I fucked up, lost frame. How do I recover.

I’ve been seeing this girl for about 3 months, and we’re probably somewhere between FWB and pseudo-together. We’re 21. She’s usually really submissive, which I like because I’m learning how to become more dominant/alpha with women and in general.

It’s safe to say I have oneitis, which hasn’t affected the relationship until todays fuck up.

I normally fuck her brains out, but I’ve been getting a little miffed recently about the fact that I always initiate.

She came over the night before last, I was super tired from the week so we went straight to sleep and fucked in the morning. I wanted her to initiate so I just laid in bed, but she eventually just went on her phone. I was admittedly butthurt but I didn’t show it, got up and went downstairs for a while to do something else. Came back in half an hour later and she had changed into my favourite panties of hers and got on top of me, we fucked.

Then last night she was coming back from a party drunk and called me, asking me to come over, I was down. She called my Uber (we live 10 minutes away from each other), I came over, she heavily initiated, we fucked. The next morning we were fucking and I started licking her ass.

Side note for context:

<< She’s always been really squeamish about anything to do with her ass, which pisses me off because she told me she’s done anal, although she felt pressured. At the time I thought that was her hamstering an excuse to not come off as a slut, but now I’m thinking she really did have some kind of bad experience >>

So pretty much instantly she started squirming away and saying stop, I thought this was just ASD fake resistance, so I kept trying to eat her ass out for another couple of seconds before she said “I don’t feel like it anymore”.

Here’s where I fucked up. I couldn't help but think back to her telling me she’d done anal before, so I got instantly butthurt, thinking ‘she’s done anal with a guy before me but she won’t even submit to letting me eat her ass? She doesn’t respect me enough’. I called an Uber, got dressed and left. She was asking me if I was upset but I just said I had things to do.

I realise now that if she did have a bad previous experience and that’s why she was skittish, then I was just a plain douche, and also probably came off butthurt as fuck.

She sent me a big text about how she deserves better and she won’t put up with being treated like that without even a conversation. I said I’ll meet her later today, she clearly has the power now.

What the fuck do I do to fix this. What do I say when I go see her later? I’m thinking I should apologise for being an asshole, but I don’t want her to lose any more attraction than she probably already has, or further fuck up the power dynamic (if it isn’t over with this girl already)

Help me bros