Opening mixed groups males and females
I went to a music festival this weekend and had a few situations where I could tell girls were interested one even told me to “come here” while watching me dance. But she and a few others were in mixed groups with guys, and that’s where I freeze up.
Even if I feel the signal is clear, I start overthinking like, “What if one of the guys is her boyfriend?” or “Am I about to cause drama?” I don’t think it’s a looks or confidence issue in general. I’ve had girls approach me, dance with me, and compliment me. But the moment there’s a guy or two in their group, I get stuck and usually end up walking away.
How can I overcome this? What are some ways to approach confidently in these situations without overstepping or making it awkward?
My thoughts to answer my own question is - ask who you’re there with? Outcome independence or becoming friends with the guys in the group too.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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Read More4w ago TheRedPill
@Vermillion-Rx is there a guide of some sort to post? I don’t see how to post on asktrp I’m willing to answer my question too
1mo ago TheRedPill
I went to a music festival this weekend and had a few situations where I could tell girls were interested one even told me to “come here” while watching me dance. But she and a few others were in mixed groups with guys, and that’s where I freeze up.
Even if I feel the signal is clear, I start overthinking like, “What if one of the guys is her boyfriend?” or “Am I about to cause drama?” I don’t think it’s a looks or confidence issue in general. I’ve had girls approach me, dance with me, and compliment me. But the moment there’s a guy or two in their group, I get stuck and usually end up walking away.
How can I overcome this? What are some ways to approach confidently in these situations without overstepping or making it awkward?
1mo ago Ask TRP
I went to a music festival this weekend and had a few situations where I could tell girls were interested one even told me to “come here” while watching me dance. But she and a few others were in mixed groups with guys, and that’s where I freeze up.
Even if I feel the signal is clear, I start overthinking like, “What if one of the guys is her boyfriend?” or “Am I about to cause drama?” I don’t think it’s a looks or confidence issue in general. I’ve had girls approach me, dance with me, and compliment me. But the moment there’s a guy or two in their group, I get stuck and usually end up walking away.
How can I overcome this? What are some ways to approach confidently in these situations without overstepping or making it awkward?