Went On Date, She Talked Herself Into Wanting Me, How to Proceed?

I went on a second date with this girl. I was barely responding to questions and barely holding the conversation. She basically led the entire convo and kept saying I was making moves when I wasn’t. Kept saying I was pausing while eating to wait for her to finish, kept saying I was staring into her eyes, kept saying I was so sweet offering her food.

Eventually, we finish and I say we should go for a ride in my car. She was like “Are you even going to ask me if I’m comfortable with that?”. I told her “you’re already walking to my car, you know you want to come with me”.

We go some place secluded and she starts crying. She’s like “No hookup would ever treat me like this. My ex was trash and using me. My parents are trash. My job barely pays me”. I pulled her in and started playing with her tits because I didn’t really care about the trauma dump. She asked if I was really trying to be with her or just wanted to pump and dump. I said “I only focus on the present, we’ll see when we get there”. Cue a long make out session and feeling up her tits and ass.

I’m so madly confused because she literally talked herself into wanting me. I barely said anything and when I did, I was deflecting and giving vague answers.

I’m trying to figure out how to proceed. I know with all that baggage she’s 100% going to cheat. But now I feel really bad because I know the proper thing to do now would be ghost her until she contacts me again to make more plans. I feel this is right because she’s got a ton of baggage and she’s a hoe and she should be proving that she’s worth having around. But, morally, I really want to beta out and start providing.

I’m trying so hard to break this mindset because this is EXACTLY script by script what my ex did. She cried on my shoulder and trauma dumped and I went from barely texting her and only showing up to hook up with her to providing for her and talking about the future and shit.

How do I move forward without regressing?

@lalola0101

Hey guys, need some help, really appreciate any feedback.

Basically, I (25M) just broke up with my 5 year LTR (25F), who loved me like crazy and would always support me through all my lows including my worst points in physically (health), and even helping me financially when I had a huge problems with my business.

Recently, things have been going better for me, and I have become greedy in the sense that I started cheating with other girls including a really hot 9.5/10 girl. And because of this added with a busy schedule of work and trying to make more money, I just provided lesser and lesser time and attention to my girlfriend. This caused her to become extremely angry, lonely, sad and tired, leading to more arguments and basically her questioning the loss of passion and if I even still love her. Because of all this, I got extremely tired of maintaining the LTR and agreed to some of her viewpoints that we might be on different paths, leading to our breakup. (1 day ago)

After the breakup, I've gone no contact and immediately continued to bang the 9.5/10 chick, but I'm thinking if what I'm doing is beneficial to my life in general or not. Basically, I'm not sure I can train and guide another girl like how I've trained my 5 year LTR to be submissive and to be loving to me anymore. This is because I probably won't be having as much time as before, and I'm worried that letting my current LTR go might be a crucial mistake because I mostly value my career.

Some extra points:

• my LTR had been upset that I told her the truth straight up that I wouldn't able to marry her in the next 2 years
• I've actually known her since high school, but we got together 5 years ago, and I'm basically her first real boyfriend
• she's overall a joyful girl as long as I give her time and attention, has shown to be kind and appreciative towards me
• during arguments she becomes rather masculine and violent, which I have managed to tune down over the years. but still happens.
• she texted me one day after our breakup saying that "she thought she was worth fighting for" even though she was the one who kind of initiated the breakup, albeit I was the one who withdrew alot of attention for no reason due to work and side chicks.

Overall, I feel like I may have been at fault because I provided her with very little care and attention out of the blue after the increased workload and also the increased amount of side plates. And the recent 9.5/10 side plate may have made me more interested in banging her, leading to less attraction to my LTR. I believe I may have messed up, but I know I might be able to salvage the relationship easily by just meeting up with my LTR and bringing back a positive mood, as that usually works somehow. But I'm not sure what's the play here, and what's the most ideal scenario for me moving forward. (side note: my LTR has been busy with her own career, and is close to hitting the wall, not being as fit as before and slowly turning unattractive for me. I have lost alot of attraction and am not sure if I can regain it. However, I appreciate her that she's actually trying to work towards a future and to have a family and kids with me.

I'm so stuck and lost in what I want myself, and I really need some guidance from men in here who are just more experienced, because I really do not know what is the most optimal thing to do for my own good. Please help me to make a decision. Thanks in advance guys.

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Hey guys, need some help, really appreciate any feedback.

Basically, I (25M) just broke up with my 5 year LTR (25F), who loved me like crazy and would always support me through all my lows including my worst points in physically (health), and even helping me financially when I had a huge problems with my business.

Recently, things have been going better for me, and I have become greedy in the sense that I started cheating with other girls including a really hot 9.5/10 girl. And because of this added with a busy schedule of work and trying to make more money, I just provided lesser and lesser time and attention to my girlfriend. This caused her to become extremely angry, lonely, sad and tired, leading to more arguments and basically her questioning the loss of passion and if I even still love her. Because of all this, I got extremely tired of maintaining the LTR and agreed to some of her viewpoints that we might be on different paths, leading to our breakup. (1 day ago)

After the breakup, I've gone no contact and immediately continued to bang the 9.5/10 chick, but I'm thinking if what I'm doing is beneficial to my life in general or not. Basically, I'm not sure I can train and guide another girl like how I've trained my 5 year LTR to be submissive and to be loving to me anymore. This is because I probably won't be having as much time as before, and I'm worried that letting my current LTR go might be a crucial mistake because I mostly value my career.

Some extra points:

• my LTR had been upset that I told her the truth straight up that I wouldn't able to marry her in the next 2 years
• I've actually known her since high school, but we got together 5 years ago, and I'm basically her first real boyfriend
• she's overall a joyful girl as long as I give her time and attention, has shown to be kind and appreciative towards me
• during arguments she becomes rather masculine and violent, which I have managed to tune down over the years. but still happens.
• she texted me one day after our breakup saying that "she thought she was worth fighting for" even though she was the one who kind of initiated the breakup, albeit I was the one who withdrew alot of attention for no reason due to work and side chicks.

Overall, I feel like I may have been at fault because I provided her with very little care and attention out of the blue after the increased workload and also the increased amount of side plates. And the recent 9.5/10 side plate may have made me more interested in banging her, leading to less attraction to my LTR. I believe I may have messed up, but I know I might be able to salvage the relationship easily by just meeting up with my LTR and bringing back a positive mood, as that usually works somehow. But I'm not sure what's the play here, and what's the most ideal scenario for me moving forward. (side note: my LTR has been busy with her own career, and is close to hitting the wall, not being as fit as before and slowly turning unattractive for me. I have lost alot of attraction and am not sure if I can regain it. However, I appreciate her that she's actually trying to work towards a future and to have a family and kids with me.

I'm so stuck and lost in what I want myself, and I really need some guidance from men in here who are just more experienced, because I really do not know what is the most optimal thing to do for my own good. Please help me to make a decision. Thanks in advance guys.