@AnubiswithaDNR

I’m currently spinning 3 plates and i’m always looking over my shoulders when i’m out with one of them out of fear of being caught. It’s the first time to spin more than 2 plates at a time so i’m not sure how to manage it. I live in a moderately big city, however there’s always a slim possibility to come across someone you know.

Main plate is now asking for exclusivity and I didn’t give a clear answer but i denied my interest in other girls.

This is a new territory for me, so any advice or any link to read would be appreciated.

I've got to agree with @jprdl here, it doesn't strike me that you're spinning plates, but rather dating three different females. While this is without a doubt an admirable feat, from the anxiety it's inspired you to have, you're beginning to realize the challenge you've created for yourself. You've also made things potentially more complicated by lying to one regarding only dating her. When you lie, you create a work of fiction you've got to keep track of and who you told it to, which only amplifies the anxiety. Unless you fear for your safety don't do it. It undermines confidence as you'll eventually blunder, so stop. While you can omit information, lying isn't in your best interests.

Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.

The next time you're with the girl you lied to, if she or any other girl brings up exclusivity, jokingly tell her you don't know if the other women you're dating will be entirely ok with that. When she asks why you lied before, and she will ask, tell her that some women tend to get angry knowing that they've got competition, and that you didn't want to put that pressure on a girl.

There's no need for her, or any of them to know how many women you're ever actually dating or who they are. However, an interesting phenomena with females is that oftentimes they will work harder to win a man knowing they've got competition for him. In your situation, you claim to actually have it, so why lie about it if it can work in your favor?

You managed to get yourself into dating three women at once. Why lie to them? Why care if anyone of them leaves you if you're not interested or ready to be exclusive with any of them? Them departing frees up space to invite another. Why are you doubting your ability to attract another in such a situation now?