@deeplydisturbed This seems like a very male fantasy actually. The woman he loves tells him what she wants from him, and when he does it she is impressed and takes him back.

This is what men want romance to be like. If I just jump through enough hoops, eventually she will be impressed and love me the way I love her.

In reality, "I will do whatever you tell me", even if true, is usually not attractive to women, and jumping through hoops is no guarantee she won't simply go for another man. Such a mindset simply turns you into a people pleaser whose fate is to be used up and discarded.