guys hit on her, she rejects them. When Infront of me, she ignores them and looks to me. She's always open to allowing her phone to me. I guess in this dang age, its rare and super difficult to find a unicorn. As the grass may not always be greener on the other side, which I agree on. Do you think that this is a situation entirely up to me because it doesn't sound like there are any big red flags?
@Newbie-Casanova Like many situations, your metric here is "cheaper to keep and work on or replace and start over, maybe to come out better maybe not?"
The older you get the more used and contaminated the dating market will become for you. Other 20y younger girls won't pull as easily as this one you had some established interactions with so don't get out of calibration because of the one.
It's human to look at attractive people. Usually women are way better at keeping even sometimes unconscious body language discreet. Perhaps you should not try to improve the veneer she currently slaps over it, or even necessarily let her know when you notice.
Much more important is how she responds to outside attention. Does she gobble up flirting or does she demurr and give no positive feedback to it?
Read MoreLtr for 2 years, had I known what I do now I would've left. In the beginning she was a full modern feminist. But I was naive, scrawny and broke. I always had plates but it was very difficult.
Fast forward 2 years, I'm making 6 figures, molded my body into a Greek god, and have a strong network. Something else changed too, I transitioned her into a traditional house wife. My LTR now rejects all the notions of a modern feminist and regrets being one. I opened her eyes to realize how negative the modern feminist are. Fed her the truth of what it is to be a happy fulfilling women. It's not going around cc 50 guys and "finding yourself". It's valuing tradition and family.
Shes put in serious effort in becoming a traditional women for me. She reads books, goes to therapy, and devotes herself to YouTubers like JustPearlyThings. She has made a 180 in her life but I feel that it's not enough. I'd occasionally see her checking out guys when we're out. She complains sometimes as well. But she also cooks all my meals, cleans my house weekly, and does everything a house wife does. She craves sex and attention from me. She doesn't have girls night out or dresses like a 304. But she does have a past and I'm not sure if that affects her pair bonding. Conclusion. She's seriously devoted on changing herself for me. I can see the change. But I feel that it's too slow because she still checks out other men and has a past.
I'm curious of the red pill communities take on this.
Read MoreBeen in an LTR for about 1 year now. She has some redflags such as hissy fits, extreme jealously, shoved me once cause I ignored her IRL for being jealous, cries if I distant myself, and demands keep her updated throughout the day of where I am because she thinks I'll cheat.
But when she comes over, she cooks, cleans, folds my clothes and wants to fuck me all the time. She meal preps me daily.
When we get into disagreements I tell her if she keeps up the hissy fit(crying screaming banging on things) then she's gotta go.
Then she purposely went to see a therapist and is on meds because she wants to fix herself for me. She told me she wants to get better mentally so that she could stay with me.
I'm lost and confused. What do you guys think?
I think you should enjoy the coming Thanksgiving. Get the GF a modestly priced Christmas gift and card. Get a St. Valentines day card while you're at it. After Christmas celebrate new years with your friends. Then give yourself until March to decide if you should continue the relationship or break up based on any sustained improvements in her behavior with you.
Until then, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. If you've already found you'd like to read his book, save yourself a search and give this scribed link a gander.
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