3w ago TheRedPill
@TulioHumanos When its call a "Sidewalk rule" I think that is the problem. Its not a rule in contemporary society.
My mother taught it to me as a rule from her mother's youth (Upper middle class no expectation to ever have a job) and said it was gentlemanly but old fashioned. It really made my mum happy when I used to do it as a boy walking beside her but she was old fashioned back then and her mother was born before the first war.
These days there are few rules, so don't expect any expectations. Some women would see this sort of thing as a hang over of the patriarchy and avoid you for doing it (clearly has a chip on the shoulder -next!). Some red pill men would say its horribly blue pill beta behaviour. The truth is it depends. You will have to read the individual woman.
My present lady for example loves it. I don't do it that much though because I feel "why beta out?" Unless you are acting grateful, why should I act all deferent as a sort of down payment? I would say that were you to see us walking that way at every turn of the road, we would be well in harmony that day and appreciating each other. However for courting her it was a useful thing but then we were both leaning the same way in trying to please the other.
I would take walking with a woman as a sort of free dance. You just have to try the odd thing and pick up on her cues. If she wants to be led it will be clear. Try opening a few doors, taking her hand across obstacles if in the outdoors. A touch of the hand on the small of the back should be all it takes to direct her. If that does not work, she is either not participating in the dance herself (and so not looking for the cue) or unwilling to be in the dance.
So I think if you are doing it right, it can't be aggressive. If you are gentle and waiting for her to take the cue, the worst that can happen with a fail is that you are a perfect gent and she is not interested. One fail in a walk is probably enough to tell you she is not interested unless she is clearly distracted by something.
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@Lionsmane8 At last some feminists doing something useful!
"Don't objectify me you facist" -When the left is winning.
"Look here are my tits" -When she wants to get noticed because the left are losing.
Yeah there is some red pill truth in here -that the extent to which she will happily whore herself out depends on her relative value and what she thinks she can gain.
3w ago TRP UK
@carnold03 When you are top dog it comes around buddy. 15th and 19th and 31st of August the Afghans have holidays for it. The 15th and the 31st are for celebrating their victory over the US, the 19th is for the one over Britain in 1919.
The take away from independence days is that you only need a small percentage of non sheep who won't take a government to overthrow it. The whole Angloshpere has rather higher than 1% taxes on everything these days and computer technology coupled to electronic money is making it easier and easier for liberal governments to keep us all taxed so they can spend on supporting the deadweight in our societies to remain incapable. Something needs to change some time. We need another 3 % who won't have it.
@Vermillion-Rx Oh dear, you lost frame and she must think you are too beta now. Maybe you could save yourself with a massive injection of alphaness and get her respect back. Regain frame and you regain the girl.
You need to put her in her place -on a dog lead even in front of the kids.
Make sure you make lots of disrespectful jokes about her.
Then spend a lot of time in the gym, come back and say "where's my protein snack bitch". Then once she has fried you a steak and a couple of eggs, give her her protein snack deep throat.
That sort of thing ought to help regain frame. Then she will be so obsessed with your alphaness that when she will follow you about like she was still on that dog lead looking at you for your next order or the hope of a biscuit and when she sees you looking at a hot girl she will say "I wonder if I can persuade her to do a threesome with us"
Read More1w ago The Hub
@Lionsmane8 I think the US is getting wound up to spring into some evolution or transition.
The one I really really hope does not happen is where big state takes more power and freedom from the people "To keep them safe"
Civil wars are not always bad if strong leaders emerge with strong armies. The US Civil war made the whole firearms industry leap forward in evolution -machine produced weapons that worked well and had effortlessly exchangeable parts-- and paved the way for the evolution of mechanised war. Still honestly at the moment civil war is not a very likely probability.
I think there is much to be afraid of in a collapse of the US. It opens possibilities. Those who initially exploit possibilities tend to be the worst sort. I happened over nearly all the old colonies when the US destroyed the european empires by controlling their debt. Those who came next tended to be rogues. At least then the US still oversaw things. Imperialist powers are selfish by nature but they tend to favour stability.
Its not a done deal that the US will fall into chaos but when it does, it may be for better and it may be for worse. Its not a done deal that good things will happen for the Islamic world. The Islamic world has got on fairly well with the us because quite a lot of Oil has been in Islamic hands the US rules by the lie that it makes people free, so it will tinker to buggery in other nations but it won't make a formal colony. This has left the Islamic world free and angry but that is better than being conquered and enslaved. It may well come to bit the US in the back one day. There is all to play for but a steady decline would play to the Islamic world a lot better than a collapse.
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@Lionsmane8 I didn't say the US did well there. That episode shows quite clearly the weaknesses of the US' model of governance.
What is very interesting about your wording is "illegal invasion" that is the world that western dominance has made -a world in which in theory invasion of a country is illegal. This is the thin rind of western prosperity and luxury that covers the world. The truth is that invasion of a country is just business as usual for any great power but the S rules through the narrative of freedom, so actually it is accepted now around the world that invading a country is wrong. Remove this acceptance and things get quite exciting again as tensions that have taken a century to build are released.
The US did badly in Iraq. They have no idea how to run an empire. They are like seagulls that fly in and crap on nations that they do not really understand but feel superior to and then fly off leaving angry people who would like to kill them all. Its the weakness in their model of so called "freedom" for the world. They don't do as conquering powers have done through history and build military camps and garrison colonies and stay and exploit the land, building a better model of life for the people there, that is gradually accepted over the generations -whether that is the Greeks, the Romans, the Islamic empire or the Anglosphere. The concept of colonisation is so unfashionable now that it is considered wicked -thanks to the narrative of so called freedom.
But what does this freedom really mean -getting shat on by the US if you step out of line and your land being kept as a second class citizen in the world unless it goes full retard and adopts the whole package of western morality and debt. No wonder Putin went to war. He saw he was never going to get a full share of that western "freedom" unless he surrendered his country's power and security.
I am not saying the world ruled by the west is paradise. I am saying that remove western power and you may get something worse. It would be better if the west evolved a little. The power model is still based on the world when they destroyed the European empires in the 50's and 60's. Things ain't what they used to be.
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@Vermillion-Rx I think the desire to do the thing you quit never really goes away. I still dream sometimes of big wall climbing. I still look at pictures of walls and trace lines. I still wonder if the new lines I spotted but never climbed are still unclimbed.
I quit climbing because it was taking all my energy and I had just started my business. I knew it was an activity that had become too important to me, that I was defining myself by and that was taking me down a rabbit hole to be a life long dirtbag. A dirtbag chasing the dream in your 20's is cool, in your 60's when you peaked long ago and are still addicted -its just sad. I wanted to give more of myself to my business and my then wife and family.
So I processed it as the loss of opportunity cost. The habit gave me some good self esteem, a reason to be fit and build character- but it was niche and going deeper into a niche is an opportunity cost. It was the right decision for me and it stuck. But I still dream of it. I still wonder if when I retire, I have enough spare money to renew a lot of very old gear, could I, would I head out somewhere high and lonely again?
Read More6d ago The Hub
@Jocbro I think its normal not to want to have sex with a woman who has been angry with you. Its very hard to re-instigate physical closeness when there is this invisible barrier around her that you made to protect yourself from being a massive simp that she can lash out at and then expect closeness and intimacy from.
Something needs to change to break the patterns. That is what I have found when it has happened to me. Either one has to agree an armistice (which is seldom easy with women as they don't argue rationally but on emotion most of the time) or one has to get her to a better state emotionally so she decides to stop (which feels like simping to someone who has mistreated you).
Do something different to try to make the deadlock break -go somewhere different with her, start some project with her, even leave her alone for a bit (on agreement) and then go out for a meal after or something.
Once you actually get your hands on her, if she is appreciative, it usually goes just fine from that point -desire and her enthusiastic compliance override your hurt feelings and her attitude is usually a lot better afterwards. Its getting yourself to put your hands on her that is the challenge. Acting in a positive and assertive way in another field can help. If you get her on side doing something else with you, it can seem OK to touch her again because she has been acting with you not against you.
Read More6d ago The Hub
I would add that I think some of the problem here is that women think they are the prize. You are supposed to be keen on them all the time and courting them to have sex. They think their job is just to say yes when courted properly. They don't think of themselves so much as the partner in a relationship as the object of the relationship.
They are vey bad at courting men. The best they can usually manage is "indication of openness to being courted"
This makes it hard in these situations and sometimes one has to suffer the indignity of putting your hands on her when she has not been at all deserving just to make her become more deserving of affection. A good hit of oxytocin does help her bond again.
5d ago The Hub
@Vermillion-Rx A lot of it really is a perspective thing. I was alone in my early 20's. A lonely virgin who had no idea how to use his time alone to do much more than climb rocks and mountains. Then in my late 20's I married. After divorce and various other unions, I have now spent decades of my life in a house with some woman of mine and some of my children (except for about a year after my first divorce where I got fit, got happy and had girlfriends).
Now I long to be alone again. To be able to go hunting for as long as it takes to get a deer or get fed up and return to no criticism, no request to drive somewhere or do something when tired. I long to spend the day working on a project in the garage or reading a book and feel no guilt, to go for a long run on Sunday morning and not have to be back in time to drive someone less than grateful to church. I long to go to bed early and rise early with no criticism, to cook and eat what I want and not be complained at by someone who regards cooking (aside from cleaning their only contribution) as a sacrifice. I can barely imagine being able to spend what I earned on myself without guilt or recrimination.
Now if I were to get that aloneness back, I don't think I would give it up for anything. I have had children with 4 women. I have had multiple relationships on the go at once. I know how to spin women up till they shine but I am not sure it gives me anything I really want in return for the considerable opportunity cost. It was all good but I also want to feel peace and self actualise.
Of course if I were lucky and got to be alone again, maybe I would end up a thirsty man looking for women again in a couple of years, I hope not but I can't be sure. So much is about perspective.
In your case, I think that now you have achieved the things you set out to in learning social skills and game, I think you can look at being alone more from a surplus point of view than from a fearful point of view. You are fasting not starving when you are alone. There is company and sex if you want it but you can also go look for more from life if you like.
Remember also that you are bound to feel the dip that we all feel after the big race, after you get that first in your finals, when we finish that big project, when the virgin summit is climbed, when your team has won the league. There is a hole in your life where there used to be motivation and you are tired after a long journey. Just be good to yourself and don't criticise yourself for resting. In the rest inspiration for the next goal will come. It will come when it comes, not if you try to force it.
Well done. You won and then you walked away from the table with your winnings.
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