@NeoSpartan I didn't know who Patrick Bateman was. Now I know why: I haven't watched that movie.
Interesting point. I'll have the chance over the weekend to be around virtually the same group of people. I'll try focusing more on myself instead of 50% on me and 50% on them. I'm not sure if he'd lie about them, but he was quite drunk (at one point he was telling how some guy was smart and 5-10 mins later he'd tell me that he's stupid). I'm try to be more self-centered and with them in particular more of a shutin. But as a general rule I'll tell the dude that I won't be joining any future group events that they're having. :)
Thanks for the time and effort NeoSpartan. I'll keep you posted, if you're interested how this turns out.
A very fair point Neo. But I honestly do that with absolutely everyone when I meet them for the first time and usually every consecutive time we meet: I check how they're dressed, skin tone (pale, red, sweaty, oily, etc), hair, body language, tone and speed of talking, topics they approach, their general mood, their particular mood in relation to a certain topic, etc. etc etc. I try to gauge the SMV of guys also to get a sense of group dynamics (why is the group formed, what gives the group cohesion, etc.), my standing, the IQ of each individual and the group (is it worth it to start an actual intellectual conversation or am I just gonna space out and drink and maybe meditate as I stare at nothing?).
Also, it takes a certain degree of idiocy and ineptitude to try and hit of 3 girls that are next to you, next to eachother, and next to their respective boyfriends all in the same night. Even if I was crazy horny I wouldn't try to do it in those circumstances.Read More
Hah; I didn't know that joke. But now that you've told it to me I find a story about a friend of a friend which is VERY similar to this joke a lot less believable. :)
That's the issue. As I was pointing out in my post: I had no game in mind. Sure some were decent and some were hot, but the only girl that I had in mind to game that night was the one I was eyeing from afar and waiting on her to come chat with me. With the others it was literally just chatting and me paying attention to see what common topics I could discuss with each of them. I wasn't imagining I'd fuck them, I did no kino, no subtle sexual innuendos, absolutely NOTHING beyond what I described in my post.
I don't mind social interactions; I'm not trying to be a shut-in monk. I can't just ignore everyone at the party. Or are you implying that I do this only with those girls? Even in the second case, wouldn't it make more sense to somehow be dodgy as to imply that I'm avoiding them, so that they put 1 (their behaviour) and 1 (my attitude) together? Or should I be more open about it: be monosyllabic and if they ask if something's wrong, I'll just say "well, last time that we talked it seems you didn't enjoy it as much"?
Far from it stranger. The group is really mellow, most people there being really "soft and passive". At some point I was actually listening to see what made of the people there laugh: some story about one of them being drunk, fumbling about and not able to recall what they said. So yeah, I don't see a gangbang anywhere in the near future. :)Read More
@Dr_Cockasaurus Thanks for the hasty reply Dr. !
That makes sense in a way since I was one of the fittest dudes there; but even so: "Girls do this thing that if your an attractive guy and they know they can't have you they'll hate you and try to ruin you." -> why would a girl do that? If I like a chick and can't have her, I think of a way of having her or just resign myself to the current situation and do a combination of moving on + waiting for a future opportunity.
How should I make sure that this doesn't happen again? I can't bail on the cabin trip since I already talked to a chick so that we go there together and I really like and respect this girl enough that I won't just let her go to the cabin alone (she's from outside the group and I'm "the middle man"). Also these girls will be there: I was thinking of straight up ignoring/ ghosting them by giving monosyllabic answers and try to exit all conversations with them.Read More
Can someone help me elucidate a situation? (sorry if this shouldn't be posted here, but I can't seem to post to reddit r/asktrp and dunno where else to post)
I went to a friend's bday party about a month ago. There were many couples there and one girl that was alone since her bf was at home due to Covid quarantine. The party heats up, people start chatting eachother and I end up talking with 3 girls that were there with their boyfriends next to them: 1). girl A: a dentist surgeon that is dressed casual but has some expensive jewelry. (She's a 7/10; could lose some weight and work out) 2). girl B: a car parts designer (she models 3D designs for certain parts) that looks (and kinda acts) like your average multinational corporate drone. (6/10) 3). girl C: my friend's (the host) girlfriend which is a construction architect and interior designer. (~8/10, needs some workout but very beautifun nonetheless)
To sum up the night: I talk to girl A about...dentistry and some of the latest innovations in that field and if her higher status job affects the way she views people; with girl B I talk about her job and a company we both worked in, then about her passion (to which she elaborated about astronomy and how she visited a planetarium); with girl C I talked about her boyfriend, her work, about what she wants in life, luck vs determinism and a few spiritual concepts. I also eye fucked the girl that was solo (since her bf was home) a few times since she's a 10/10 for me and I wouldn't have minded if she'd be drunk later on and try to chat (which would eventually lead to us fucking) -> didn't happen; we never chatted and I did my best to try and not look at her after awhile.
Keep in mind that this is a small party: ~12 people total and we're all huddled around a table most of the time, while some people go outside to smoke. Given the setting and that I'm good friends with the host, I didn't think of hooking up with anyone at the party (except for the solo girl).
The night ends, I sparingly meet the dude, his gf and some of the guys from the party here and there and we're up to today (one month later). Last night I go at his place for a drink; I arrive and notice he's already downed a bottle of wine (and possibly more), so he's in a cheerful mood. The night moves forward as we drink, and at one point while he was drunk we started discussing a cabin party that he's organising this weekend. He starts telling me how the three girls I mentioned above all asked about me specifically and if I'm coming to the cabin. All three mentioned in some way that I'm a sleazy guy that kept hitting on them during his birthday party and how they were displeased to hear I'm coming to the cabin. He also mentions that he's forgiven me for hitting on his girlfriend at his birthday party. My mind races as I recall all of the events and I'm 100% sure I wasn't drunk or trying to hit on any of them: I tried no kino (maybe I poked the leg of his girlfriend once or twice to grab her attention and point something out), I didn't move closer to any of them during conversation, I wasn't trying to be funny, I didn't start any sexual topics, I wasn't eye fucking them (except the fourth girl).
So, what gives?! Is there a particular reason why all girls I talked to at the party think I'm a sleazy guy that hit on them? How would it even make any sense since I'm literally half a meter away from each of them and 1 meter away from their boyfriends?Read More