@Vermillion-Rx same reply as before, minus the question about why you were posting it to weapons appreciation. I made a similar mistake yesterday, lol.

#ANYWAY...

You can drive yourself crazy with this sort of shit. Trust from a man to a woman has to be earned over time. Not days or weeks, but months and years.

I signed to my wife virtually every power of attorney imaginable so she could manage our affairs while I was in Iraq. I signed them all again 2 more times.

My only complaint was that she spent too much money, and to be fair, she has the same complaint about me.

How did I get to the point that I trusted her that much?

A) when we started getting serious, and I wanted to know more about her divorce, she was able to show me that everything she had said was true.

B) she had never once flaked on me, even when we weren't serious.

C) I kind of just got lucky. I was steeped in feminist brainwashing at the time (FFS, I asked her if she wanted to hyphenate her last name with mine, and to her credit she said no), and blundered my way through several things for years based on false premises. There will come a point where it's a leap of faith, so you have to be mentally prepared for the possibility of being betrayed (and even I knew that despite being steeped in feminist brainwashing back then).

But yeah, from what I recall seeing from you recently, and correct me if I'm wrong, but:

• you've only been with club/bar girls these past several months

• you expect too much, too fast, such as monogamy from them even when you tell them you aren't looking for anything serious

I mean, you're going to a slutty party venue, so you're almost certainly going to find nothing but slutty party girls. Yeah, most women are sluts anywhere you go, but a) there are degrees of severity of sluthood (serial monogamy vs. throwing her legs apart for a new dude several times a week), and b) outside of clubs/bars, your odds of finding a decent woman go from abysmal to just really low.

@Vermillion-Rx

why are you posting this in the weapons appreciation tribe?!

Anyway...

You can drive yourself crazy with this sort of shit. Trust from a man to a woman has to be earned over time. Not days or weeks, but months and years.

I signed to my wife virtually every power of attorney imaginable so she could manage our affairs while I was in Iraq. I signed them all again 2 more times.

My only complaint was that she spent too much money, and to be fair, she has the same complaint about me.

How did I get to the point that I trusted her that much?

A) when we started getting serious, and I wanted to know more about her divorce, she was able to show me that everything she had said was true.

B) she had never once flaked on me, even when we weren't serious.

C) I kind of just got lucky. I was steeped in feminist brainwashing at the time (FFS, I asked her if she wanted to hyphenate her last name with mine, and to her credit she said no), and blundered my way through several things for years based on false premises. There will come a point where it's a leap of faith, so you have to be mentally prepared for the possibility of being betrayed (and even I knew that despite being steeped in feminist brainwashing back then).

But yeah, from what I recall seeing from you recently, and correct me if I'm wrong, but:

• you've only been with club/bar girls these past several months

• you expect too much, too fast, such as monogamy from them even when you tell them you aren't looking for anything serious

I mean, you're going to a slutty party venue, so you're almost certainly going to find nothing but slutty party girls. Yeah, most women are sluts anywhere you go, but a) there are degrees of severity of sluthood (serial monogamy vs. throwing her legs apart for a new dude several times a week), and b) outside of clubs/bars, your odds of finding a decent woman go from abysmal to just really low.

So I’ve been talking to this girl for almost 2 months now. She’s an 8, and we have amazing sex she told me it’s the best she’s had in her life. She asks me to hangout with her every weekend since I’m busy during the week. I see her as potential LTR material even though I’m not pushing for one.

Yesterday we hung out and I had asked her how often does she get STD checked? This is because obviously if we are having raw sex I want to know. I had recently got checked myself and was fine but naturally I always assume that girls are talking to or fucking other guys. She told me she only does it every time she has a new partner. So I said you’ve been checked since you been with me? And she said no. I told her that I had, and the conversation came up of being exclusive.

She asked me am I fucking other girls? And she kept pushing me for an answer to which I answered honestly and said no but I keep my options open. She got all upset and told me that I’m the only guy she’s been seeing and she had already cut off everyone else because she wants me. She told me she wants to be exclusive and that if I’m gonna fuck other girls even with a condom she doesn’t feel comfortable with that. I told her I like the trend we had been on and we should keep seeing each other but I don’t want to rush into a relationship we need to know each other on a deeper level, so maybe if we hit 3/4 months of dating I’ll consider a relationship. But I don’t want this girl to fuck other guys if I’m fucking her raw for my health and the fact that I do like her.

But ultimately I agreed to date her and us be sexually exclusive without being in a relationship. This honestly sounds bad writing it out, but how can I bounce back from this? I feel like this probably is an attraction killer the fact that she thinks I’m all hers or something, yet I did say I still talk to other girls. What do you guys reccomend I do, just withdraw attention to show I can pull away?